do not interact before you follow

do not

[dnibyf]

You know for the longest time I didn't get that your blog title "do not interact before you follow" is supposed to refer to dnis and byfs separately so I interpreted it as "If you're not following me then don't interact"

You have to follow before interacting, indeed. But it’s just what my url means spelled out: dnibyf.

Even if it was backwards, “before you follow do not interact”? Means the same thing: byfdni.

It’s like a palindrome or something...

[dnibyf]

Since Twitter’s falling apart, I’ve been exploring new social medias. I happened to stumble on the tumblr branch of the newgrounds community. Exciting, no?

It’s a shame I see a handful of active people with DNIs like the one above. Where the idea of “being problematic” is a deal breaker, with no real defining traits to where “problematic” lies. In this one, it uses proship as their only example. Which can range from unacceptable artform to refusing to agree, maybe?

Wait until they realize Tankmen is a joke about soliders dying! That’s pretty problematic.

[dnibyf]

Is this blog dead? 😭

Kind of? No new DNIs I've seen lately haven't really irked me enough to make a post about it. If there's something worth talking about, I already said it in a previous post.

So...yeah, I am kind of in this death loop for content. I hope any followers (and new ones) understand </3

[dnibyf]

Being away from Tumblr/Twt for a while, I'm very confused on what "DNI" even means. Do I have to check the bios of every single person while scrolling before hitting the like button? Or it's just for communication? Is it safe to like from an account without the specific warning?

To start, DNI means "Do Not Interact"

it's a list of people who the OP doesn't like, such as people who are bigoted, but it can be as specific as people who ship a fictional pairing or have a specific aesthetic they enjoy.

Certainly, it may be more important to the person with the DNI if you're having a direct conversation with them, out of fear of you "corrupting" them by chatting. Some may even think you're "tainting" their posts by putting it on your blog or liking it. It's a highly contextual and social thing, so the best way to answer is "depends on the person with the DNI".

As for the last question, I'm not sure what the angle is there.

If you mean if you want to like a post you would use a blog that doesn't allude to anything on the DNI, well, do that if you like. They don't know you!

If you mean trying to fish for a version of a post without the user's DNI on it, I think that's fair to a point, because if you want to reblog a huuuge thread with several people who may have a DNI, it's a lost cause. The human brain can't work with that many layers, and my personal opinion is that the effort of being avoided should be absolved by the person with the DNI. Though, if you mean trying to just reblog from someone who doesn't have a DNI, even I do that! No one even looks at who you reblog from most of the time, and if you just want to avoid being in their notes, that's the best option.

[dnibyf]

im a totally new anon but i lowkey really wanna see that punnett square abt incest shipping u threatened(/j) to make that one anon 2 months ago and also have a nice day!!!

It would have looked something like this:

I really think the problem lies in the anon’s grammar. “It’s not like it’s involuntary” is the most confusing sentence I’ve read in my life.

If I take the negatives out: “it’s like it’s voluntary”

If I break the world “involuntary” down into a simpler meaning:

“It’s not like it’s [not controllable]”

And if I do both:

“It’s like it’s [controllable]”

At that point I’m thinking anon tied their own tongue trying to make a deeper point, but failed by trying to sound fancy. Luckily the first sentence they wrote exists, so I rewired their second sentence. I’m pretty sure it was supposed to be:

“It’s not like it’s voluntary”

[dnibyf]

Could you explain which instances/characters you're referencing with the Genshin Impact banner post? I've played a fair bit of the game yet I've not stumbled across those so I'm a bit curious.

Sure!

Pedophile: I was mainly talking about Ulfr. He talks about building a boat for Flora, which is a character with a child model. I’m pretty sure Flora is a child...Ella Musk makes me second guess it sometimes. I’ve also got my eyes on Lisa, but that’s just a headcanon.

Rotting Corpse: This I found on a signpost in Liyue. It has a long list of random things going on, and one of them mentions someone killed themselves by drowning in the water, and the sign says “don’t use the water or we’ll arrest you” basically. It’s apparently related to a random commission you can get, but I haven’t gotten it.

“Maybe she’s a prostitute but we don’t know”: That would be Ying’er. She’s involved in a few quests, and her dialogue is exclusively double entendres. Even if she’s not a prostitute, you can’t deny the words she uses are purposefully written to be taken that way.

I hope this helps clear things up.

[dnibyf]

🆑I just can’t take this banner seriously, just because Genshin Impact (the game of the characters being used) has pedophiles who are not shamed or reprimanded for their attraction, rotting corpses ruining the water supply of the largest commercial epicenter in the game, and an entire character whose running joke is “we don’t know if she’s a prostitute or not, she just sounds horny all the time.”

You want other users who play the game to have blogs that are safe for minors when all that is related to what they like? It just seems like an ingenuine way to be a fan, but I’m sure there are fans who assert they can follow this.

❔But there is another perspective: what is OP’s definition of “safe for minors”? Is it just not posting lewd content, like smut or thirst posts about characters (aka, focusing only on sex again)? Is it anything that a kid’s TV show won’t delve into or explicitly show? Or, is it as far as ignoring everything bad in this game to keep a front of a fluffy fannish haven? It can also be a gradient of all my guesses.

🚸There’s also another question of “unsafe” which would imply that anything OP would list as unsafe is dangerous and harmful to minors. There’s not a lot of things that any casual tumblr blogger can post that can directly, immediately be a danger or harm anyone, let alone a minor. I’ll blame it on simple and exaggerated language for the size of the banner.

❇I’d even say the visual design of the banner is perfect, but it comes with a price: trading clear language for readable font size. I could read it when this was half the size you see now, which is what drew my attention to it after all. That can be commendable.

[dnibyf]

Really despising this trend of "ageless bios" popping up in dnis. Like, I understand wanting to keep minors away from your blog, I do (general you thru-out ask). But I have to keep my specific age out of my bio for personal safety reasons. Because it is a matter of safety whether my 'family' finds my blog or not, and I can't help but act too much like myself so plastering my blog with such specific personal info would be a dead ringer.

And some ppl act like having no age in your bio makes you a monster! Or like somehow you're obviously simultaneously an adult predator AND a minor trying to sneak into adult spaces. All simply for not wanting to freely hand out personal information to all the strangers on the internet. I'm just trying to enjoy fandom without it causing me to become homeless, thnx. And there are myriad other valid reasons ppl might have, including simply "it's nobody's business". Like, do whatever you gotta do about running your blog. If my anonymity makes you that uncomfy, block me, go ahead. But you don't have to be rude about it?

And don't act like displaying your age online makes you safer when in most (if not all) cases the opposite is reality. Who taught these folks stranger danger, and who taught their teachers how to teach? Specific ages in bios should NOT be normalized nor policed, heck!

[dnibyf]

For once, this DNI is actually good...in a tumblr kind of way.

While it’s got the list of really extreme ideologies that include people who tend to actually violate DNIs on purpose, the second bullet is a dedicated “disclaimer” that tells the reader that this list not a checklist in any way to see if you can interact with them. 

An improvement I’d ask for is to cut down on the words. That’s two whole paragraphs in bullet points. Another is to not include the vulnerability about the list of ideologies upsetting you. That’s just a...great way to put a target on your back, in my personal opinion.

[dnibyf]

You should check @bad-dnis!

Oh, thanks for the rec! Now, I never considered the flaw in banners that say to check their DNI/carrd/pinned post/bio etc. It is extra steps you’re banking on someone to follow, but heck, an average user can’t even find the search bar of a webpage if it wasn’t in the exact same spot every time on every other website.

The only ppl who like to play scavenger hunts online at the drop of a hat are ARG enthusiasts and Reddit users, and even then those usually overlap on a Venn Diagram.

[dnibyf]

DNI has become a meme, check the tag

I have noticed this very very sudden uptick in the “oddly specific DNI” wall of text copypasta-type meme? Yeah, I guess I can describe it that way!

I made one myself on my main, in fact! I used a mixture of things that I do and don’t do, so it’s a bit paradoxical, but the formula doesn’t rly entail that the list has to actually be things you don’t do. As long as they’re oddly specific, that should be enough!

Will this result in DNI validity taking a hit? Or will it only strengthen it through awareness alone? We’ll see.

[dnibyf]

I went to #dni and it’s as normal as ever.

However, ‘#dni meme’ is where you wanna be for nonstop walls of text! Ta-Da!

[augusthellion]

If you're shipping minors: die

[dnibyf]

How not to DNI 101:

Using verbal aggressiveness decreases your credibility and causes your audience to build up emotional walls to your messages! You will not get the intended results that way.

[dnibyf]

DNI has become a meme, check the tag

I have noticed this very very sudden uptick in the “oddly specific DNI” wall of text copypasta-type meme? Yeah, I guess I can describe it that way!

I made one myself on my main, in fact! I used a mixture of things that I do and don’t do, so it’s a bit paradoxical, but the formula doesn’t rly entail that the list has to actually be things you don’t do. As long as they’re oddly specific, that should be enough!

Will this result in DNI validity taking a hit? Or will it only strengthen it through awareness alone? We’ll see.

[dnibyf]

if you didnt support incest why would you ship it? it's not like its involuntary

I had to read this a few times but, are you assuming that incest itself, like, the committing of incestuous acts, is equal to shipping family members?

Noooo, first let’s rewire how you think about these things: they’re mutually exclusive things! Get back to me later when you understand that!

[chidorinnnnn]

oh hey, someone put that thing i was mad about yesterday into words!

[dnibyf]

I couldn't agree more with OP here.

[dnibyf]

Idea for the previous anon asking about a professional DNI: my suggestion is to have a disclaimer along the lines of "I will decline to work with anyone whose goals/behaviors conflict with my principles." Not a DNI, and it's deliberately vague, but it creates something to point to when declining a commission, etc. They could make it more specific by stating their principles, i.e. "my principles: anti-racism, gender equality, etc." Setting a boundary rather than giving a command.

(Tbf, the legalese I'm pulling from has a not so nice history involving people *cough, homophobes, cough* whose principles conflict with mine, but I'm all for stealing their toys for the purpose of running them off my lawn in return.)

I like that idea. It’s weird how “extremely vague” is considered more polite, though. Probably because is has less risk of directly targeting the reader.

I hope the other anon sees this!

[dnibyf]

Hello, just found your blog and I'm happy I'm not the only one who has criticisms on about the "DNI" lists. I just wanna ask is there a best way to make a "DNI" list? I'm making one myself, that's has an explainations and examples, I'm just not sure if it'll be too much. And another, I'm mostly worried with it being appropriate with a professional business website, for commissions and another for graphic novels. Should it be called something else that DNI?Thank you! -- ★A★

I’ve never known DNIs to be used in a professional context, only in a social media context. If you can pull it off in a professional way, shoot your shot!

The only thing I can say so far for sure that might help you is that when making the DNI, you should remove emotional language from it. Buzzwords and a casual tone really lower sincerity, and since it’s for a professional context, even credibility.

I also have a hypothesis that the longer a DNI is, the less inclined that ANYONE would want to talk to you, on the DNI or not; but based on my observations, I’ve got nothing solid. If you think there’s a justifiable reason for the average person to read something of the length you’ve written, try it?