On top of the commentary provided above, here we go:
1) A woman saying she has a boyfriend as a way to avoid being pressured to give out personal information to a stranger who has approached her when she is quite obviously busy.
2) A man watches a woman for several minutes, records her without her knowledge, has a friend approach her to determine her relationship status, approaches her, talks to her, and (more than likely) LIES about what he’s studying, then immediately suggests she give him her personal information, time, and that they go somewhere alone. All so he can prove some “point” about women to justify his own fucking misogyny.
Because one of these is a person trying to extract themselves from an unwanted situation as delicately as possible for both parties involved, while the other is essentially stalking, lying in order to gain trust, and recording someone without their permission.
DId she lie about having a boyfriend? Yes. Of course she did. In a society where it’s common for men to either not take no for an answer, or to react in a threatening or violent manner to rejection, pleading “boyfriend” is the safest route in most situations, because men are more likely to take that as a “legitimate” no. And to be perfectly frank, this lie isn’t hurting anyone, so acting like it’s some huge betrayal of an unwanted stranger’s trust is the purest essence of douchebaggery.
The fucker of all of this? Pleading boyfriend doesn’t work all the time. Pointing to my wedding ring and saying I was married didn’t work on a random guy on a bus to stop hitting on me, or suggest we go get drinks together. He wouldn’t stop harrassing me (in a way he thought was charming, I’m sure) until I got off the bus, three stops early in a city I didn’t know. I did that for no other reason than to get away from him, and once I felt I was a safe distance away, I just leaned against a wall and cried. The part is, that guy is far from the only one to disregard me saying no when I’ve said I’m married, unless my husband is actually there.
That level of disregard is terrifying. These men don’t respect your personal space, then they don’t accept no in any form. Why the hell wouldn’t anyone do whatever they could to get out of this situation as quickly and quietly as possible?
Fuck this guy and his entitlement. If you think he has some grand fucking point about women being terrible liars, then fuck you too.
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