I'll be there when it all gets weird

Cassandra. Full Non-functional Adult, Central FL. Full time artist with few talents. Lacks Motivation and social skills. I'll either be super nice, or a total cunt.

[monsterboyjunction]

Saw a post and decided to fix it ^^

[liivn]

By Heather Skelter

[blckgirlacid]

I need my weird alone time or I will explode

[legallybrunettedotcom]

ever since i learned abt the concept of networking i knew i was going to have to do everything alone and do it the hard way

[legallybrunettedotcom]

i believe i can do everything in this life except feign interest and suck up to people

[fancygermancar]

”pdf file” “unalived” “grape” “corn” what if i killed myself right here right now

[fancygermancar]

imagine you read the local newspaper and in the section where they discuss a recent murder they describe it as “young adult unalived by serial game ender”. like you’re a toddler surrounded by adults who need to watch their language around you. you’re sanitizing and cutting down gruesome, horrific actions and situations into digestible baby words. i know this has been said before by other people but i’m so so sick of it dude, don’t speak advertiser language to me.

[twerklina]

Vintage Valentine’s Day Cards

[invisiblebard]

[autumngracy]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

I can't believe I've seen that penguins meme I made last year on at least three big posts now, possibly making it my most impactful contribution to this website

[sewercentipede]

reading the wiki for the american psycho movie every single thing it’s saying about christian bale has me in tears …….. he literally wanted the role so bad he got that buff in two weeks, rejected every other offer for 9 months while the producers tried to get dicaprio to be patrick bateman bc bale knew dicaprio would chicken out, went to dinner with the director and the guy who wrote the novel IN CHARACTER apparently scaring the shit out of the novelist, took the role for $50k, and then made all his costars think he was a giant freak bc he never fucking broke character, and APARENTLY LITERALLY HAS CONTROL OVER HIS SWEAT GLANDS AND USED THIS IN THE BUSINESS CARD SCENE

[sewercentipede]

ok thanks for the info wiki

[fuckboysecurityllc]

Hey Paul!

[vevader3]

It brings me comfort that, for a brief moment, Jared Leto genuinely believed Christian Bale was going to kill him with an axe

[glowcowboy]

without arts & crafts we are in hell

[victusinveritas]

Dogs have had many jobs throughout history, in this case: Revenge.

[tonysaintborgi]

love how the king was just like nah let's see where the dog is going with this

[deepwang27]

[nyxshadowhawk]

Weird Medieval Marginalia

So I got to see an epically cool manuscript of Arthurian romance (Beinecke MS 229), written in French sometime in the thirteenth or fourteenth century. It contains many fully illuminated illustrations, but the most interesting thing about it turned out to be the marginalia.

All the big images were the same kinds of scenes of knights fighting, people going into or out of buildings, people lying in bed, occasionally people on boats or talking, etc. After a while they just felt repetitive. But there are these little cartoons in the margins, and they are WILD:

I mean I don’t even know what’s going on here.

Apparently knights fighting snails appear in a lot of manuscripts. We have no idea what they mean. Might be the medieval version of a meme.

What even is that gray thing?

Knight riding chicken.

Derpy horse.

A very weird-looking unicorn.

Rabbits hunting people. (RUN AWAY!!! RUN AWAY!!!)

Balancing act.

Baby Yoda in the corner there.

WHAT

There’s plenty more, but that’s as much as I can fit into one post. And this is all one manuscript!

[74891273984782937]

moodboard for cute girls 🤩

[razpurrtin]

[therenobee]

"Holy crap, life is so friggin' beautiful."

[intercal]

getting the urge for cigarettes again but I know as soon as I buy some and smoke one I will say "yuck" and not want to finish it. and then I'll force myself to finish it and I'll be dizzy and stinky and nauseous. but I still want one

[doped-up-dollie]

I’ve never related to anything so much in my life

[sandersstudies]

I stg I could come on here and be like “everyone should try to be nice” and somebody I the notes would be like op you don’t understand I have Terminal Meanie Disorder and this hurt my feelings 🥺

[sandersstudies]

“Op is a misogynist because they haven’t considered the societal pressure to be nice that’s disproportionately placed on women.”

[sandersstudies]

“So we should be nice to BAD PEOPLE? We should be nice to NAZIS and let them do whatever they want?”

[sandersstudies]

“Haha what a funny exaggerated post”

I could tag the people who put identical responses to these on my posts but I’d be drawn and quartered.

[sandersstudies]

It’s not bad reading comprehension anymore it’s bad faith.

[amaditalks]

One of the most important things to unpack and unlearn when you’re part of a white supremacy saturated society (i.e. the global north) and especially if you were raised in an intensified form of it (evangelicism, right wing politics, explicit racism) is the urge to punish and take revenge.

It manifests in our lives all the time and it is inherently destructive. It makes relationships and interactions adversarial for no good reason. It undermines cooperation and good civic order. It worsens some types of crime. It creates trauma, especially in children.

Imagine approaching unexpected or unacceptable behavior from a perspective of "how can this be stopped, and prevented" instead of "you’re going to regret this!”

Imagine dealing with a problem or conflict from the perspective of “how can this be solved in a way that is just and restorative” instead of “the people who caused this are going to pay.”

How much would that change you? How much would that have changed for you?

[oldearthaccretionist]

Please.

[autumn-clover]

[cumaeansibyl]

OP: Imagine approaching unexpected or unacceptable behavior from a perspective of "how can this be stopped, and prevented" instead of "you’re going to regret this!” [emphasis mine]

Punishment enthusiasts in the notes: "so you're saying we should never stop anyone from doing bad things? and we should just sing Kum Ba Ya until they stop being mean? you're an idiot and you should be punished, probably"

contemplate, for a moment, that you just might be able to stop someone from harming people while also taking care to minimize the harm you do to them

and if you don't think you should have to worry about that: why not?

[porcupine-girl]

I teach Intro to Psych, and I’m lecturing on operant conditioning next week. I always tell my students this story:

When I took this class, lo these many years ago, I remember thinking, if punishment doesn’t work very well on animals (because it doesn’t), why does it work on humans? Specifically at the time I was thinking about spanking kids, which I had grown up with as normal parenting behavior in the 80s, but also punishment in general.

And it wasn’t until years later that I realized that the answer is - IT DOESN’T. And research absolutely backs that up.

Punishment is one of the least effective ways of changing behavior in humans, too! The behavior change you do sometimes get is people trying to avoid punishment, but that doesn’t mean stopping the behavior you punished - it often means just finding ways to do it that are less likely to get you caught. Lying, hiding things, being sneakier about it. And that’s when you get any change at all.

Spanking, of course, has whole other issues - namely that it turns out children learn by watching others, not simple conditioning, so spanking them makes them more likely to be violent themselves.

Look, the behaviorists were wrong in that they thought conditioning was the be-all end-all of learning, when in fact life and psychology are far, far more complicated and messy than that - but even they knew that punishment isn’t nearly as effective as rewards. (Neither is as effective as addressing the underlying motivation behind the behavior, which they wanted to ignore entirely, but even they knew this much.)

If you’re telling yourself that your desire to punish people is rooted in wanting to change their behavior, please accept what decades of science has told us: IT DOESN’T.