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[secretblackwoman]

“Your babies are going to be so cute.”

That’s not much of a compliment. They’re all cute, that’s kind of what babies do best.

[dynamoxie]

So many notes!

[profeminist]

Source

[micdotcom]

Watch: Poet G Yamazawa nails what it’s like to grow up in the U.S. as the child of immigrants.

[dynamoxie]

I think I saw this guy IRL like 2-3 years ago.

[itrhymeswithalayne]

people have no idea what its like to be 14 and have everyone telling you that you’re faking and pretending to be ill for attention or to skip art class and the doctor’s telling you you’re ‘just being a teenager’ when you actually had a serious kidney disease

if someone hadn’t eventually listened to me i would have died

Please, please support self-diagnosed teenagers, don’t pretend they’re not really disabled, don’t belittle or mock them, don’t exclude them from disabled spaces and for the love of god don’t pretend you know more about them than they do

[token-white-friend]

i am disabled to this day because when i was a teenage girl, my doctors didn’t take me seriously. when i said i was in extreme pain, they said i just wasn’t trying hard enough at physical therapy to repair a broken ankle. turns out they’d fucked up the surgery to fix it, and their neglect of my months of complaints meant it was damaged beyond repair. i still have mobility issues 8 years later, will have pain and require surgeries throughout my life and will, always, be disabled. because of them. because of the silencing of girls’ voices, in all spheres. because doctors do not value the voices of teenaged girls.

[ofmovingparts]

When I was twelve, the knee specialist I had finally convinced my mom to take me to (after years of begging) told me that my knees hurt because of my hips widening.

“No,” I said. “You don’t understand. I can’t walk when it happens, it hurts so bad. It’s been since I was a little kid.”

“It might twinge a bit, sure,” he told me. “Go to physical therapy for a few weeks.” I burst into tears.

My mom then refused to take me to physical therapy, because it was a long drive and the doctor said it wasn’t serious, so why should she bother? That was the start of her not listening to any complaint about my joints I ever had.

As it turns out, my knees were dislocating every couple of days. She and my doctors ignored and taught me to ignore sprains, fractures, cartilage tears, and dislocations until I moved out and learned that it wasn’t normal. I missed out on years of my life because of my doctor not only discounting the experience of a young girl, but fully blaming my pain on the fact of my being a young girl.

Listen to children when they tell you something is wrong with their bodies.

[ryncoon]

I had stomach pains for years as a kid. Almost daily. I was blamed as a faker. 

I have Celiac.

[gluttonys-blog]

People know what the hell is going on with their own bodies. If they don’t think something is right fucking listen to them.

[sorayachemaly]

In their study, “The Girl Who Cried Pain: A Bias Against Women in the Treatment of Pain,” researchers Diane E. Hoffmann and Anita J. Tarzian documented the degree to which girl’s and women’s pain is routinely dismissed as the “not real,” “emotional,” response of “fragile” females. Not only are girls and women who experience pain less likely to be taken seriously when they describe it, but they are less likely to be treated by medical professionals.

[dynamoxie]

When I was 12 I had a cold and over a week had recurring bouts of soreness and pain in my back and sides. One night it increased so much when I was trying to sleep that I woke up my mom, she later said I looked so grey that if I had been an adult man she would have assumed I was having a heart attack. She decided to take me to the ER, the pain was so severe I couldn’t lift my arms above my head to put on a real shirt. 

The ER doctor said I had asthma. So, he attempted to give me a diagnosis, at least. But I told him that I knew what being out of breath felt like, that I didn’t feel out of breath, that I couldn’t breath in deeply when the asked me to because the stretching of my chest was causing more pain.

They sent me for a chest x-ray, gave me a nebulizer treatment that night, gave me a prescription for an inhaler, which would have been helpful, if I had had asthma. Luckily, I had a regular pediatrician and a saw her a week later, the first thing she said was, “This isn’t asthma.” It was inflammation and swelling of my rib cage, which is a thing that happens to people after exercise and more frequently to kids. Apparently, both my and my mom’s protests were recorded in the chart that the ER sent to my doctor, as well.

Alternatively, I’m also farsighted and I need prisms in my glasses because one eye is much weaker than the other. I didn’t get prescription glasses until starting college, though, because no teacher, doctor, nor my parents (unfortunately) suggested that I should have my eyes examined beyond the basic distance chart. Even though I would have to cover one eye because of blurred vision from reading more than a page of text and used dollar store reading glasses from 8th grade onward. I also take Inositol now, which has made a dramatic difference (though no one else on the internet seems to have had the same effect from it).

[humansofnewyork]

“I got a message from God the other day about how to solve the world’s problems. We’ve got to send all the world leaders to play on one of Trump’s golf courses. Then while they’re gone, we replace them with grandmas. Because nobody ever got invaded by a grandma.”

[fyeahmm]

Peggy x Stan | Kisses 

[dynamoxie]

#aww  

But seriously when did Peggy jump ship from going mini Joan redder to switch gears to mysterious brunette?

Stan went from Fred to Shaggy, but like, even with more orange Daphne hair, Peggy was never anything but Velma, right?

* Oh, also, this is missing when she got him to strip naked like a week after they met...

[steggyrizzolson]

[madmen-amc]

What did you say?!

[dynamoxie]

#aaawwwww

[micdotcom]

15 incredible photos show Irish people everywhere going #HometoVote 

[dynamoxie]

#awww

[sandandglass]

The Nightly Show, April 28, 2015

[madmenwiththingsdrawnonthem]

Sally Draper you wonderful creature

[madmenwiththingsdrawnonthem]

[dynamoxie]

True Story: There is a commentary track (somewhere in the first 3 seasons? (because those are the ones I watched on DVD)) where Jon Hamm says, “To alcohol! The cause of, and solution to, all of life’s problems.”

[urnotpunkandimtellingeveryone]

The Philippines and The Hawkins Family

[dynamoxie]

Not sure how I saw this, and I feel creepy since there are so few notes, but growing up my family would go to Douthat State Park every summer. So, I have been to *a* Bath County, and only in the summer.

[paulreubens-deactivated20160128]

we’re in the 7th inning stretch and pete’s gun has yet to go off

“if in the first act you have hung a pistol on the wall, then in the following one it should be fired. otherwise don’t put it there.” — anton chekhov

[dynamoxie]

It’s gonna be Harry Crane.

[jodiecomer]

6.07 | 7.08

[dynamoxie]

I call this Peggy’s Barbara Walters hair. The top photo, bottom photo I am not sure.

[misandry-mermaid]

What a douchebag.

[dynamoxie]

He actually responded to me on Twitter after tons of people got on him for posting this. I asked about his choice not to show compassion for a negative experience to which he can relate. He didn’t really engage with my point.

[0liviabenson]

[forget-no-sleep-deactivated2017]

FINALLY

[vixyish]

One of the things I like about this: they’re doing it without shouting down women.

Because “that doesn’t happen to guys” *IS* a feminist issue. Male victims of abuse being dismissed, blamed or ridiculed because they weren’t “manly” enough is a part of patriarchy. And you can raise awareness of that without dismissing other feminist issues or bringing it up as a “counter argument” to problems women face.

MRAs, take note. This is how you actually support men’s rights.

[profeminist]

From the Geek Feminism Wiki: 

Toxic masculinity is one of the ways in which Patriarchy is harmful to men. It is the socially-constructed attitudes that describe the masculine gender role as violent, unemotional, sexually aggressive, and so forth.

A well-known masculinity movement that is not mostly anti-feminist has yet to appear.

Examples

Male [video game/film] protagonist bingo card illustrating toxic masculinity.

Men are just like that: the idea that a Real Man constantly thinks about sex.

Emasculation: the idea that there is a finite range of political attitudes a Real Man can hold.

The idea that Real Men should be prepared to be violent, even when it is not called for.

For example, a common response to women’s tales of experiencing street harassment is for a man who’s listening to say, “If I was there, I would have punched [the harasser].” This is problematic .

The expectation that Real Men are strong, and that showing emotion is incompatible with being strong. Anger is either framed as the exception to the rule, or as not an emotion.

Relatedly, the idea that a Real Man cannot be a victim of abuse, or that talking about it is shameful.

Though not reinforced much in fictional media, in real life it is widely expected that a man would abandon his pregnant girlfriend, and is incapable and/or unwilling to take responsibility

[lisafrankfurtschool]

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