It's Time You should Plan Now!!! Should I ??
A Beautiful Evening in a city like Mumbai where people are always in a hustle bustle to just make their life worth living is Normal, But to add on to this hustling life the weather is at its best and I am blissfully enjoying my adrak wali chai with the yummiest khari toast that I just got it out of the microwave. As I am Just about to dip my Khari the door bell rings and I being the good Bahu run to open the door as if there is Salman waiting outside for me. Ummmm Ok I know I am In Mumbai and not that Salman Khan will ring my door bell to see me or have Adrak Wali Chai but hey you never know….
Well my thought bubble breaks when I see my Mom’s (thats what I call my Mother In Law) best friend Sweety aunty she sees me hugs me, Kisses me and gives me the worlds sweetest smile and me on the other hand I am just Wondering what is next that ill be hearing today. I guide her to the room where my chai( Wondering y I am Mentioning my chai.. well I Love My tea in peace I don’t hear things or do things when I am in my happy space, so you will be hearing this a lot like really a lot.. I LOVE MY CHAI) and mom are awaiting me.I pour tea for aunty and merrily I dip my khari into the cup of happiness when Sweety aunty asks the most annoying question in the whole wide world and that is TOH BETA GOOD NEWS KAB DE RAHI HO???
Bang….. Dishoom….Dhiskiyooon….. Tubhish Tubhish is what I really wanna do to myself for sitting there and thinking like a mad girl that I can have my tea peacefully Well the answer is no quite a late realisation and My khari just dropped in the Tea..(SOB SOB :( Can for once I have my chai in Peace. Unaware of whats in my mind aunty takes my silence in a different understanding of her own and tells my Mom Lagta hai Ki sharma gayi? Well I excuse my self and take a leave.
I am Now in the Hall having My chai… Finally!!!! with no interruptions thats when a thought crosses my brain is that most of the Girls who are getting married or are planning their BIG day are really not aware of the outcomes later on. So GIRLS BE READY!! Because in just about few days time you will be experiencing the most weirdest ride of ur life and it is WHEN ARE YOU PLANNING? No Matter how many days of wedding u have completed. No One prepares you as to what to answer, how to answer or why people ask these questions where their involvement to produce baby is not there.
Sweety aunty just like another Indian women thought this could just start a conversation and that I have given her the right to poke her nose in my life well honestly NO NO NO. Most of us don’t bother to reply its just out of respect that we just smile and take a leave expecting that the conversation has ended there but no for them its an open case of murder just like how ACP Pradyuman( If you dont know him then kindly watch CID for him every case is solved with that one typical remark) KUCH TOH GADBAD HAI.
Sweety aunty jumps to the opportunity and asks Mom questions like Baccha Kyun Paida nahi ho raha( Why is baby not being born), Teri Bahu ko koi takleef hai kya ( Is your daughter in law going through some medical issue) , I know this doctor (probably some baba she is referring to) who can resolve all these issues.. within few days your Bahu will give good news then you can play with your grandchild and she shows her all the dreams of being the best Grandmother she can be. Sweety aunty takes leave looks at me ,hugs me , Kisses me and smiles like never before and I am here as always wondering What’s Next?? Next Morning during our morning chai session mom and me are sitting that’s when she starts the topic that I thought would never come … Mom: You know I saw such a beautiful dream today.
ME: That’s Nice What was it ( I am still unaware of what’s coming next)
Mom: That I am in a garden and I am walking but not alone
ME: (I am Sipping chai with the best ever known khari)… so who’s with you Dad?? ( Father In Law)
Mom: No
ME : Then ( just about to dip my Khari)
Mom: Guess
Me : Your Son ( Dipped the Khari In)
Mom: No
ME: ummmm I dont Know ( Busy Dipping and just about to put it in my mouth)
Mom: My son’s Son and Your Son
Me: What…. ( The world stands still… My khari just drops on my favourite night tee-shirt and I was just about take a Bite….. ) Mom: Kya hua beta Were you planning to give me a surprise
ME: Nooooooooooooooo
Mom: Oh accha … the Dream was ( I dint want this to go further ahead) that you had gone out and I took My Grandson for a walk where he was playing in the park and I was watching him and was nostalgic as to how I used to take my son to the park it was such a beautiful feeling. We had ice cream together, he was sharing his stories and I was merrily listening to him and was amazed at his innocence..
ME: Why did u Imagine only boy? ( Don’t ask don’t ask you just raising a hope don’t ask )
Mom : Oh so u want a girl no problem ill be happy with any gender as long as the baby is healthy and hearty.. Bus marne se pehle main apne pote ya poti ka mooh dekhloon.. uske saath khel loon… toh mera jeevan safal hojayega..
ME: Mom you should stop watching all those hindi serials and movies where there is too much melodrama involved.
Mom: No Beta that’s the only wish I Have and nothing else…. Beta are you hiding something fro me… Is there any medical issue…
Me: Medical issue… who has medical issue??
Mom: You
ME: What??? Since when did I have a medical issue..
Mom: Its been 5 Years that you haven’t given any good news so I assumed that you were afraid to share the problem. So I wanted you to see this Doc who will cure you and within few days you will give us the good news..
ME: Mom things will happen when me and your Son are mentally ready to take a responsibility. It’s a small life that we will be bringing in this world and I just don’t want to have one because the society wants one. I will do it when I am ready because at the end of the day it’s the women who have to sacrifice a lot of things not that Nowadays husbands don’t do but still it’s the mother at the end of the day. I smile and take a leave thinking that she understands. As I mentioned earlier we don’t disrespect our elders but sometimes or actually most of the times friends who know you well ask questions like
1)When are you guys planning? It’s been 5 years it’s time u should plan now…
Me:- I have completed 5 years with my husband and not with you so let me decide.
2) Do you have any medical issue?
Me:- Yes I get headaches and I loose my self control when people ask these kind of questions so if that’s a medical issue then yeah, I have a mental disorder.
3) It’s high time you should plan one?
Me:- and it’s high time you should stop annoying.
4) My child needs company I am awaiting your good news?
Me:- Then why don’t you plan your own cricket team
5) That baby bump will look so cute on you!
Me:- I have enough weight to loose I need no more.😱
6) Don’t plan so late or else you will not be able to conceive when you actually want it.
Me:- There is a word called Fate Lets leave it to that.🙏🏻
7) Bus Bahut hogaya honeymoon phase Now you better give us a good news.
Me:- Honeymoon phase MERA hai who told you to get over yours soon😳
8) Or some people give their child’s name go like my baby is asking when is AUNTY going to have a baby so that I can play when I meet them?😂
Me:- Did the baby not ask you when you giving him or her a sibling to play with😁
9) Is your husband not ready yet?
Me:- He is currently dealing with one child and that’s Me. He saves those people who are about to be hit by my Mad Child 😇
Being Honest and straight forward we as couples go through enough pressures more so being like sweety AUNTY.. Every couple does have their own style of living from morning to night. It’s their life and they are the ones who will be taking care of the child mentally, Physically Financially and Emotionally. So kindly don’t bother us with these questions because not every couple wants a child, some couple wish to adopt, Some are happy just like that( Yes they are and probably they don’t need any one) , Some are busy with their careers, Some just love their life that way and don’t want their freedom to go away, May be some people have tried enough but then it’s again gods will not to give them any. Imagine the pain and the pressure they going through. For a lot of people it’s a topic of discussion as to why to have babies and for a quite a lot is why not to have babies .Child is not the only solution for everything. Just because everyone is having we should have well no. A mutual understanding between the couple is their and they will do things according to their APPROPRIATE TIME. Hope this blog helps you understand that level of irritation that we all go through when we hear this. HAVING CHILDREN IS NOT ONLY THE EPITOME OF HAPPINESS. Every couple is different. Some wish to Marry, Some Wish not to marry. similarly some want two children or more and some don’t want even one.
Bringing a child into this world needs good amount of Mental strength, Physical strength and more than that a bulky amount in your bank. Every parent wishes to give the best to their child and not shy away from the responsibility. From Kinder garden to the school from their birthdays to their marriages it’s all a big game that’s played on and that’s most of us are not ready.
Friends and family who have their little ones good going I assume you are having a gala time! And for those who are like me who don’t have any babies because you are not ready or don’t want any have a blast it’s not a crime not to have a baby. Until and unless it’s your Decision. Like and Share and let others have a good laugh like you just did 😘😘
It’s My Evening Chai Time and I am enjoying it with my Kari all by myself because I choose to leave Mom and Sweety AUNTY alone by themselves and she being a lady who’s volume is larger than her figure saying Area tujhe pata hai Uski ladki kisi aur Ke saath Bhaag gayi???? I have a good laugh and tell myself thank god Today the Bakra is some else and not me.
Love and Light!
Just being Mean Oops I mean Me….