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im so privileged for having a life-threatening eating disorder!!1!1!1!1111!!!!

Thanks for checkiny your privilege.

Ur a stupid toad

art-angelsz-deactivated20170721

List of things that 3rd wave feminism has done to solve women issues:

- Complaining on Tumblr and other social medias

Sjws: Down with the old, cis, white males running the establishment! Sjws: Feel the Bern!

#Bernie #Clinton #trump #sanders #vote #election #politics

rachelisincambodia-blog

FYI, I’m more than my relationship status

“Are you married? No? Let me set you up with my son.”

Recently I was on the other side of this question and, honestly, I was offended.

First of all, let me clarify that I was at a meeting where I was the only woman in attendance. This question and subsequent marriage proposal were the first things this person said to me after “Hi, my name is…” Following this, the same person made several comments about my physical appearance. While I’m currently living in and travelling around Asia, I think most people (especially women) experience this no matter where they live.

In Asia it’s common to talk about one’s relationship status, so I often get asked if I have a boyfriend or a husband. Usually this line of questioning takes place after my conversation partner and I have gotten to know each other a bit first, though.

I have a lot of respect for the people I’ve met and the different cultures I’ve experienced over the past few years, but I’m concerned about the implications of questions like these.

It makes me feel like my worth as a person is directly connected to a male partner.

For the last twenty-something years I’ve worked hard to become the person I am. I’m far from perfect, but I’m working to be the best person I can be. I try to stay informed, to treat people with respect, and to work for positive change in the world. I try to stay away from societal constructs of how a woman should be and should act if they are incongruent with who I want to be as a human being. I often fail in my attempts, but I try to be mindful of where I need to improve. This is a long process, and a difficult one for many women. When questions about our relationship status are asked, it can counteract our journeys of self-worth and self-love.

I am enough on my own.

It belittles my accomplishments.

I think my singleness is the least exciting thing about me. So, why is my relationship status one of the first things people ask about?

There are far more interesting topics we could discuss if you’d like to get to know me. For instance:

I love to write. When I hear someone’s story, I can picture how I’ll write it in my mind’s eye. I love to research and talk about politics, development, health care, peace, justice, and the environment. We could talk about any of these things.

I just moved to Cambodia from Canada. I’m working in Phnom Penh for an interfaith peace and justice movement and get to meet people from all over the world. I live with a wonderful Khmer host family who are teaching me a great deal about the Khmer language and culture. It has been an incredible learning experience for me and I have grown a lot.

I have a master’s degree in Journalism. I spent two years living in Vancouver learning how to report sensitively on Indigenous communities and human rights issues. I researched Aboriginal fisheries and the impact of colonialism on Indigenous fishers in British Columbia for my thesis.

I used to work on a sustainable farm. After I graduated from my bachelor’s degree, I moved home to British Columbia to help my family run our bio-diverse, sustainable livestock operation. When I wasn’t feeding animals, collecting eggs, and helping to do minor repairs, I helped my dad deliver our products and reclaim food bound for the landfill to feed our animals. They ate everything from beer mash, food scraps from kitchens, organic bread, and yoghurt.

And the list goes on. Let’s try to steer the conversation away from my relationship status or my physical appearance, especially if I don’t know you. My worth is not contingent on a man’s presence in my life nor the way my body looks.

It assumes I’m incapable of seeking out my own relationships.

Self-explanatory. I don’t need a relationship and I certainly don’t need anyone picking someone out of a hat for me to date. If I want advice on past, current, or future relationships, I will ask for it.

It assumes I don’t know what’s best for myself.

For the last 27 years (give or take a few years where my parents made decisions for me), I have largely made smart, wise decisions for myself. When I haven’t, I’ve taken steps to rectify the situation and when I’ve needed help, I’ve asked for it. I do not now, nor will I ever need unsolicited help from people who do not understand anything about me.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting married, having children, and wanting people you care about to find similar happiness, but I know what makes me happy and I will seek that happiness out myself.

endthematriarchy

Someone else's words don't define your worth. If you let them, that is on YOU.

prettyboygender

trans women are women, sorry TERFS. sex is a social concept and when u exclude some women based on a social concept such as ‘sex’ i hate to tell u but u are contaminating the very idea of feminism. :) feminism is for everyone, and true feminism protects trans women who have been socialized AS TRANS WOMEN, not as men, because they are not men. True feminism protects women who have been told by everyone that they are not women, and that they are still men/think the same way as men do. TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN. fuck out of here w ur nonsense.

endthematriarchy

Sex is not a social construct, it's a biological reality. Just throwing that out there.

1nesky1nedestiny-deactivated202

I hate the south. I really do. Today, the pentagon says that women can now serve in front-line ground combat situations. This is a momentous state in becoming equal in the military. However, many of my male southern classmates thought this was wrong. They said that it was not a woman’s place to be on the front line since they have reproductive abilities and tradition has the men protecting the women.

I’m…. I’m speechless. I really am.

endthematriarchy

That's lame.

paytheticcashcow-deactivated201

For the love of god stop using the phrase “girl boss” or “lady boss”. You are feeding into the patriarchy. You are saying that a “boss” is inherently male, and that you see being a “girl boss” as a novelty. It’s not! It’s fucking sexist. Stop feeding into it ladies. Own that you are a boss with out having to qualify your own gender. Being a boss should be genderless. Stop objectifying our gender to phrases like “girl boss”! It’s not cute, it’s offensive.

endthematriarchy

Stop shaming women for their femininity.

This is what a feminist looks like.

#Feminism #this #is #what #a #looks #like

sea-k1ng

I was reading a post that included a comic talking about anti-feminist stereotypes. That comic pokes fun at very commonly heard and annoyingly inaccurate criticisms of feminism. In the discussion that followed, @theunitofcaring pointed out a long string of extremely valid complaints against feminists. And it occurred to me, we’re treating feminism as one beast. In reality, it’s incredibly broad.

Feminism is centered around the issue of gender inequality, most specifically against women. This is the foundation that most feminists can agree on. However, that’s about it. From there we have issues in understanding (what’s the breadth of the problem, what’s causing it) and action (how can we fix it, what are our specific goals, what makes things worse). The answers vary widely. Often, they’re so different that two branches of feminism can be in direction opposition (TERFS and.. all other decent feminists, for example).

Now, this isn’t entirely a bad thing. It encourages growth through discussion and various perspectives. However, it also means that we as feminists don’t have an agreed upon narrative. Without control of that, the mainstream patriarchal culture doesn’t convey the diversity and nuance.

Instead, feminism is seen as singular. You’re either feminist or anti-feminist. This presents a particular struggle. You want to defend all feminism from those making bs claims (like the ones in the comic), but in the same breath you need to be critical of problematic behaviors in feminism (mentioned in the original post).

How do we defend feminism effectively then? It’s not as if we can say “not all feminists!” That framing is too similar to “not all men!” for it to be taken seriously. And how do we disrupt the notion of a monolithic feminist movement? And while we’re at it, how do we be better about fixing the issues within feminism?

endthematriarchy

I suggest identifying with your values and not an empty term. Follow your values, and you will attract a similar tribe. It doesn't have to have a label. Does that make sense?

i-is-jazz

To the many men arguing that domestic abuse against men should be treated as seriously as violence against women:

The NSW Coroner delivered its Domestic Violence Death Review to parliament this week stating that for the 280 domestic violence deaths, 164 of those victims were female. They also found that almost 45% of men who were killed by their female partner were the ones who initiated the violence and were killed in a woman’s attempt of self defense.

endthematriarchy

So about 60 out of 280 domestic violence deaths were men being killed for no good reason but that's not significant?

pinksnap-deactivated20160515

“Feminism can be profitable to men” How about it’s profitable to women? You know- the ones it’s for? The one who need it? How about it’s pointless to make it about men because if they focus on themselves instead of figuring out how to see and treat women as human beings then all of our activism is pointless? I don’t give a shit about your profits. When will you give a shit about us?

endthematriarchy

In 5 minutes you will be saying "but feminism is all about equalityyyyyyy!"

writerszone

#powerful #thewalkingdead #walkingdeadreference #strong #feminism

endthematriarchy

You can only survive the apocalypse by creating safe places in universities and censoring everyone you disagree with.

ima-fuckingt4ble

If men being in charge is patriarchy, and men raping women is patriarchy, then isn’t the men who are in charge making the rape of women illegal the patriarchy combatting the patriarchy?

My head hurts.

ixarian-deactivated20161227

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1. “Patriarchy” is a term that cannot be simplified as “men being in charge.” It is a complex term that describes how sexism, racism, ableism, and discrimination inherent to structural violence and societal constructs give predominately cis gendered, straight white men privilege, power, and control others do not have.

2. If you understand what “patriarchy” means, then you would understand that it is a system, and that men who seek to help as they can, without speaking for what they cannot, are allies.

3. The statement “men who are in charge of making the rape of women illegal” is problematic.

A) Because rape is already illegal. And still happens.

B) Because what constitutes as rape is debated even though it should be as simple as silence =/= consent, no =/= consent, and only an enthusiastic, non-intoxicated, non-drugged, non-coerced yes = consent.

C) Because many institutions punish, shame, ignore, disbelieve or silence women who have been raped.

D) Because male allies are responsible for listening and understanding what women need, not just dishing out policies, and using their privilege to empower the voices of individuals with less inherent privilege- particularly with respect to their own welfare.

4. My head does not hurt.

Sincerely, @ixarian <an intersectional feminist>

ace-pervert

1. Nope , there are patriachies in the middle east completely based on religion , and almost devoid of white men .

2. If you understand what patriachy is , then you must also understand that if you live in the USA , you dont live in a patriachy.

3. Problematic is a vague term used in much the same way as unholy and heretical , if something were trully insulting you’d use racist , sexist , etc

A. In many places it isnt illigal for a woman to rape people , while in many of those places it is illigal for men to do so.

B. While that has been part of the rape the debat , the part you’ve ignored has been the part where people are still debating if women can rape people.

C. They do the same for men , in much greater numbers.

D. Men are people not your lapdogs to order around , if you want them to listen you need to convince them through information and reason , not by ordering them to sit down and shut up.

4. Don’t care.