chill confessions blog

read #rules before sending anything in. sister blog to @everskiesdrama

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RULES

1. no usernames or anything identifying unless you’re referring to club mods/site mods/owners.

2. no discrimination or discriminatory words (slurs, using disabilities as insults, etc)

3. no specific drama (basically, keep anything vague enough to not be recognizable or dm your drama to @everskiesdrama) exception: stuff that doesn’t actually matter. ex: ‘i’m in a groupchat with an ecouple and it’s so awkward’

4. keep it respectful, no using this to bully other users. if someone has done something against roc, report them and send screenshots to @everskiesdrama.

examples of good asks:

‘the exchange rate is ridiculous’

‘i wish parrot would come back’

‘tmw you spent all your stardust on someone’s personal set’

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are etaine and paaradox the same person lol i saw this on reddit but it got deleted

i have no idea tbh

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oh my god!!! there is a creator on this app that i know irl who claims to be disabled but they are not. like i need to get that off my chest i knew this creator irl for a few years and they are 100% physically and mentally able. and as someone who is actually disabled it is especially irritating.

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My friend’s a designer so I’ve snuck in and heard quite a lot from designer servers and seen a LOT from creator club; let me tell you that so many people behind the scenes are genuinely the most annoying complainers you could possibly imagine lol. . .

My favorite story is when a certain popular banned creator got really pissed off at someone for kindly giving their collab spot to someone who really wanted it, and then everyone in the server bullied them for it. Like this is the level I’m talking on.

A lot of them severely take Creatorsupport for granted and continually spam them or make jabs at them being “ghosted” when Creatorsupport are literally just one person who is having to deal with several hundred people from the most chalkboard-nail scratchingly annoying website (new phrase i just made up) ever.

There are a few designers in particular who have a massive ego as well and consider themselves “authority” of creators and speaking for issues but 9 times out of 10 these people are the ones who never spoke up against when their friends were being shitty and act like it didn’t happen. There’s one designer in particular who’s responsible for this kind of behaviour and it is so obvious if you’ve paid attention.

Like nobody talks about the designers (who are still on-site) who were microagressive to a certain big-name designer in 2022. Or about how so many “popular” (is that even the right word?) designers act like authority on situations that don’t pertain to them and cause more problems than they should. No one talks about how this one particular designer who has ALWAYS bullied and attacked individuals who disagree or stand up to them to the point where everyone is afraid to even mention their name in a slightly-less-than-positive light.

Granted it’s a lot better than it used to be - designer drama was so much more messier and public in the earlier days BUT that doesn’t mean the snarkiness, bigotry, predators, egos etc haven’t gone. It’s still there but no one talks about it unless it’s a public situation like with Kween or XX2C (Those are banned users so I hope I can mention this.) It doesn’t take much to remember and hold these people accountable so I don’t understand why others haven’t been doing that.

People would much rather complain about a stupid competition being late.

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- same anon who talked about nd users being treated weirdly about sharing hyperfixations or special interests that are considered weird or whatever by people on everskies and overall es gen:

i want to clarify if i hadn't in my previous confession to avoid submitting a long paragraph, i seriously don't care if people enjoy mainstream stuff or if others need to enjoy the same thing as neurodivergent people. they quite literally don't have to. if you don't like said media they find interest in, it's fine. it only becomes a problem when people start being incredibly rude to them over having hyperfixations or special interests in a context that isn't a joking matter but rather serious.

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i feel like some (not all) users on everskies, specifically es general hate it when neurodivergent users share anything related to their hyperfixations or special interests. i kept seeing that happen to one of my mutuals until he was belittled off the club for enjoying a harmless cartoon character. at this point, i think he was right. the majority of people in es gen are fucking losers if you don't like the same shit as them. sometimes, but not always, there's a high chance you're considered a weirdo or looked down upon in es gen for having interests related to shows, games, hobbies, or overall 'underground' bands and artists that are considered bizarre or obscure, even if they're still known, they still look at you the same.

not aimed at anyone in specific, im not saying everyone in es general is like this whatsoever. i hope this doesn't make anyone mad, lol. this is coming from an autistic person who has had 'weird' special interests. whether they were mainstream or not, people continuously made fun of me. im only hoping that i don't come off as too harsh because even talking about it anywhere on everskies itself makes a couple of people view you strangely.

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some users need to stop making bait posts

we get it, es is dry atm doesn’t mean u gotta make 600 bait posts

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I feel like a lot of designers genuinely have an ego problem... Like, yes we appreciate the items but you are not inherently any better of an individual than the rest of us because you make them pipe down

(ofc not all but ego problems are more common in designers than average users from what i've noticed)

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as a black user i’m totally fine when ppl who are white or lighter skinned use a dark skin avi. like i use tone 1 and 2 even though i’m tone 6 irl. no they aren’t “pretending to be black” or black fishing they just wearing an avi that’s dark skinned. i have no problem with it

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every artist will/eventually be problematic. tired of users get jumped because they listen to like ariana grande or carti yes they’re problematic but they have millions of fans anyways

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ok so i’m pretty much a lurker on everskies, and there’s this one user i’m sure many of you will know who begs for a certain designer’s rares, and how she always makes jokes on being white. as a person of colour who’s also autistic, i’m genuinely finding it weird how she jokes about being white to the point it’s actually making me think that she’s white. she did it before without using tone tags i want to tell her that she should seriously stop joking about it because it’s weird, are you not proud to be black or something? and she also switches from like skin tone 6 to skin tone 2 too much. and it’s not just her, there’s a lot of users who do this. i would post this on everskies but i’d obviously get jumped for saying that and users would be saying ‘black comes in all shades!!’ but it’s not like theyre all shades ?

just my thoughts ^^

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no because 1:200 ratio is CRAZY how tf do we get it down

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