Please address your concerns with Miho to Miho directly, as going through tumblr to point out things from the past will only create miscommunication, and we are mostly concerned with the fallout of our FC as a result of this, as opposed to Miho’s personal life and decisions right now.
The officers handling this blog have acknowledged that there were actions on both sides that enabled a lot of negativity that led to this outcome, but once it was realized, steps were taken to rectify it on Miho, but not where we wanted them, on Claudien.
However it came about, the fact that the realization to change from Miho came about at all is what is important here. We wish her the best of luck in her healing and support that process for everyone hurt by Claudien or anyone like him. It’s unforgivable, and unfair, to have your consent toyed with like that.
People can and do change, and there are a lot of behaviors that victims of narcissistic abuse will have developed and learned (including the encouragement to do everything to please their partners) in the fear that they will be abandoned. It might sound like excuses, right now, but we are all trying to heal from this.Â
If you have past concerns with Miho, please talk them out with her directly rather than on a tumblr post- as those are her private matters that she understands her actions of better, and that we cannot speak for. All our tie to her story is that it revealed our former leader as a person we did not know at all, and whatever else brought that about is not our place to blame or defend.
Thank you for your understanding.