the advice guy

yeah

[gullahch1ld]

Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it

[moonlitswims-deactivated2024010]

no but this is so important.. it’s so important to just accept you can fuck up you’re allowed to fuck up. you’re allowed to be wrong and it won’t be shameful, it won’t be the worst thing to happen. you’ll either let it go or learn from it and not let it happen again and that’s good.

[fagtardation]

Tips to Learn When You Want to Learn, While Not Having the Motivation to Learn

𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟

DISCLAIMERS:

I am not a professional; this is just what worked for me and may not work for everyone.

I suppose these could work as study tips, but they are not intended to be study tips.

TIP 1: SOCIAL MEDIA (UNDER CONDITIONS)

This is especially helpful for those who have short attention spans (which is most people in this day and age). You've probably come across a few informative short-form videos when scrolling-- Good. Follow that. Your algorithm is catered towards you, so most likely, you will come across more content related to your interests. Follow the informative content creators. Interact with those posts, especially if you find them interesting or if you think it will be helpful to you.

However, many social media posts share false information. This is why it's especially important to do your research. If you don't want to research it now, find a way to bookmark, save, or message yourself to remind yourself to fact-check the information. If not for yourself, at least to prevent embarrassing yourself or tainting your reputation by unknowingly sharing false information.

TIP 2: ASK A FRIEND WHO KNOWS A LOT ABOUT THE SUBJECT

Have you ever watched/listened/read something, but despite your hearing being completely intact, all you heard were sounds and not words? I don't know about you, but I did. But this rarely happens when I'm talking to a friend-- Which is why I recommend this. You're not only less afraid to ask questions, but you can treat it as more of a conversation, making it less boring to you.

This is also especially helpful for those who can't bother to research, since you don't actually have to do the searches yourself.

Of course, not everyone has friends who are interested in the topics you want to learn. However, in case you do, you should you should look out for either a patient, smart friend who knows about your topic of choice, or a friend who is very interested in the topic and would love to talk about it.

TIP 3: PLAY A PODCAST (OR A MOSTLY TEXT-BASED VIDEO) IN THE BACKGROUND

This. If I could only use one of these tips, it would be this one. This is the most convenient. You're drawing/painting? Put a podcast on. You're walking? Put a podcast on. You get the idea. There are so many podcasts out there with such a huge range of subjects-- from art history to languages to true crime, there's sure to be something for everyone.

MY PERSONAL FAVORITE YOUTUBE CHANNELS TO LEARN STUFF (NOT NECESSARILY FOR BACKGROUND):

YouTube Channels: Kurzgesagt, TED ED, CrashCourse, WIRED (Especially Tech Support), perfumerism

Of course, I also watch other videos from other channels.

𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟

And that's pretty much all I have for now! I hope my tips help :)

[fagtardation]

Tips on How to Get Things Done (as someone with ADHD) Part 1

𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟

DISCLAIMERS:

I am not a professional; this is just what worked for me and may not work for everyone.

TIP 1: NOT DOING SOMETHING COMPLETELY IS BETTER THAN NOT DOING IT AT ALL

You don't think you can drink 2 liters of water a day? Don't focus on that. Can you drink a sip of water now? DRINK THAT SIP OF WATER IF THAT'S ALL YOU CAN DO. Now, everyone's limits are different, so you choose for yourself what you can do.

TIP 2: STAND UP. JUST STAND UP.

Is this connected to the last tip? Yes. But is this the most important (at least to me) thing? Absolutely. If you can't drink that sip of water because you just can't move, and you can't eat, or shower, or just do anything.. Stand up. Yes, it may be hard, and probably one of the hardest of the basics, but that is exactly why it's important.

The first step is often the hardest. Standing up is the first step. All you have to do is try.

TIP 3: DON'T SIT DOWN.

Once you stand up, don't sit down. Not even when you're doing the task. Not even for a break. Not until you're done. Because you probably know damn well you're not going to get anything done once you sit down. And you're going to have to spend once again so much effort to stand back up.

TIP 4: OKAY, BUT HOW DO I DO SOMETHING NOT COMPLETELY? BREAK IT INTO BITE-SIZE PIECES.

Do you have to write an essay, for example? You can break it down into small, bite-sized pieces (steps).

Stand up -> Find your notebook/computer -> Open your notebook/computer -> Take out a pencil/Open the mindmap website (eg, Canva) -> Write down one idea -> Write down another idea.. and so on.

Now that you have broken these into bite-sized pieces, you can make yourself just do one of the pieces. Maybe you can do one more piece, or maybe you can't, but I find it easier to "open your notebook" than to "start writing your essay".

This can go for more basic tasks, like brushing your teeth as well.

Stand up -> Go to the bathroom -> Take your toothbrush from your cup -> Wet the toothbrush -> Put toothpaste onto the brush -> Brush it for 10 seconds/30 seconds/ideally 2 minutes.

I hope this goes without saying, but there is no right way to do this. It may be unfinished, but at least you did something.

TIP 5: IF YOU HAVE THE ENERGY FOR SPITE, DO IT OUT OF SPITE.

Centre all of your hate, frustration, spite, pettiness, etc, all the emotions that make you lose control, and use that energy to DO THINGS. Use the emotions as fuel. (Obviously, if you have no motivation, you probably can't do this, but keep this in mind.)

OTHER TIPS:

Body doubling (or just hopping on a call with someone)

Hype music (Music that makes you feel powerful)

Theatre music (If you're a theatre kid) and sing it. If you like to act a bit, just dramatise it a bit.

Procrastination isn't bad as long as you get things done in the end

Going outside usually reduces the numbness

Don't stay at home for 7 hours straight during the day if you can

Make plans to do things for accountability

Open your eyes really wide (unhinged but try this)

Breathe really loudly and take in as much air as you can in one breath

Stretching saves lives

𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟

I hope this has been helpful :) If you can, stand up and go have a sip of water.