Pretty Boy Swag

An appreciation/advice blog for femme folk who were assigned/designed female at birth. This is a safe place for you. And it's rad as hell.

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hey guys, i know we haven’t been that active, but i’m ready to dive back into this blog. 

feel free to send your questions, calls for support, selfie submissions, etc.! we’ll be here. :) 

remember: you aren’t alone. 

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Hello~ I am Prince Not much to say, im a huge dweeb; I like dragons, Pokemon, mermaids, and outer space. Technically, I am out to my parents (close friends have known too) as a transguy but unfortunately I doubt they’re taking me seriously and/or they’ve completely forgotten u^u eh, oh well. ✨My snapchat is princekk_iscool✨

We’re here to take you seriously, Prince! Thanks for sharing your gorgeous photos. 

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I might be abit masc in public but inside I'm quite femme like wanting to be a "mommy", wearing lingerie and I just want to keep my chest...

You can present masculine and still be a “mommy”. You can be masc and still be a woman, honestly. Alternatively, you can be a “mommy” and still not be a woman if that is not your gender identity. 

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I'm going to be starting T soon and I'm so happy, but I'm absolutely terrified of being ugly, having my personality and everything changed, and getting touched down there for medical reasons. Idk if I should go through with it anymore. As much as I want to, I don't want who I am to change.

I can relate. Even if I could go on T right now, I’m not sure I would. I think the deeper voice would be great, but I’m afraid of how it’ll affect my emotional and mental state. 

This ask was sent a while back... let us know how you feel now, if you’re comfortable doing so. 

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I just summed up the courage to buy myself these really cute floral shorts, and now my parents (who are super fantastic and really great) are confused and asking questions like 'we thought you were a boy now' and yeah it sucks, so ty for this blog xx

It is pretty awful, isn’t it? I feel you. My brothers are the only ones in my family who know, and I feel very self-conscious when I act “feminine” around them. I feel like I have to prove my “masculinity” to them. But I don’t. And you don’t either.

So rock them floral shorts. 

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I can't wait until I get on T and grow a beard so I can wear scarves and flowy/pastel shit and not get misgendered.

Same

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Hello I am a ULTRA femme boy pre everything and I don't know how to come out to the fam. I'm the most femme out of everyone in my family so no one will ever believe me. My slight older ace and agender sibling knows and is completely supportive but other than that, no one knows. Please answer if you can and if you can't no problem!❤️

Something that helps is pointing out that a woman can be as masculine as she wants, and people still accept that she is a woman. The same should be extended to men. At least, that’s how I’ve always thought of it. 

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So I'm transitioning and my sister has 6 kids. She has explained to them that I will be using male pronouns and they wonderfully were concerned with what I want to be called. Uncle doesn't really for for me so I'd like to ask the hive mind for any suggestions? Non gender conforming ideas? Or ideas from another language? Please any suggestions help! I will be gong to visit Friday. Thanks so much

This is probably incredibly late, but -

I have nothing. /: Sorry. Maybe one of our followers can help?

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hey guys, 

first, an apology for abandoning this blog for a few months. it’s been rough. 

i’ll be on and off like this until winter break. so please bear with me. 

thanks for all your support

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When I ask someone for advice on coming out they say to slowly get the person to see it but I love feminine things so I just look like a girl with a big chest that likes Hello Kitty and death metal and wears guys clothes often instead of the real me.

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Is it possible to be a drag queen and FtM? This show i watch just makes me so chill whenever I have dysphoria like it takes my mind off it cause I see their outfits and Id just love to be a drag queen and I even practice walking like one tbh

Short answer: yes. Why would being FtM exclude you from being a drag queen? 

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I want to come out to my mom as being trans but with being so feminine, I feel like she won't take me as seriously as if I was more masculine. I just want her to take me seriously.

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I love styles that revolve around things people could see as girly and I really want to wear this cute outfit I put together with tights and a shawl but I fear my friends will look at me like Im insane But I'm not out to all of them yet Any advice?

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Thank you for this blog! I'm so happy to see it. I felt bad for a while, loving feminine clothing and all. I don't like skirts and dresses so much, but I LOVE booty shorts and thigh highs. I feel really bad though cause I'm pre-everything, and I'd rather pass than wear the clothes I really want to. So I'm stuck using my birth name, she/her, and wearing clothes I don't like until I get enough T to change me. My tits are too big to pass too. Much love for my trans siblings with big chests.

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Im a 17 year old guy and im afraid that when i transition, guys wont find me attractive anymore... Im so feminine that maybe i wont look right Everything about this makes me anxious Any advice from anyone?

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sorry, this isn't about trans guys but I hope you'll answer me anyway since no other trans advice blog I follow will answer me. My best friend came out as nb to me some time ago (i'm a trans guy myself) and they told me about their new name and pronouns. I'm doing pretty well with pronouns, but apparently I constantly mess up with their name and call them their deadname. My memory really, truly terrible and I fully don't intend to, but everyone in our friend group is pissed at me even if- part 2

part2 - I apologize and correct myself, when I tell them "I'm sorry it's just out of habit" they get mad and tell me that "well, we were used to calling you *deadname* tto, but we had no problems" - one of them even got so pissed she called me my deadname on purpose. I know I should be respectful because they're my friends and especially my best friend who's very anxious and can get pretty uncomfortable when disphoric, but is this right? Am I really making such a huge mistake?

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Hi. At some days I accept my female body and others I can't even look at myself without wanting to rip my own fucking skin off. I have this horrible dysphoria all the time that something with me isn't right, that my body isn't how it's suppose to be. I'm so confused and everything hurts all the time. I don't fucking know who I am anymore I just know that I can't stand being in a girls body. I don't know what gender I am and this is so soso stressful. Please help/give advice?