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3K CELEBRATION ♥ FAVOURITE OUTLANDER SEASON (as voted by my followers)

SEASON 1 — Even now, after all the pain and death and heartbreak that followed, I still would make the same choice.

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It’s okay to put yourself first :))

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How most people tell a story

How ENFPs tell a story

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What functions are and what they're not

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Introverted Sensing

What it’s not: Memory, traditions, conservatism, obsession over details

What it is: Subjective impressions of sensory data and experiences, archived away so it can be used for future references

Extroverted Sensing

What it’s not: Athleticism, pleasure/thrill-seeking, disregard for consequences

What it is: Seeing things as they are first hand and reacting to them accordingly in the moment

Introverted Intuition

What it’s not: 6th sense, esoteric powers and obsession over personal goals

What it is: searching for the implication of things, getting to the bottom line and synthesizing an idea that hasn’t been concretely proven yet, whether it is right or wrong.

Extroverted Intuition

What it’s not: Mental hyperactivity, flight of ideas and flakiness. Arguing different points of view just to be rattle people or being unique.

What it is: Exploring the different facets of reality, wanting to find different ways of interpreting data.

Introverted Feeling

What it’s not: Repressing emotions so that no one can see them. Being deep and mysterious for the sake of being deep and mysterious.

What it is: Analyzing and acting on data according to one’s own personal feeling tone to it. Making personal sense of everything.

Extroverted Feeling

What it’s not: Having emotions worn on their sleeves, abiding by social protocol even if it doesn’t want to

What it is: Tapping into and adapting to the emotional atmosphere, considering the impact of one’s actions on others

Introverted Thinking

What it’s not: Analyzing everything, being ruthlessly honest about one’s opinions because people’s emotions don’t matter

What it is: Analyzing and acting on data according to one’s own personal logical tone to it. Mentally taking apart things to make impersonal sense of it.

Extroverted Thinking

What it’s not: Being a leader, wanting to control and getting things done at the expense of one and other’s feelings

What it is: Acting on what makes logical sense to oneself and others, arguing for rationality over emotions

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Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Enneagram

(If you are self-typed correctly, you should be able to come up with several specific examples from your own life of using the psychological defense mechanisms of your core type. Since your secondary type is also quite strong, you may also have examples to go with your higher / lower fix.)

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1) Ones use reaction formation to avoid anger (i.e. direct anger) and stay in control of their feelings and instincts in order to maintain a self image of being right. Reaction formation is feeling one thing and then expressing the opposite or at least something unrelated, such as feeling resentful but acting nice, feeling a need to rest but working harder. The relentless demand of the inner critic to be good and do good at all times replaces personal needs and shuts down feelings. 2) Twos use repression of personal needs and feelings to avoid being needy and to maintain a self image of being helpful. Repression is putting one’s “unacceptable” feelings and impulses out of awareness by converting them into a more acceptable kind of emotional energy. Self-esteem depends on winning the approval of others. This can take the form of being overly nice, flattering people, and a superficial friendliness. Or it can show up as an attitude of entitlement. Their genuine need for connection takes the form of “you need me.” 3) Threes use identification to avoid failure and maintain a self image of being successful. Identification is stepping into a role so completely that Threes lose contact with who they are inside. The pressure to keep up a winning image prevents access to personal feelings and needs. Attention goes to the external environment: the tasks to be done and the expectations of other people. Threes find it very difficult to drop the role, or drop the image, since they get so much positive reinforcement in a society that values achievement and success. 4) Fours use introjection to avoid ordinariness and maintain a self image of being authentic. Positive introjection is an attempt to overcome the feeling of deficiency by seeking value from an idealized experience, work or relationship and internalizing this through the emotional center. This also leads to negative introjection: Fours tend blame themselves for whatever goes wrong in personal relationships. Their experience of loss or abandonment can take form inside as a self-rejecting voice (a negative introject) which leads to pervasive feelings of unworthiness. 5) Fives use isolation to avoid the experience of inner emptiness and maintain a self image of being knowledgeable. Isolation can be physical withdrawal from others, but it also means withdrawing on the inside from one’s emotions and staying up in the head. Acquiring knowledge becomes a way to create safety and self worth, but an over-emphasis on the intellect prevents Fives from connecting with the life force in their bodies and the support available in relationship with others. 6) Sixes use projection to avoid rejection and to maintain a self image of being loyal. Projection is a way of attributing to others what one can’t accept in oneself, both positive and negative. Positive feelings are projected onto a romantic relationship or an external authority figure in order to assure safety and justify loyalty. Negative feelings are projected onto others to justify internal feelings of fear and distrust. Sixes support their projections by finding and amplifying the information which fits their premise. 7) Sevens use rationalization to avoid suffering and to maintain a self image of being OK. Rationalization is a way of staying in the head, explaining away or justifying things in order to distance from painful feelings and refuse to take responsibility for their behavior. Everything can be re-framed towards the positive. Their ability to think of new options and possibilities allows Sevens to leave the present moment with its limitations and live in a seemingly unlimited future. 8) Eights use denial to avoid vulnerability and to maintain a self image of being strong. Denial means to power up in the body center and forcefully re-direct energy and attention through willfulness and control. Vulnerable feelings are automatically put away and not experienced. Emotional energy is reduced, while instinctual energy is increased. Receptivity necessarily involves some vulnerability, so Eights seek to impact the world and other people rather than be receptive to them. 9) Nines use narcotization to avoid conflict and to maintain a self image of being comfortable or harmonious. Narcotization is using food and drink, entertainment, or simply repetitive patterns of thinking and doing to “put oneself to sleep”. Even productive activities can keep Nines narcotized if they become too habitual. Avoiding conflict with others keeps Nines from being fully present in relationships. Avoiding internal conflict leads to inertia and self-forgetting.