growing up and being who I really am

Erin, 24. She/her pronouns. Living with fibromyalgia, EDS-hyper mobility , Chiari Malformation, bipolar II, chronic fatigue, binocular vision dysfunction, POTS, gastroparesis, IBS I like the smell of my favorite books, my dogs being happy to see me, and finding humor in everyday life.

[fibro-battling]

4, 18

4.  Have you ever changed for someone?  Somewhat.  I had a boyfriend who was very outgoing and when we were around his friends I would purposefully fade to the background.

18: What do you consider a deal breaker? Lying for me is really difficult to deal with.  So unless there is a legitimate reason for it, we’re gonna have a major issue. 

[fibro-battling]

Valentine's Day questions BE NOSY PLEASE

1: Do you have a crush at the moment?

2: Have you ever been deeply in love?

3: Longest relationship you've ever been in?

4: Have you ever changed for someone?

5: How is your relationship with your ex?

6: Have you ever been cheated on?

7: Have you ever cheated?

8: Would you date someone who's well known for cheating?

9: What's the most important part of a relationship?

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

13: What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

15: Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"?

16: Do you believe in "love at first sight"?

17: Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet?

18: What do you consider a deal breaker?

19: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?

20: Are you currently in a relationship?

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

22: Do you think people should date their friends?

23: How many relationships have you had?

24: Do you think love can last forever?

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?

29: What do you notice first about another person?

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

33: Do you want to get married one day?

34: What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed?

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?

36: Are you still a virgin?

37: What's more important: Looks or personality?

38: Do you enjoy love films?

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses?

40: Have you ever had a valentine?

41: What's your imagination of a "perfect date"?

42: Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"?

43: What's more important: Your partner or your friends?

44: Would you consider yourself "romantic"?

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?

46: Have you ever been "friendzoned"?

47: Which "famous couple" is your favorite?

48: What's your favorite love song?

49: Have you ever broken someone's heart?

50: If you're single, why do you think you are?

51: Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy?

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

53: Are you jealous of couples when you're single?

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on facebook)?

55: Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?

56: Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship?

57: Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?

58: Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship?

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary?

60: What's your opinion on open relationships?

61: Who's more important: Your partner or your family?

62: How do you define "cheating"?

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?

64: Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated?

65: Would you consider yourself a "cuddler"?

[fibro-battling]

Here we go..

HW: 226.2

CW: 221

Goal weight 1: 215

Goal weight 2: 209

Goal weight 3: 202

Goal weight 5: 197

Goal weight 6: 192

Goal weight 7: 187

Goal weight 8: 182

Goal weight 9: 177

Goal weight 10: 172

[kaylareads]

january monthly spread ✨

[studyblrforbeginners]

Can we as the studyblr community stop glorifying staying up until 3am?

Want to know the downsides?

It’s bad for your health

Your brain can’t process the information you’ve studied (so an all-nighter will most likely do more harm than help you succeed)

The quality of what you’re working on will go downhill if you don’t take breaks

It is bad for your health!

Go to bed on time and give your brain and your health a break. Take care of yourselves!

[trashfirefallon-deactivated2019]

raise your hand if you’ve been personally victimized by your own gastrointestinal tract

[clutchwokeup]

the autistic ping

Look, we’re not actually narcissists

When you talk to us about an emotional issue

And we respond with a personal experience or anecdote

We’re not trying to make the conversation about ourselves.

Most times (at least with me), I have to find an experience within myself that is similar to what you’ve described

So I can furnish an appropriate emotional reaction to what you’re experiencing.

It’s sort of like when you ping an IP address to fix a faulty Wi-Fi connection.

It’s not personal, it’s just how I navigate Feelings™.

[snakedance]

This is how many people on the Autism spectrum express empathy.  We don’t say things like “You must have felt so…” like neurotypical people are used to.  To us, that comes across as presuming to know.  We look to when we felt something that seems similar, and offer that experience.  That lets the other person decide whether we truly know how they feel.

[swirlymind]

When I do this I am trying to show you that I really do know how you feel, and not just saying something arbitrary to make you feel better. Since I’m not good at showing and expressing emotions or even knowing exactly what it is I am feeling, I barely know what others are feeling. But by relating situation to situation, I’m acknowledging what they are feeling now and that I felt a similar way once, so that any advice I give can sound like I’m feeling the right emotion.

[spiroandthelacktones]

Oh I had no idea this was an autism thing I always respond to people by talking about situations where I felt similarly

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

Literally this is so common they test for it during the diagnostic process.

[mohtivations]

[01/07/18]

0.30

i’m trying to consistently upload but it’s hard to think of what to take pictures of when school isn’t that demanding and i haven’t been taking that many notes hahahah

also currently writing some essays for summer programs woo

currently listening to:

long poem - moonmoon

[kateordie]

“What are you doing on tumblr if you’re over 25???”

Avoiding my responsibilities and giving in to depression, same as all of you

[memewhore]

[fibro-battling]

ID: Tweet from Duh doh which reads

 costume party

host: what are you?

me: a harp

host: ur costume’s too small to be a harp.

me: are you calling me a lyre

end ID 

[fibro-battling]

My boyfriend is a security guard at a hospital and texted me that his supervisor told them that from now on, they need to ask service dog handlers for “proper ID” for their animals.  Now luckily, he knew that this is freaking illegal and called them out on it (although it took an entire shift for them to do a simple 5 minute google search).   But that’s just one hospital. I’m sure this is happening all over the place.  It’s got to be infuriating for those of you with service animals. 

[glstudies]

first spread of the year!!! this winter break has FLOWN past and I am still not ready for the upcoming mocks :(

[twloha]

It’s okay to ask for help. The biggest lie we believe in fighting depression is that we are all alone, off on some island. I had to humble myself and be willing to ask friends and family for support during my lowest times. I was surprised to see how many people show up when you call upon them. You have to be willing to ask for help through the storm.

Hannah Brencher, “Working It: Hannah Brencher Uses Her Story to Inspire Honest Conversations About Mental Health” (via twloha)

[fibro-battling]

Me: I'm going to go take a nap

Dad: But you just got up

Me: Your point being?

[studyingmood]

Galaxy-themed spread

[tastefullyoffensive]

[finallyhaunted]

[Text reads “when you accidentally open the front facing camera.” Underneath is a photo of a dark brown dog’s face, its features sagging downward toward the camera.]

[yourpersonalcheerleader-deactiv]