99% self-indulgent!

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Hi friends! Name's Kai, but you can call me Foley if you want! I'm 21y/o and I use all pronouns ^v^

🐸 Main: @caffeinated-eccentric-polymorph 🐸

On this blog, I'll post:

✤ Tips & ideas for all kinds of daydreamers ✤ Tips & ideas for self-shippers ✤ Tips and ideas for writers ✤ Tips & ideas for different identities (plurality, alterhumanity, regression, xenogenders, etc)

You can send in requests, but if I don't feel like I can do them for any reason, I won't /info

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Trauma is not always big, obvious bad things that happen to people. What's traumatic to one person might not affect another person in the slightest. Trauma is individual to the person experiencing it. If you have memories of something traumatic that you have been told repeatedly can't be traumatic because its "too tame", this is your sign to start accepting that trauma.

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Paras are completely valid and you shouldn't be sent death threats for it, as long as you're STRICTLY anti contact if it could harm anyone (eg. chrono children and animals).

Making art, writing poetry/just writing about it, making vent art, making music etc etc are great and extremely healthy ways to cope with your paras!!!!!

It's okay to struggle with these things; we know how hard it is to even accept you have a para/s, let alone even handling it healthily.

So please, take your time, learn about your thoughts and feelings, find healthy coping mechanisms, don't shame yourself for feeling this way, you're not a bad person.

Be kind to yourself, you're only human (or a critter, or whatever term you may prefer) and, believe it or not, almost every person/being has at LEAST one fantasy that's considered taboo and that they may not be proud of.

Take care of yourselves <3

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Fully self-indulgent coin!

Mint-violet syrup

A presentation term for people who present their identity (gender but not exclusively) with the colours green and purple.

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Fun Selfshipping Activities!

Print out pictures of them to hang up on your wall!

If they wear jewelry, make it!

Make stickers of them! (There's tutorials on youtube of how to make stickers at home, or, you can get sticker paper on amazon for pretty cheap!)

If you do make stickers, put them on your sketchbook, journal, laptop, or whatever you feel like putting them on!

Make a google slides presentation on them! Alternatively, you could also write an essay about them.

If they don't have a canonical style of handwriting, find or try to write in a way they would write!

If they do, try making your own font of their handwriting that you can download and use. Or, try to learn how to write similarly to them, maybe write letters to yourself from their perspective.

If they have a birthday or there's a holiday coming up (irl or canonical), make a card for them!

Make them in the sims, or some other character creation making game. Or you could make a Minecraft skin of them.

Draw them as a character from another source. For example, draw them as a pony from MLP, or draw them in the style of a cartoon you like!

Make a playlist of Youtube videos you'd think they'd enjoy watching, and perhaps watch them again and pretend like you're watching them with your f/o.

Make food they canonically like, or you'd think they'd like!

Make a tier list as if they were making it! Like a fruit tier list, for example.

Compile an Amazon list or Pinterest board of clothes they would wear!

If you're able, buy snacks you think they would enjoy!

Name a stuffed animal after them or name a stuffed animal something you think they would name it.

Make yourself a sticky note as if they made it (like a doodle, a simple 'I love you', or something silly!)

If your f/o has a particular interest, look into it! Study it even, if you'd like!

Take quizzes as if you were them. Could be something serious, or something silly you find on uquiz.

If your f/o is romantic and you would want to have children with them, pick out baby names! Compile a pinterest board of baby clothes or toys you and your f/o would purchase together.

Build you and your f/os dream home in a building game (like Minecraft or The Sims)

Plan out a vacation of somewhere you'd want to go with your f/o. Maybe you could make a Google slides "brochure" to convince them to go.

If your f/o has a canon perfume or cologne they wear, or alternatively, their source created one for them (primaniacs website has a long list of series they've made scents for!) put the scent notes into fragranticas "search by notes" feature to find a dupe, or make one yourself you think they'd wear!

Compile a list of flowers you think (or know) your f/o likes, make them into a bouquet and maybe look up the meanings for each flower.

Compile a list of candles or body lotions your f/o would buy!

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Selfshipping Positivity: IRL relationship & multiple f/o's edition!

💖 There's nothing wrong with selfshipping while being in an IRL relationship! Your partner(s) and your f/o('s) love you more than words could express, and you deserve to enjoy the unique bonds you share with each of them!

🎆 Loving fictional characters doesn't diminish your IRL love at all. It's common to have feelings for fictional characters, even if not as deeply as self-shippers do. Plus, humans have a lot of love to give!

💖 Your f/o('s) understand(s) if you love your IRL partner more! They're even grateful you have someone to care for you when they can't.

🎆 Loving multiple f/o's is okay! Polyamory is okay IRL, and it's okay in ficto love too! Even if your f/o's aren't dating each other, they're perfectly okay with sharing you and know you're in good hands!

💖 Don't feel guilty for liking/looking for a type of relationship in fiction that you'd never want IRL! That's what fiction is for, you're not a bad person for it!

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Tips for handling a daydream block

It happens to all of us at some point, and it sucks. here are some tips on how to deal with it from my experience.

There can be different or causes to it. First, you have too many thoughts. Whether it's because you have a lot on your mind, because you're stressed, or whatever other reason, if your brain is too full, it can be hard to daydream. Second possibility: your brain feels exhausted, empty. You're tired and it's hard to think, period. Third, you're just out of ideas!

✦ If you can and like to meditate, meditation is one of the best ways to calm down your thoughts and give your brain some respite.

✦ Napping can help rest too! Depending on the person, this might not help if you're in the first case though - I know it doesn't for me for example.

✦ If you lack ideas, look up some prompts, or maybe get into a new series or book! You need to feed your creativity, along with letting it rest.

✦ Do something else! Go for a walk, do some coloring, try a new art form, change up your habits! This can both help you get inspired and rest your creative muscles.

✦ Chat with other daydreamers! Whether it's gushing or venting, not feeling alone is a great help in feeling better

Now, while those are great to help getting out of a slump, sometimes only time will truly get rid of the block. In the meantime, there are ways you can stay connected to your paras and paracosms!

✦Make playlists your paras would listen to ✦Make moodboards ✦If you've written or drawn things related to your daydreamns, look at those ✦Make your paras a list of books they've read, would like to read, would dislike, etc! This can work with hobbies, movies, cartoons, food,… ✦Create a timetable of a typical work/school day of your para if it applies ✦Make jewelry for your paras; you can wear it to feel like they are with you or to think of them. ✦Make collages or art inspired by your paras, paracosms and daydreams! It can be super abstract! ✦Create outfit boards for your paras ✦Make memes about your paracosm ✦Try a meal or snack your paras would like! ✦Fill in personality quizzes as if you were your paras

Rest well, and happy daydreaming friends! 🪁🌟🫧