Struggles of a Scorpio Venus & Mars
Hi everyone; this feels very uh scary because I literally feel like I’m about to share my personal feelings to a bunch of strangers on the internet but I’m still doing it anyway because I feel like it has the potential to help some people.
SO… I’m going to be specifically talking about jealousy/possessiveness issues. This is coming from someone with a Scorpio Mars (as you can clearly see), as well as Scorpio in the 2nd house, and a 4 planet 2nd house stellium. My other placements also are known for their possessiveness/jealous streak.
I’m not going to mince my words - it is indeed very, very difficult to control these feelings of jealousy and possessiveness so I’m going to share some of my thoughts and processes while dealing with these placements.
Firstly, do not romanticise the jealousy and the possessiveness. A lot of astrology blogs see jealousy as something hot and yes, to a certain degree it is, but when you’re the one feeling it (and feeling it to an overwhelming degree), it can be very agonising. It feels as if a knife is constantly getting stabbed into your chest.
Any Scorpio/Taurus dominant would feel like owning their partner - as in completely and wholly understanding them, every single part of them. It’s not limited to physical relations, but also knowing their vulnerabilities, goals, and philosophies. Everything. After all, it’s all about the intimacy.
They don’t necessarily want to dominate their partner, it’s just that they have a more primal complex that makes them go “mine” - it’s an ingrained thing.
Honestly, I feel like every Scorpio Venus/Mars’ most cherished fantasy isn’t sexual, rather, it’s the image of lying in bed with their partner wrapped around each other, and feeling the general warmth and just being able to be completely… open. I’ve observed that Scorpio placements rarely let people on their bed - their beds are often sacred. So lying in bed with a loved one without any reservations is something that they crave, deep in their hearts.
What these people want is to be understood. If you’re dating/friends with a Scorpio Venus/Mars, one way to help them lessen their jealousy or possessiveness is to confront them about it and ask why exactly they’re acting that way. Chances are, they’ll evade that question and spout some bullshit. But keep pressing on and they’ll break (u have to be close tho) and admit to you some deeply internalised fear. Once you understand the fears of a Scorpio Venus/Mars, everything will become clearer. Open communication is essential.
These people are known for their earnestness to commit, but let me tell you now that they will not unless they are 100% sure that you will be completely loyal to them. If they doubt you for even a second, they will always have reservations about being in a relationship with you.
If you (Scorpio Venus/Mars person) have a major air placement in your chart, it’s very likely that your air sign will be reasoning out your jealousy issues with you and knocking some sense into you telling you to snap out of it. LISTEN to that voice!! While those inherent traits will never go away, it helps you to remind yourself that no, your partner/friend isn’t going to leave you just because they’re with other people and yes, you sometimes are being irrational about your feelings.
Y’all Scorpio Mars/Venus people might be attracted to moody, broody, mysterious guys, and being able to have an immediate attraction is vital for any relationship with y’all but remember that they might not be what you need. I find it common that Scorpio Mars/Venus people will enter relationships with people who also have some major Scorpio placement in their chart BUT the ones that turn out “well” are the ones who have a partner that has a patient personality. The energy of a Scorpio Mars/Venus is very intense so they need someone who is willing to sit through it with them day by day, even when they are biting out words that were never meant to be said in stark moments of vulnerability. Someone who is willing to look them in the eye without walking on eggshells.
To people who have a Scorpio Mars/Venus in your life, understand that it is only because they value you so much, and they cannot stand to lose you, that they might behave this way. These folks hold a lot of baggage in their hearts and depending on their other placements, might never let you know about it unless they eventually break down (or unless you probe them continuously). Please understand - it’s another way of showing you that they love you.
To people that HAVE a Scorpio Mars/Venus, or other placements that suggest extremes of jealousy/possessiveness: whenever you feel yourself being overwhelmed by these feelings, take a deep breath. You need to trust in the person you hold dear. There must have been a reason you became fond of them in the first place, and one of those reasons most likely was their sense of loyalty.
Communicate with your loved one - don’t just hold it in. I know it’s hard, it’s really hard for me too hahaha but just take this perspective: one of the most Scorpion traits is their ability to do anything to make the person they love happy. If you acted on your jealousy/possessiveness, would it be making your partner/friend happy? I’m proud to be a Scorpio Mars and Venus because I just want my partner to be happy, above all, and I would rather die than cause them pain that could have been avoided.
The combination of both open communication and rational reasoning has the ability to tide a relationship/friendship far, remember that.
I hope all of you Scorpio Mars/Venus people have discovered an alternative way of looking at some of these issues. It’s really painful sometimes, yeah, but managing it in a healthy manner will always serve us better, and make us better people in the long run.
Sending all my love to all my Scorpio Mars/Venus peeps ❤️
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