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[gettingaglowup]

happy 2 years!

it’s been two whole years of Getting a Glow Up! it’s been such a fulfilling journey and the progress i have made since starting this blog warms my heart. i hope you all have found this blog helpful to you over this course of time. also, welcome to all my new followers! i hope this blog aids you with your journey.

in celebration of 2 years, i’ve changed the theme. hopefully this makes scrolling more pleasant! if there’s any issues with it don’t hesitate to lmk. i’ve updated my about me page and included a FAQ as well.

i’ve tagged *every* post i’ve made or reblogged with the appropriate topic. you can use my navi page to browse them & it offers an explanation on each tag!

→ my ask is always open, so if you need any advice or just want to vent, please feel free to shoot me one! i love reading and responding to them. ←

↓ here’s a copy and paste of the tag descriptions. they won't work if you’re on mobile :( so use the link to my navi page instead. ↓

posts created by me are under the tag ‘mine’.

self care

all things self care, including tips, ideas on how to incorporate it, and quotes.

self love

support, advice, and guidance on loving yourself in a variety of ways.

self improvement

suggestions on how to better yourself in every area of your life and achieve your goals. also includes productivity and academia related posts.

skin care

technical knowledge, ingredient breakdowns, and help with skin concerns.  

mental health

mental health resources and advice for managing and improving mental health.

glow up

challenges, how-to’s, and tips. there’s a large emphasis on the physical aspect of glowing up, but all areas are addressed. also includes self-maintenance.

i'd like to think these changes will be helpful and will make your experience of this blog more enjoyable. here’s to many more years of growth, love, and glowing up!

~ via 

[sk-lumen]

It's not your job to negotiate your worth to anyone.

[becomingthatgirl111]

https://www.tumblr.com/becomingthatgirl111/723302150909968384/hi-thank-you-for-answering-my-question-do-you

Thank you for answering one last thing

What is a mental diet ?

hey again! 🤍

to make a mental diet is to control your thoughts, identify which are the ones that harm you and fill your mind with the thoughts you want to have. it is also to eliminate all the content that is not benefiting you and only consume that which brings you something positive.

what can you achieve with a mental diet and why is it necessary?

mainly it is necessary to focus on what we want, create the life we want and be more positive.

promotes a better relationship with ourselves.

promotes positive emotional states.

helps us to achieve what we want.

how to make a mental diet?

identify which thoughts you want to change and which ones you want to replace them with. you can do this exercise by writing them down on a piece of paper.

you can also ask yourself questions like: what thoughts do i have to leave behind? what thoughts would i like to have from now on? what mentality do i have to adopt to achieve what I want?

when you have identified those thoughts, every time one appears ignore it, do not focus on it, you can recognize it and let it go, replacing it with a positive one or an action that distracts you from it.

negative thoughts fade away if we do not give them power.

from now on be persistent and focus on the thoughts you want to have, you can say affirmations or write them down, whatever resonates with you.

little by little these new thoughts will be the predominant ones.

also avoid consuming all content (especially in social media) that makes you feel bad and in turn consume inspirational content or content that makes you grow.

and i hope this has clarified your doubts, anyway soon i will write a post about my tips to stop this kind of thought.

[expensiveity]

you have to be very direct and intentional about what you will accept and what you will not accept. standards can not be ambiguous, you have to let the world know where you stand and live according to your very own compass.

[eyeofscottie]

shoutout to whoever rebuilding themselves in silence

[notlati]

i know good things are coming my way and i deserve them.

[free-my-mindd]

For your own peace of mind and sanity, don’t try to make sense of everything.

[honeyfaun]

Block them. Ignore them. Stop checking up on them. You won’t find happiness wondering if they’re happy.

[becomingthatgirl111]

some of my habits to stay healthy (body and mind) 🧘‍♀️🌿✨

have a set routine for every day (as i love it i always stick to it and i'm used to it)

exercise 5 days a week

rest from exercise 2 days

stretch before and after exercise

do at least 5 minutes of yoga every day (simple but effective exercises)

keeping track of my exercise (i like to be organized)

go for a run or walk in the evening, after lunch

incorporate to my diet foods such as: salmon, avocado, chia seeds (which i usually take every day) quinoa

always carry a bottle of water with me

drink a cup of tea a day (red, green, matcha, black, white, among my favorites) after meals

keep a record of my days, emotions, and feelings, in a diary (written and virtual)

meditate when I wake up and before going to bed

always keep my environment tidy as i like it

light incense (helps me to relax)

a lukewarm shower before going to sleep (helps me with the stress of the day or to feel better)

listening to positive affirmations and writing them down (i write down 5 for the morning and 5 for the evening)

spending time outdoors looking for new things to do

listen to or watch videos of people who inspire me and help me to keep improving my life

in the next post, i will share with you other habits that helped me to transform myself and change my negative ideas to much more positive ones 🤍

[malusokay]

Morning routine ideas

Creating a proper morning routine can be so much fun, especially now that so many people are starting summer break; it's the perfect time to get used to a new routine! <3

Open your curtains + Window. Fresh air and sunshine are always good for you.

Read something, waking up the brain, haha.

Say good morning to your pets and/or plants. It's something cute.

Wash your face and brush your teeth. Best feeling in the morning.

Drink a glass of water and take your vitamins. I like taking my vitamins on an empty stomach, so a bit before breakfast.

Make yourself breakfast; I never understood how people can go without breakfast. I would be dead by noon, lol.

Try eating breakfast outside; literally so relaxing.

Exercise, go for a walk, try some yoga or pilates.

Journal, Paint, blog. Do something creative that makes you feel good and inspired; I obviously write blog posts, hahah.

Brew a fresh cup of coffee or tea. Slay.

Connect with your friends or family. A simple good morning text is enough and might make their day a bit better :)

Choose an outfit. Whatever you feel comfortable with, your clothes should always empower you!

Put on your favorite perfume; I like 'Thank U Next' by Ariana grande, 'Black Opium' by YSL, or Victoria's Secret body spray.

Make your bed and maybe tidy up your room a bit.

List three things you want to do today. You can also write down more but don't push yourself too much.

Do your makeup and/or hair, I'm currently trying more simple makeup for summer, and I'm loving it!!

Listen to your favorite song, my fav atm is Cry Baby by The Neighbourhood, lol.

Please feel free to add more suggestions in the comments! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[becomingthatgirl111]

habits that bring you closer to your best version 🤍

stop living in the past focus on what you have now and what you want to achieve tomorrow

stop reacting to the negative ignore the negative, that which you do not like and which causes you discomfort, and replace all this with positive thoughts even if the situation seems complicated

recognize your achievements day by day they don't have to be only past achievements, every day we achieve something new even if we don't realize it, learn to see the positive in your days, there is always something small to be grateful for

take responsibility for what you think and feel be aware of your thoughts and emotions, nothing has meaning until you give it meaning, so try to always focus on the positive

speak nicely to yourself stop judging yourself or feeling guilty, change your negative internal dialogue, and talk to yourself the way you would like to be talked to

give power to the positive even in the most difficult moments, there is something to be thankful for, focus on the good in your life and make this habit a daily routine, always be thankful for something

be patient everything will come at the right time, so it is not worth losing faith

do different things every day do at least something different every day that helps you to connect with the best version of yourself, it can be a morning walk

be aware of your qualities and express them you can write down what are your qualities to be more aware of them and start to be more conscious of them in your day-to-day life, sure you have a lot of them and that makes you unique and beautiful

[blushydior]

getting ready for…

       𝐃𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐌 𝐆𝐈𝐑𝐋 𝐖𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐑

a winter post on getting through the winter flawlessly, warm, and cozily as a dream girl ♡ if you’re interested, look at my dream girl guides for summer and autumn!

my winter looks like traveling, cabin stays, new york, adventures and activities all the while staying cozy and warm inside surrounded by christmas lights, hot chocolate, candles, shopping music, and keeping to myself looking out my floor to ceiling windows with my books and loved one.

♡ table of contents

what does your ideal winter for this year look like? ideas, moodboards

physical: winter essentials, what to wear, beauty products, winter reads and bucket lists

mental: wellness, book recommendations

   ❄️ what’s your ideal winter? ❄️

like i always say: you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so what does your ideal winter look like? 

have a balance of attending holiday parties, walks in the city to see the lights, indoor shopping and staying inside, in your cozy space while keeping warm with a hot beverage and a good movie/book!

♡ bucket list ideas

create a winter routine! make sure to get your daily fresh air, staying physically & social active and uplifted to stay away from the winter blues. wake up earlier.

pick up a new hobby

spend more time away from your phone

make it a priority to avoid isolation

go skiing, snowboarding, ice skating

attend a ballet/musical

go on late night drives

take a drive to see the christmas lights

attend or host holiday parties or small gatherings with loved ones. have a game night!

try new recipes, bake goodies

most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.

♡ cozy winter habits

christmas movie marathon

playing classical music

sitting by the fireplace

making your christmas wishlist

take up crochet and knitting. make a hat, scarf, headbands, book sleeve, etc!

donate old clothes and toys

playing in the snow

wearing fluffy socks

make a new year vision board 

movie nights

try new ways to make coffee, hot chocolate…

buying christmas themed pajamas. match with your pets.

reading winter books and classics

go on a youtube throwback binge and watch bethany mota and meredith foster’s old christmas videos

keep writing in your diary

shopping or browsing through the city and malls to take in the holiday atmosphere

candlelit bubble baths

turning on the radio to listen to christmas music

                        physical

♡ winter essentials

moisturizer. with the colder seasons come with drier skin. make sure to invest in a good heavy moisturizer that soaks into your skin well. recommendations below.

sunscreen. it doesn’t matter what the season is, spf will always be important! don’t forget your neck and hands.

a pretty blush of your choice

get a new signature scent for winter

candles

cute onesies 

classic pink silk robe

a cute winter mug for when you add in mini marshmallows + whip cream/sweet foam for your beverages

♡ outfit essentials + my personal favorites

chanel earmuffs

santinni “an affair to remember” + “roman holiday” + “an american in paris” coats

chloe betty boots 

a cute fur + puffy jacket

black vivienne westwood leather gloves

ralph lauren cable knit sweaters

baker boy/fiddler hats

mini skirts. yes. i said it.

demonia boots (vigilance/camel line)

fur mini bags

oversized scarfs!

victoria secret silk robe

new and fresh bed sheets

knitted mini skirts

sam heidi bib puffer jacket

santinni “harlow” fur headband with bow

fur trim everything and anything. coats, boots, gloves, hats…

fur empty top hats

microfiber and leather ankle boots

leg warmers

tweed + knitted blazer and cardigan sets

moon boots

prada monolith combat boots

the arrivals moto jacket

bow tights

ugg earmuffs 

fleece tights that keep you warm and cute

hair bows and headbands

scarfs

sweater dresses will never not be my favorite

sunglasses

baggy denim 

half zip up pullovers

uggs (with bows) 

long trench coats + wool coatigans 

tote bags, small crossbodies 

trousers

the basics to layer. turtlenecks, mocknecks, wool crewnecks, leggings, long sleeves, thicker socks

and… the bear hat and scarf. i love it. don’t look at me.

                     beauty

♡ the colder weather calls for soft, sparkly and blushy looks!

blushed and flushed or nothing comes out in this post as well! the cold look is the absolute cutest.

glittery eyeshadow and highlighters

gradient lip combos

plum colored makeup looks for the holiday season

♡ beauty tips for the colder season

gear towards creams instead of gel moisturizers. creams are heavier, gel will hydrate your skin but it won’t last you through the whole day. you’ll eventually start your skin tightening and dry mid-day.

i always go through my sheet masks fast during the winter! run the extra serum on your neck, chest and hands.

Invest in face masks, a good face cream and lip product.

keep hand cream and lip balm on you!

 ♡ product recommendations

philosophy - snow angel, white cherry, and candy cane shower gel (or all of them tbh)

victoria secret - warm & cozy line

o’keeffe’s - working hands cream

fenty skin + dior addict lip oil

nature republic - fresh herb peach cleansing foam

laneige - cream skin toner & moisturizer

tatcha - the dewy skin cream, water cream, and overnight repair

amlactin - rapid relief restoring body cream

créme de la mer - ultra rich cream

etude house - soonjung 2x barrier intensive cream

kopari - ultra restore body butter

♡ nails 

pale, muted colors with decos! pinks, winter blues, nude, ombre, etc.

lots of deco and designs are my favorite

i usually go for coffin but with designs i love to recreate, long almond.

examples for both makeup and nails are in the photo above! ♡

♡ winter scent recommendations

voltaire zadig - this is her

ysl - mon paris

carolina herrera - good girl 

killian - angel share & love don’t be shy

fresh cream - warm cashmere

gucci - bamboo

chanel eau tendre

juliette has a gun - not a perfume

replica by the fireplace & jazz club

eilish - billie eilish

burberry - her

victoria secret - warm & cozy

              for the mind & soul

♡ reminders

keep up a routine and structure. switch it up when you feel called to. it can be hard when it’s cold and the days become darker but remember the feeling that comes with being active and getting things done.

take a list and write things down that you can enjoy in the winter and focusing on bringing more of it into your life for the season.

make yourself cozy and romanticize life! stock up on sweaters, get cute blankets, bake goods to enjoy and have your house smelling heavenly, play music in the background, and whatever your heart desires. 

♡ winter reads

sit by the fire or window, cuddled up in a blanket and dive into another world with bamb’s recommendations!

before the coffee gets cold - toshikazu kawaguchi

little women - louisa may alcott

murder on the orient express - agatha christie

one dark window - rach gillig

a christmas carol - charles dickens

the bear and the nightingale (winter trilogy) - katherine aden

sorrow and bliss - meg mason

sleepless nights - elizabeth hardwick

frankenstein - mary shelley

from lukov with love - mariana zapata

wuthering heights - emily bronte

six of crows and crooked kingdom - leigh bardugo

echo north - joanna ruth meyer

for the wolf - hannah whitten

disorientation - elaine hseigh cho

the winter duke - claire eliza bartlett

tinder - sally gardner

an unwanted guest - shari lapena

shiver - allie reynolds

the picture of dorian gray - oscar wilde

the overnight guest - heather gudenkauf

lapvona - ottessa moshfegh

murder for christmas - francis duncan

i want to die but i want to eat tteokbokki - baek sehee

behind closed doors - b.a paris

snow - orhan pamuk

the invisible life of addie larue - v.e schwab

lakesedge & forestfall (gothic fantasy duology)

- stay safe, warm and cozy. kisses from bambi ♡

[girlyaps]

it girl winters

hydrating skincare routine for those dry-skin days

surrounding yourself with only positive + engaging people

cozy sweaters / sweatshirts

a workout routine that works to meet your goals

a go-to puffer jacket to throw on over everything

soft bound moleskines + black muji gel pens

ugg boots are a must

40oz hydroflask with straw for hot cocoa or ice water

fenty gloss bomb lip luminizers

glossier ultra rich moisturizer

baby long sleeves

cute matching workout sets

slick back ponytails or simple blowouts

shiny, healthy hair and nails

journaling, meditating, stretching

a favorite pair of staple mid-rise straight jeans

new books to devour, one per week

whole foods; eg solid, protein packed meals + produce

bluelight glasses > headaches + eye pain

either eight hours of sleep or two per night (no in-between)

phone screen time less than 1hr 30mins

glossier you solid or sol de janeiro '62 all day every day

body care forever... scrubs, washes, oils, u name it

signature simple jewelry

lash serum or extensions for an effortless glam

hot girl treadmill walks when you're too tired to run

studying and revising daily

homemade matcha or starbucks rewards

saving money for meaningful purchases

loving yourself & finding joy in everyday

BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU !! xx

please enjoy and feel free to send asks with more prompts/q's !! 🧘‍♀️

[malusokay]

How to be confident

Confidence can get you incredibly far in life and make everything a lot easier; I consider myself a really confident person, so here are a few tips that might help you get there! <3

Eliminate toxic people. I don't care if it's your best friend, boyfriend, or mom; if they are stopping you from being the best version of yourself, it's time to say goodbye.

Fix your posture! Confident people have good fucking posture, and sweety, I just know your posture is not it rn, so please straighten that back.

Do what makes you happy. Who cares what people have to say about it? If it's good for you, do it.

Tell yourself you're that girl. Nobody will believe it if you don't do it, so hype yourself up!

Practice eye contact. I can just tell someone is confident if they can look me in the eyes while having a conversation. It seems much harder than it actually is; pick one of their eyes and just focus on it while you talk.

Speak with tone and expression. Talking in a quiet and monotone manner doesn't necessarily make you look insecure, but talking with expression just sounds more confident.

Make your hand visible. When you hide your hands, it makes you look insecure and uncomfortable.

Mind your own business. This one is really simple; I don't think I have to explain, lmao.

Don't tell people your insecurities because 99% of the time, they didn't notice them before you pointed them out.

Accept compliments. If someone says you look good, don't be like, "oh nooo, I look AWFUL" just say thank you and accept the compliment :)

Stop over-apologizing. Only say it if you actually did something bad or feel sorry.

Visualize the person you want to be. It's pretty simple, think about who you want to be, then think about how that person acts, their routine, how they talk, etc., and slowly start adapting those habits.

Don't be nervous to ask for help. Instead, change your mindset; people want to help you!

Authenticity radiates, be true to yourself, and you will attract good people like a magnet.

No one is out of your league if you act like it. This entire 'league' thing is made up, so don't put yourself in a box.

Trust yourself. You have a bad feeling; you know it and act on it. If you feel like something is not right, it's probably not. Trust yourself.

Stay calm under pressure. It's crucial to not freak out under pressure; even if you do, try acting as if everything is under control.

When entering a room, don't be on your phone. Look around, introduce yourself, greet people, etc.

smile more :)

walk like you know where you're going, even if you don't lol.

Live for yourself. Constantly work on not caring what other people think. If you like it, you post it. If you want to go there, go. If you like that outfit, wear it. Make decisions for yourself, not for others to validate you. It's your world, and every decision you make is because you want to make it yourself!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[luvelylili]

˚ *· SELF CONCEPT HOLY TRINITY ·* ˚

everything always works out perfectly for me.

manifesting is easy and instantaneous for me.

i am always successful at getting what i want.

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[blushydior]

         morning routine ideas 🥞🫖

how you spend your morning dictates your whole day. create a relaxing structure to truly get yourself ready before heading out into the world ♡

wake up early; before 8am.

don’t go on your phone. right when you wake, bask in the silence and background noise.

meditate by focusing on your breathing.

say affirmations to yourself: “i have woken up in my desired reality. today will be a good day. i am okay. i’m healthy, beautiful, and inspiring. something amazing will happen to me today. i am kind and gentle towards myself.”

stretch!

open up any blinds to let the light in

make your bed. tidy up your space.

say hello and cuddle with your pet(s)

wash your face & brush your teeth

walk your pet(s)

make a simple breakfast and drink water and/or tea and eat it outside or looking out the window.

journal. self reflect, how you feel, what you’d like to accomplish, etc. make it a goal to be more kind to yourself and keep your thoughts in check.

read a few chapters of your current read. 

what are some things you need to get done today? make a plan and set out to get it checked off.

exercise, try a new routine.

choose an outfit, do your hair, try some new looks for the season. have fun. try new things, who knows? maybe you’ll end up loving it.

go on a walk in your neighborhood. 

get in 10,000 steps

buy yourself flowers.

light a candle

put on your favorite feel good songs. let yourself go and freely sing and dance to it.

begin your studies.

rest if needed!

try a new recipe

spend time in nature

[sonasi]

sunday reset routine <3

first things first…

clean out any trash in your room. throw it all away, and take any dirty dishes out of your room as well

return things to where they belong. Move your computer from your bed to your desk, move your bags back to their hanger, you get the idea

reorganize messy areas. Drawers, shelves, or cabinets whatever has become disorganzied or messy over the week

do your laundry. It’s okay, we all get that big mess of dirty clothes that just piles up throughout the week.

Now time to deep clean!

take time to wipe down all surfaces. Use disinfecting and cleaning wipes to remove collected dust and dirt. This includes desks, tables, counters, etc. 

strip your bed. Wash the sheets, comforter, blankets, and pillow cases

vacuum the floor. Pick up any small pieces of trash you might’ve missed 

put away all your clothes. Once they’re done washing, don’t just leave them in the hamper. Fold them up and put them away where they belong

Focus on yourself

shower & skincare! On my Sunday resets, I like to take longer showers and use all my body scrubs and body butters and shower gels. wash your face with cleanser, scrubs, exfoliant, etc. moisturize and use a face roller for a few minutes. Id also recommend doing a face or hair mask

light some candles and meditate. Doing a longer meditation will make your headspace feel less cluttered and more put together. it’s like organizing in your head! This would be a good time to cleanse your crystals as well

journal. Take out your journal and write down your goals and plans for the week. you can also take this time to write manifestations, affirmations, or do a few journal prompts.

finally, do whatever you want. At the end of the day, when everything has been cleaned and organized, you can take time to yourself and do whatever you feel like doing. Not all of us have the time during the week to just relax and do what we want in that moment, so take this time to do that! you can watch youtube, draw a picture, play a game, whatever you want.

stay safe lovelies <3 :3