not posting this on twitter because this is where my long opinions go
from one white, american phannie to another: shut the fuck up, this is not about you.
latam, asian, and african phannies, i’m so sorry if what dan initially said hurt you. i’m sorry if he mistakenly framed your country in a poor light. i’m sorry if he made you feel more exluded than you already do. ignorance is poorly emphasized by humor sometimes, and it’s not a good look, i speak from experience of having my foot caught in my mouth about things i really know nothing about. i hope his explanation and apology were enough to let you forgive him, and if it wasn’t, you still have every right to be upset by what he said and the situation as a whole.
i love dan so much, i’m sure most people who were braver than me to come out and criticise him in a mature and respectful manner do, too. in fact, i believe they love him the most, as they cared enough to let him know he fucked up and they want to see him learn and grow in real time. i apologize for having not said anything; by the time i saw the tweet, enough people had flamed him for it, and i’m not one to partake in the serious issues that happen over there. that’s not to say i think everyone who called him out is dramatic or wrong, because i don’t think that at all. i think you’re all incredibly intelligent people with enough emotional maturity to not be afraid to say what you really feel and mean to someone that means so much to you. we all know dan can clap back pretty well, especially if he doesn’t think he’s in the wrong, so that can be scary, but i’m happy to see he noticed how his comment was hurtful, unfortunate it took him a minute to notice, though. we all fuck up, but we also all learn.
to anybody that stood up for another phan, i thank you. to anybody that stood up for themselves, you’re so so brave. i’m sorry this is the world we live in, i’m sorry the tour isn’t coming to you, i’m sorry you’re forced to miss out. i’m sorry on behalf of any and all other white, privileged phannies who make you feel unwelcome or uncomfortable here.
i saw someone say none of us can truly feel the happiness of this new era of dan and phil until everyone is able to see the show, and i think nothing could be more true. i know, one day, we’ll all get to see the show, even if it’s uploaded to youtube, and that’s a beautiful thought, too, but i know how disappointing it can still be to miss it, live. i was late to tatinof and only saw the last 20 minutes. i was inactive during wad and didn’t get tickets. watching either on youtube is nowhere near the same experience as watching it live, though, so i completely understand how, even if a live recording comes out (it will), it won’t be the same, and i’m sorry about that.
i know i started this with “white american phannies need to shut the fuck up,” and i’ve been quiet all day, but now that he’s apologized, i just wanted to let y’all know you have someone in your corner, and that includes dan and phil, that includes the phannies with empathy and compassion. i’m sorry we fuck it up and don’t do our best sometimes, but we are here for you. <3