Today, Danny and I boarded a plane to fly to NYC to make GROWING UP (AND OTHER LIES). This may sound moderately exciting to you. ‘Oh, cool, they get to get on a plane to go make their movie. Nice!’ But filmmaking is a long, painful, exhilarating lesson in delayed gratification. It’s more than moderately exciting. It’s more than exciting. Picture this…
You have an idea for something you want to do, and then you start working on it. You work and work and work, then you work some more, and finally, after a few months, you start telling people about it. Nah, they say, it still needs more work. You knew this, so you work some more. And then some more. You show it to more people. Another month. Hey, they, say, that’s pretty cool. It still needs more work, of course. Of course, you say. It’s not nearly finished. But can you imagine how cool it’ll be when it is finished? Stunning. The best.
Onwards, you go. Problem is, you can’t make this thing yourself. You need to convince others — people to give you their money, their time, their talent, people to love it as much as you do, people to do things you could never possibly do. And they all have to do what they do well, or else it just won’t work. So you send it to more people. A lot of them say nice things. ‘Oh, that’ll be great!‘ Yeah, you ask? You want to give XXX and be a part of it? Sometimes, they say no. But they’re often kind about it — they can’t wait to see it when it’s done! Sometimes, they aren’t so kind — ‘it’s just not for me,’ they say. Other times, they don’t say anything at all. They’re not sure if they want to be part of it. Not yet, anyway. Get back to them…when it’s further along. Then, when you get back to them, they often don’t even call you back. At all. Sometimes, rarely, every once in a blue moon, they say YES. Those are good days.
This process can take a year, if you’re extremely fortunate. In many cases it takes five years. Sometimes, it takes longer than that. Yes. We’re talking about years. At this point, you might be thinking: “What could possibly be worth years?” I should add, by the way, that this thing is not just a passing fancy that you spend 20 minutes a day on; no, you’re spending a majority of your productive hours working on this thing. And again, it takes years.
Now, picture this. You’ve been pushing this rock up a mountain for years, and one day, suddenly, someone tells you that you get to make this thing. Your years of work have paid off! Enough people have said yes in enough capacities that you get to make it! The joy. The years of frustration are unleashed. THAT is what it felt like getting on the plane today. THAT is what we’re dealing with now, as we take in our first night in New York, where we will shoot GROWING UP (AND OTHER LIES). We’ve flown here five, six times over the years for writing and research. We’ve had literally hundreds, if not thousands, of meetings that have been spent writing, thinking, pitching, pushing, you name it.