Everyone wants to find love. Love gives meaning to human life. But.. what is love? Perhaps love in a biological sense is just hormones to ensure the survival of humankind but.. in an emotion sense, I think that love is so much more. People say they love their significant other because "he/she makes me feel blahblah, treats me well" but slap me, I don't think that's really loving someone else. I think that's loving yourself, and don't get me wrong, that's completely fine. To me, love is selfless. It shouldn't be about you. There is no you. Love is when you devote yourself to another person wholeheartedly. Your actions become motivated by them. You seek purely to improve their wellbeing. True love isn't about finding someone because you're lonely or you need someone. It's about loving someone for who they are. I think the trait that would define love the most is that it is UNCONDITIONAL. We don't choose to fall in love, but we can choose to stay in love. That's why couples break up after their honeymoon phase is over when they are exposed to each other's flaws. That's why marriages fail, because couples give up on each other (of course, there are circumstances). Yes it is illogical, and well, bless you if you manage to fall in love with someone who doesn't think the same way. Love is irrational afterall. But imagine. Humans are made to be different. If we were all the same we would never have been able to come thus far. It is the fact that we build on each other's strengths and compensate for each other's weaknesses that we become stronger. If two people love each other, imagine what they can achieve. They would do anything to protect each other. The devotion of themselves to each other, building on each other's strengths and compensating for each other's weaknesses, can undoubtedly bring them to new heights, like a puzzle being completed. Loving someone else also takes our sight off our own problems. Sometimes we need to stop wallowing in self-pity by seeing that the world is beyond us. Imagine if humans learnt to love like that.. what a beautiful world this would be (not that it isn't beautiful already). Of course, it is a rather naive thought that this is possible. Rather, it is an ideal. It would be near impossible for anyone to constantly purely love someone. But then.. ideals are there for us to achieve (If an ideal is already achieved, then humans would have no reason to struggle in life anymore, would they?). As long as we continue to strive for such perfection, it will come to fruition. I don't think that many people recognize this, and that's why so many relationships fail. When our ego encompasses others' wellbeing, you know that's not loving others. Or when we are in love with the idea of love, hmm not right is it? And this doesn't just apply to romantic love. It applies to love for family, friends and even an interest or object. I want to surround myself with people I know I can love who will reciprocrate the same way. It is rather painful when you dedicate yourself to someone but they do not return it. That's why, when the time comes and I meet a man worthy of my loving, I won't let him go +__+
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