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mysharona1987

Not only that, it’s literally in the driver’s training manual that it is safer to stop your car and sleep on the side of the road than drive tired. Driving tired is as bad as driving drunk. It is actually a DANGER to make sleeping in your car illegal.

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poemswords

“I miss you,’ he admitted. ‘I’m here,’ she said. ‘That’s when I miss you most. When you’re here. When you aren’t here, when you’re just a ghost from the past or a dream from another life, it’s easier then.”

— Neil Gaiman, American Gods (via books-n-quotes)

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duckypi

*somehow always ends up masturbating*

thegoodvybe

dear people who walk up two steps at a time on the stairs: what do you need to prove

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michellepsychologist

Assertive Communication 🗣

Assertiveness

When communicating keep in mind your experiences, such as, feelings, thoughts, & behaviors might be differ from others.

Thoughts and emotions if not handled properly can get in the way off effective communication.

It’s easy to misunderstand what the other person is communicating. We tend to react to what we think they are saying.

Types of Communication

Passive

Overview: those who communicate passively tend to be submissive and compliant. They don’t expresse their feelings or thoughts.

Consequences: give into others and don’t get what they want.

Aggressive

Overview: person will be demanding and hostile. They come of rude and insensitive. At times they can use intimidation to get what they want.

Consequences: upset others and becomes angry and resentful. People will distance themselves.

Passive-Aggressive

Overview: this type of person will say what others want to hear to evade conflicts, but at the same time they will feel anger and resentment.

Consequences: creates future problems for not following through what was established during communication.

Manipulator

Overview: here the person will make others feel guilty to obtain what they want. Other times the communicator will play the victim as well.

Consequences: upsets other people and loses their trust and respect.

Affirmative

Overview: this type of person has healthy communication. They express their needs and emotions in a direct, respectful and honest manner. They actively listen to others and take responsibility for what they say.

Consequences: good relationships and effective communication.

Tips on Assertive Communication

Be specific when speaking.

Use “I” statements.

Decribe what you heard and observed instead of judging.

Politely ask the other person what they understood. This helps prevent future misunderstandings.

Provide positive feedback.

State your limits and boundaries in the beginning.

Saying “No”

Saying “no” does not make you a bad person. There are ways of saying it respectfully, for example:

I’m sorry, but I can’t take on anything else at the moment.

I’m busy, maybe some other time.

I would love to, but I have too much on my plate right now.

At this very moment I can’t, but let me point you to the person who might be able to help.

Keep in mind these responses are enough. You do not need to further explain anything.

“I” Statements

These type of statements help communicate your thoughts and feelings without verbally attacking or acusong the other person. When we are upset we communicate defensively. For example:

Wrong: You can’t continue arriving late! You’re not considerate and completely disrespectful!

Correct: I become worried when you are late. I feel Iike you aren’t considering how I am feeling. How can we arrive to an agreement?

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hmmm

showerthoughtspost

Gollum was the real hero of LOTR. He kept the ring secret and safe for 500 years and then sacrificed himself to destroy it after Bilbo foolishly brought it back to the surface world.

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who else just wants to go absolutely wild and bake some cookies with a pretty girl?? go nuclear and make some tea?? absolutely lose their fucking mind and curl up under a blanket??