[mayonezli]

[triflingthing]

Love dinner guests, stay forever (if forever is 11:59PM)

[dianahastings]

[doctorcurdlejr]

sometimes I get sad when I think about all the people who are missing out on the pleasures of life only because they've decided it wasn't for them before they even gave it a shot :(

[foxeia]

[financeprincess]

Just know that the work you put into yourself will always compound and pay you back 100x. And there’s no rush to a finish line, everything is always a work in progress. I will never regret going to college, buying books, courses, classes, investing in hobbies, traveling, the gym and workout classes, high quality organic food, good healthcare, high quality clothing, taking care of my skin/hair/nails/teeth/brows/lashes/etc. because it all snowballs into the larger picture. No one can take your education from you. No one can take your fit body and healthy, glowing appearance from you. It takes real work day in and day out to have it all together. I’ve invested thousands of dollars and countless hours into myself and I would do it all again and then some. There is no easy fix and there is no get rich quick scheme. You know what you have to do, it just takes the courage to do it.

[naaicha]

normalize being out of the loop...... like what is even going on lol

[cakkewaltz]

Spring Palace - Bucharest

[penandpaper-love]

December 8th, 2023

Tired. Got the last pages of my dissertation back today. Quite some work ahead of me... Tired.

[myelicia]

Ciel rose en hiver - Fabienne Delacroix

[thehopefulquotes]

“Have a little bit of faith in yourself and let that be your most beautiful quality. Take in a little more of softness in your day to day tasks and allow your inner stillness to guide you into peaceful efficiency.”

— Juansen Dizon, Working With Softness

[somisi]

[ace-and-ranty]

I gotta say, one of the greatest achievements of my 20s was that I learned (mostly) to differentiate between:

"I truly do not want to go" and

"I'm just feeling the Demand Avoidance, and I will like it once I get there."

[ace-and-ranty]

Well, goodness, this one resonated much more than I was expecting. I mean, I get it. My mind was also blown wide open when I found out "demand avoidance" was a thing that existed, and that I'm not the only weirdo in the world who suddenly wishes it wasn't her birthday after anxiously waiting for her birthday for days.

Loads of people in the tags are asking how I do it? I feel this won't be groundbreaking advice, but here is what I have learned:

Previous experience. Really no way around it. Now that I hit thirty, I feel like I have done enough things to know, intellectually, from experience, what will feel nice if I overcome the avoidance, and what won't. For example, every time I go to the beach, I wake up early and would rather eat a tire than get off the bed. But I remember that every time I got up and went to the beach, I was glad I did it. So I just get up, feeling like shit, and get ready, feeling like shit, and I get to the beach and magic!! I feel great, I love the beach!! Sometimes you just gotta do it scared feeling kinda like shit.

Am I avoiding the thing or getting to the thing? I have a lot of demand avoidance around just, y'know, getting up, getting ready and going out the door. Universal human experience. If I notice that doing the actual thing (Swim in the pool!) sounds nice, but I'm avoiding having to rally myself to go do that (Fetch swimsuit! Sunscreen! Towel!), then I know it's demand avoidance and I should just fucking go.

Is the thing making me feel excited at all or just anxious? I have had previous occasions when I did the opposite; I convinced myself it was just demand avoidance when I really just. Hated the thing. And wanted to stop. If you feel a mix of excitement and dread, or excitement and anxiety, that might be demand avoidance. But if thinking of doing the thing just makes you feel actively anxious, then yeah. You don't want to do the thing.

Do the thing a little bit. Used often with dishes. I've seen this advice float around Tumblr a lot and it's correct. Commit to doing just a bit of the thing; a little bit of the thing; the smallest bit of the thing you can do. Getting started will make it clear right away if you don't want to do it (and in that case, you have permission to stop), or if you just having trouble getting started.

[mednerds]

Exercise and Memory

Every single time you move your body, you are releasing a whole bunch of neurochemicals. The good mood comes from dopamine, serotonin, and noradrenaline, but the thing that also gets released, particularly with aerobic exercise, is a growth factor called a brain-derived neurotrophic factor, or BDNF. And that is important because it goes directly to your hippocampus, and helps brand new brain cells grow. The hippocampus and related brain circuits allow us to take certain experiences and commit them to memory. If you are exercising, it is like giving your hippocampus a boost with BDNF. This means that we all have the capacity to grow a bigger, fatter, fluffier hippocampus. I like to give people this image of every single time you move your body, it’s like giving your brain this wonderful bubble bath of neurochemicals. And I’m not going to cure my father’s Alzheimer’s dementia, but you know what? If I go into my 70s with a big fat, fluffy hippocampus, it’s going to take longer for that disease to start affecting my ability to form and retain new long-term memories of facts and events, which is my motivation for getting up and doing my 30 to 45 minutes of aerobic exercise every day.

- Dr. Wendy Suzuki, Ph.D., Professor of Neural Science and Psychology on Huberman Lab Podcast #73

[serialsmokr-deactivated20240113]

golden hour ☆

[byzbi]

orange appreciation post

[foxeia]

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