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Ladies, not all men are the same. Instead of being bitter, stop choosing the same kind of men and looking for love in all the wrong places. At the end of the day you have to realize that you are the common denominator in all your past relationships. You get what and who you tolerate. You have to take responsibility for both your actions and inactions, the energy you are transmitting, and commit to practicing some new approaches that can bring about change. It all begins with you. No more ignoring red flags. No more putting your wants and needs on the back burner. No more thinking you aren’t good enough. No more giving the best parts of yourself to the wrong people. No more forgiving people who deserve your silence. When you know every ounce of your worth, self love becomes your light and shining armor making your invincible in every way😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4foEhBnrrP/?igshid=1cxv83t3yyg9a

The worst thing you could do is become cold because of past experiences. Don’t let someone that didn’t love you keep you from the one that will. Don’t allow your wounds turn you into someone you’re not. _ Love doesn't hurt. Someone that didn't know how to love you did. Maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow, but soon someone special will come into your life that will fill your heart up with so much joy and happiness, that you will see why it never worked out with anyone else 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4c_yKjHuVt/?igshid=1lvu4z4icxmdm

...And still living and standing to testify about overcoming the storm. Grateful for it all. Without the lows, there’s no way I would appreciate the highs. I’ve come a long way from the woman who was once broken, misguided, insecure and confused. I wouldn’t change my journey for anything. _ Sometimes you have to crumble and hit rock bottom in order to make the necessary changes in your life. My break up was the best thing that ever happened to me. To say I found my voice is an understatement. I not only stood up for myself, but spoke my mind and stopped letting people take advantage of me. The heartache slowly went away, and I realized I was so much stronger than I thought I was. I experienced a rebirth and realized I was put on this Earth for a divine reason: to help other women who are and were in my shoes realize that heartbreak is not the end. No matter how bad someone hurt you, life does go on. Once you hit rock bottom, there's only one way up. I know because this happened to me. And I know if I was able to get through this, so can you 🙏💕✨ https://www.instagram.com/p/B4aaCNPHdjB/?igshid=1ry0cr936tu1w

Be careful of the company you keep. All that glitters isn’t gold. Your intuition already knows and the Universe is just reconfirming. Pay attention to your gut feeling and do what’s best for you. Sending you love, peace, and discernment. ☮️💕💫 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4X0EE_ncuT/?igshid=12tgmkfrdwn7z

Character always wins. Always stay true to who you are no matter what. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. The world needs all the love, kindness, and compassion you have to offer. Trust that your loyalty and devotion will be reciprocated one day by the one who will love you again and again and never take your love for granted. 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4VLCq7nvJn/?igshid=1orl4zkl1r7gk

Listen, I've been there. I did my fair share of “investigating” in the past. And let me tell you, it was exhausting. I’ve learned when you go looking for something, you will always find something. And whether you do find or don’t find anything that may raise a red flag, know that if you ever have to question your partner's loyalty, that’s a big sign you need to reevaluate your relationship. Insecurity and trust issues will only drive your crazy and have you second-guessing every little thing. The time is now. Face what you must face. Trust your instincts and move on. You owe it to yourself to seek a love you never have to question 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4SkuKOnWJL/?igshid=p8oibn4qlsbt

Stop settling for crumbs. Some people will do the bare minimum to keep you strung along, but there are men out there that can live up to your standards and even surpass them. Waiting for Mr. Right will always be better than settling for Mr. Right now. You won’t realize how poorly you’ve been treated until the right one comes along and treats you like the Queen you are. All it takes is one person to love you the right way😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4QGL_2HKh9/?igshid=1eixt3cmdodjl

After my relationship came to an end, I became single for the first time since I was 18 years old. The transition from being engaged to being single was a challenging one. I had to figure out what to do with just myself as a woman. I wasn’t mentally ready to get involved with another man (aka rebound), and I promised self I would not seek another relationship until I was fully “healed.” Not to mention, I had a heart, identity and a world that I needed to put back together. After taking three years to assess my wants and needs, I realized that ultimately the experience of being a single was not only vital to my well-being, but it was absolutely necessary. And you know what? It was by far the best decision I've ever made. Those years taught me the importance of being kinder and gentler with myself no matter how much I mess up, gave me the courage to go out and try new things, explore the world, and do whatever makes me happy. There's nothing more exhilarating and empowering than rebuilding yourself- changing, growing, and working toward a better you 🙌❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4NY5qUnBZC/?igshid=x9arznml8ncr

Mistakes don't decrease your value. No matter what you've been through, no matter what poor decisions you've made in the past, you are still worthy. You are worth being pursued, you are worth being cherished, you are worth loving, you are worth being someone's everything. Once you rewire your mindset, embrace your wounds with love, and let go of the toxic belief of “What if I’m not good enough?,” your undervalued strengths will be uncovered and greater self-worth revealed 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4K9oB2HRNB/?igshid=p51zx52u7ocr

So many of you have stories that are pulling at your heart strings. Fighting battles others know nothing about. Whatever the situation or circumstance, please know you will can make it through the storm. I know it gets hard sometimes, you feel weary, and your faith is being tested, but look how far you've come. This chapter is just part of your story and your destiny is still being written. _ Be kind and compassionate with yourself as you're going through the process of healing old wounds. It takes time, it takes practice, and it takes a whole lot of love. In the end, your inner work will radiate at the core and shine everywhere, into everything, and everyone. Sending love and light to everyone who’s trying to heal from things they don’t discuss. 🙏💕💫 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4IZoktHSDt/?igshid=6b92a44ihsj4

Don’t ever allow history be an excuse to let yourself to be disrespected time and time again. There’s a message in the way he treats you.Never compromise your wants and needs for the sake of a relationship. You don't have to accept things you're not okay with. You don't have to sacrifice your happiness for someone else's. Love is NOT enough if it’s just love. This is your life. Stop letting anyone else steer it for you. Sometimes us leaving is the only thing that can wake someone up from their narcissistic and self-centered behavior. It’s time to let go and turn the page. Your next chapter awaits 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4Fq-ZMnri5/?igshid=fc6s60wb6qls

It is discouraging when things don’t go as planned, but don't ever allow anyone to have full control over your life. Don't let anyone dictate your attitude. Use the pain as fuel. Fuel to do better, be better. When you stop focusing on the negative things that are out of your control, and start focusing on what you can control and start seeing the bigger picture, that’s when things start to fall into place. _ I've been through a lot but the heartbreak from my broken engagement was by far the deepest pain I had ever felt in my entire life. I thought the tears would never stop streaming down my face. It felt like my insides were being ripped out. But life had to go on. I learned that you cannot stop because one part of your life is over. If you are still breathing, that means it is not over. With each setback comes a new beginning. What was meant to bring me down has only made me stronger. And while disappointments are part of life, I know that I’m more than capable of overcoming anything and everything that ever comes against me. 😘♥️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B4Aio9rnMRo/?igshid=cahiohml5p11

You are not your past. Don’t drown yourself in shame and feelings of inadequacy. Don’t hide behind your past hurts. Don’t try to hide your “supposed” flaws in fear of rejection. Don’t allow your identity to be based upon how someone sees you. _ The right person will love everything about you. He won’t see you differently, he won’t be halfway in, he won’t have you second guessing yourself. He will continue to pursue you even when fear and worry creeps it’s way to the surface. Instead of feeling uncomfortable by the weight of your past, he will be understanding and patient with you. He will be gentle with your heart and help you be write a new ending based on love. Be patient and trust your journey. The best is yet to come, my dear 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B3-Fq6MnPbg/?igshid=1bi26s8v0lce0

Many times we find ourselves in situations where we have to make a decision about choosing between what we want and what’s good for us. Whether to hang in there or to walk away. I know this may be harder for some to digest as you struggle with what you’ve been told for so long, but it’s so true- sometimes in life loose ends are necessary. Life is all about growing, and sometimes we grow in different directions. Try not to allow a temporary good moments cloud your vision and miss out on the chance of finding something magnificent. You owe it to yourself to live the life that you desire. _ Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to change any and every part of your life in an instant. It’s time to be more intentional and aware of the energy people bring to your life and act accordingly. Your next chapter awaits. 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B37cLHInQO2/?igshid=aovybx6j2cmi

No matter where you've been or what you've been through, remember it's not your fault. You can’t control what your ex said or did. They stay or leave because of decisions they make, because of reasons that have to do with them. It is not a reflection of who you are. Keep on going, keep love in your heart, and remind yourself everything will work out the way that they’re supposed to. There will always be love...the right kind of love that you want and deserve. And when your paths meet you will understand why it didn't work out with anyone else. 😘❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B341oPmHUik/?igshid=8zrhtki58unz

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It’s been 1 whole year since I promised you forever, and I still get so emotional when I think about it—my tears that wouldn’t stop falling right before the ceremony, your handsome self as you stood waiting for me at the alter, our hand-written vows, the peace I felt as I looked in your eyes, and the love that radiated from all our closest family and friends. . . John, my love for you grows leaps and bounds with every minute that passes every single day. They say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, but honestly, it just keeps getting better and better. Thank you for showing me that Corinthians 13 kinda love. Kind, patient, loyal- Babe, you are ALL that and more. I feel so blessed to call you my husband. Happy anniversary. 1 year down, and FOREVER to go! 💍💕🙏 https://www.instagram.com/p/B32RdqyHK7l/?igshid=awee633e3jsf

Those who are intimidated by you will try to project their fears, insecurities, and feelings of inadequacy onto you. Don't internalize that. Shake it off. Never apologize for not being what they are used to. Stay strong and remember you have that kind of spirit that just can’t be extinguished. 💋❤️💯 https://www.instagram.com/p/B3zyGypH0ME/?igshid=150a1vj6gryua

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