When we are asked of our Ideal mate, we often say something related to beauty and fortune. Like we talk about more of ourselves, our wants and needs, expectations and standards that setup our level of satisfaction. But, why do we need that thought of ideal partner if for the first place, its merely about our selfish desires? Is that what really entice our mind to get involved in a relationship? And how about the benefits of the other? Does he/she good enough to satisfy your minds without giving off something for them? I'm about to post this on my Facebook, cause I'm too engage on it and I guess my words give aspiration to others (I hope so Hahaha). Most of what I read on my newsfeed is about ideal partners. I came in an idea on how do we really set our mind into it. Is it because of the culture we've grown up with and be part of our personal taste or is it something, perhaps, an influence of media that triggers our emotional content? And I asked myself, "Do I have any difference to them? Do I really have a high standards why I remain single out of this age?". When a lady keeps on tagging herself as NGSB or simply, single at her age of twenty something, people will tend to be more intrigue of your taste rather than your story. It's like presumptuous queries of expectations than experiences. Its like looking for the summary of a book and got a verdict out of it without lending a read on its content. And people always do that, no matter how you deny, with some point of your life, you will somehow see yourself agreeing on this. But let me assess myself. Actually, I also have this set of standards since I was young. Before, I'm dreaming of someone more of physical attributes. Like a good looking boy with pointed nose, cute lips, knows how to play basketball so well like Rukawa in Slam Dunk. I even wanted to attract a guy like Harry Potter, my first love (hahahaha) or even a guy next-door like Eugene or Tamahome. Oh well, clearly, these are what Media dictates me. When I'm in Highschool, crushes served me as my inspirations to do well in any aspect of my life. More of building my self-esteem or even a confidence booster. That time, I'm more of attitude-seeker lass who's looking of a guy, definitely, a prospect crushie. But the good thing in here, my crushies befriend on me for I-don't-know-why reasons without flirting with them. Anyhow, I liked a guy who has a lot of sense of humor. Since my highschool life was extremely stressful, I need someone who can make me laugh to death and ease the stress out of me. Actually, my classmates got so intimidated on how I got lot of crushies that time. They tend to call me "malandi" but mind you, again, I'm not doing any flirtatious acts cause I have this modest reputation in school (big words right? Hahaha). When I turned to college, I met amazing guys. But my confidence keep on its down stream. It's like acting differently from highschool where my name is always on the page of achievers. In college, no one knows you unless you make a name or got the highest score in the most terror prof. That time, I liked someone who has a high level of intelligence that's good in analyzing, thought organization, decision making and has lot of talents. I would love someone who can sing me a love song, walk me through the rain, talk to me lot of topics, got an interesting views that made me realize a lot and someone who can lead to God's life. But these are just so me. I mean, more of "All About Me" and getting the best out of someone else. Admittedly, I got lot of presumptions in taking a relationship and an ideal mate as well. But like what others say, experience is the best teacher. Indeed, it is. I got my first boyfriend when I was in 3rd year college. We started as friends, more than a month of chatting all day and night. He even took the greatest courage he would have just to talk with my parents and court me. Along the way, I said yes to him. Maybe because of the emotional attachment we've had. We've shared wonderful memories, laughs, stories and dilemmas. But some things are not meant to be. By that kind of experience, I started to think lot of things. Perhaps, a conceptual framework out of my theories in relationships. I even noticed that most of the guys that got an emotional attachments with me has the same issues, they need someone to talk to even that means a feeling of dismantled almost. And then I realize, it's not enough to have someone we longed for. Cause if time comes, when we met that ideal one, we will tend either be obsessed or be bored on it. And so, I realized my Ideal Man.. 1. He should be man enough to be with me. Any one can be there to a woman's life but it is the "readiness" to be committed on her for whatever undertakings she will have. So as she, as your partner. A man should know if their girls are ready to take the same effort as well. If not, I guess, man will just got with the flow merely out of illogical means of feelings, reasons why most of them got hurt by wise women. 2. He should be ready to changes and acceptance. A man who's not ready to any changes will just be drowned to a mind-boggling situation, a confusion. Everyone has their own level of intellect but when it comes to understanding, it depends on how well that someone can do the effort just to understand and be understood as well. Without this key factor, I don't think a relationship will go strong and infinite. 3. He should be open but not too shallow. There are people who are close-minded because they refused someone to change them. That type is just good for a one-way relationship, like talking to self (meditation! :D) But that doesn't mean that those who are open-minded got to understand everything. Some can be open but they are too shallow to accept what they should know and must change. Thid is related to #2 though. 4. He should know the standard protocols depending on the situation. I know there are different type of girls so as men. Men do have different sets of courtship and way of how they show their affection. However, his taste should be somewhat paralleled to my likes. Or if he got me, I can do the adjustment. But I'd I'm the one who's making the effort then conflicts will keep on banging between you and me. And yes! I'm mentally liberated with an old-fashioned life. 5. Efforts doesn't mean spending a lot. I got my own penny, I'm not a beggar to ask money or anything from you. What I only ask is your time, presence, advises, and hugs. Don't worry, I can live a day without talking to you if you need it. Loyalty will be yours forever as long as you got my soul. #boompanes #hahahaha 6. Love me, love my family, love everything about me the same how you love yourself, your family and everything about you. I believe that someone can give the same love they got to their selves. And in every relationship, there is an opposite extremes. It depends if one of us can is ready to take this challenge and much better, both of us. :) 7. No one is above to everyone.
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