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white-skinned cis (she/her) queer Metis woman blogs about mental illness, chronic illness and other junk, mostly depression, anxiety, PTSD and ADHD, chronic fatigue / Myalgic Encephalomyelitis. and vasovagal dysautonomia...

[ariaste]

Relationships are scary and complicated ONLY when you start thinking of your partner as some kind of adversary. 

You know how to stop being scared of relationships? Remember that it’s got a goddamn buddy system *built in*. That’s all a relationship IS: “Let’s approach life with the buddy system.”

Check on your buddy. Make sure your buddy doesn’t forget their lunch box on the schoolbus. Hold hands with your buddy so you don’t get lost. If your buddy wants to look at the monkey cage, look at the goddamn monkey cage with them. If you are the one looking at the monkey cage, ask your buddy what they want to do next, and when they want to feed the giraffe, help them find a quarter for the little food dispenser. Be a good buddy, and if your buddy isn’t a good one too, tell the teacher and ask for a new one.

This isn’t fucking rocket science, people. 

[matociquala]

I have reblogged this before. I will reblog it again. And it’s not just romantic relationships: it’s family members and friends as well.

[smartass-stripper]

This kind of woke my ass up because of the amount of times I’ve had a buddy who didn’t check on me, didn’t want me to check on them, but didn’t want me to leave.

[cannabalistic-fawn]

-points aggressively- 

THIS IS WHAT I’VE BEEN TELLING ALL MY PREVIOUS PARTNERS AND THEY THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE!

[dr-falcon-fox-and-coyote]

Honestly? The best thing to think about is your partner is your best buddy in the whole world. It’s the buddy you always said you wanted to spend every day with because wouldn’t that just be awesome? 

All those people who complain about their spouses/partners? If you hate that person that much? Stop being with them? Like. If you’re not even friends with your person, isn’t that so much extra effort? 

[icantdrawbutdontcare]

You’re feeling. It’s okay.

[A drawing of a crying woman next to black text that reads: “You’re not too emotional just because you are finally allowing yourself to truly feel everything you always tried to hide”]

[jackcardiffs]

it’s hilarious how it’s trendy it is to hate Woody Allen even though he has more great movies than 95% of directors

[communistcoppola-deactivated201]

hating a man who sexually assaulted a 7. yo girl (his own child) and married his stepdaughter is a trend i hope stays in place. his movies are a literal escape into cradle rocking sexual fantasies and his ratio of good movies v. directing credit is a steady 5:52 

[icantdrawbutdontcare]

You’re not imagining it, it was real. 

[Portrait of a crying woman next to black text that says: Yes. It was real abuse. You can trust your memories.]

[igotpillstheyremultiplying]

I believe me. I believe you.

[illinicoise]

I Was Trying To Be Funny But It Came Out As Really Mean: a 5-part documentary starring me.

[aviculor]

I Was Trying To Be Loving And Supportive But I Probably Overstepped My Boundaries And Came Off As Creepy: a feature-length film with two sequels and a TV series adaption.

[gipsiidanger]

I Was Trying To Tell You I Relate To Your Difficult Situation But It Probably Sounded Like I Was Making It All About Me: a novel saga with several side book adaptions and a movie.

[igotpillstheyremultiplying]

Me.

[kgfibrostuff]

The CDC can suck my ass

[nezumiko]

For friends not in the spoonie community, this is about the CDC’s recent guidelines that attempt to combat drug addiction in America by severely restricting access to opioid medications for ALL patients except for terminal cancer patients.

Without opioid pain medications, I would have had to quit working and go on disability nine years before I did.

Without opioid pain medications I would have been housebound and dependent on caregivers for another 10 years after that.

Without opioid pain medications I will be less active, more sedentary, and more sick.

The CDC says opioids don’t work for chronic pain; they’re wrong. They don’t work for some chronic pain. They don’t cure chronic pain. But they make life liveable for millions of chronic pain patients. Estimates of chronic pain sufferers in America range from a low of 39 million to a high of 110 million. That low-water mark excluded people with intermittent chronic pain, like endometriosis or migraine, as well as omitting people with neurogenic pain. Most reasonable guesses put the number at 70–80 million.

The cure for drug abuse and addiction has nothing to do with restricting pain patients’ access to medication, or forcing them to give up what quality of life they have managed to attain through having their pain managed with medication.

It’s not about labeling pain patients as addicts for taking medication to which they can build a physical dependence. (By that definition, every time I go on prednisone and have to taper off it, I’m a prednisone addict!)

It’s not about calling a patient in chronic pain asking their doctor for relief a drug-seeker.

The cure lies in combating the issues that lead to drug abuse, like poverty and an economy that sees the rich getting richer while the poor and middle class fall further and further behind. It lies in giving hope to people in hopeless situations. Not taking hope away from several million more.

[edrecoveryprobs]

How to broach a difficult subject with your therapist

Here are some tips that work very well! Also, my favorite tips are to:

email them beforehand that I would like to bring up (x subject). Email feels more removed and safer to me, and this way the pressure is off me to bring it up. I can also include in the email how I feel about talking about it, and ask the therapist to be accommodating. Example: “Hi, I want to talk about my concerns RE: eating/body image next session but I don’t quite feel comfortable talking about it. I think it would be easier if you asked more of the questions/simpler questions so there was less pressure to talk about it. Is that okay?” or “I think I need to talk about my eating issues next session. There’s a few things I’m sensitive about. Please go slowly when you ask questions just in case something comes up that gets overwhelming. Thanks.”

write it down on a notecard, in bullet points or with short sentences you can read right off the card. Even if you freeze up during the appointment, you can just hand them the card.

remember that you can go as slow as you need to. Sometimes it’s helpful to have the first half or even a whole session dedicated to just talking around the issue. Example: “I need to talk about something, but I don’t know if I’m ready to talk about it yet.” A good therapist will meet you where you are and work with your feelings around bringing it up, and then when you feel ready to actually name/talk about it can just go right ahead.

[chizuu-deactivated20200817]

honestly though…. u should really be careful with the word ‘lazy’, especially when applying it to people you don’t know well….. like, disabled people exist. just because you can do everyday tasks with ease doesn’t mean everyone else can! stuff you might consider simple could be extremely difficult for others

[graphicallyill]

Thanks for this. Because my disabilities are completely invisible to anyone who has never seen my medical records, high school was rough for me. I got dirty looks from teachers who saw me use the elevator, I was hassled when I needed accommodations. I tried to use the elevator at a school sporting event and was harassed by a PTA mom type working the event who didn’t believe me when I said I needed to use it.

I ended up having to walk up and down three flights of stairs (an almost impossible task, as those who know me know). And recently I started a new medication to help control my symptoms, and for the first time in three years, I stood up without getting dizzy. I legitimately cried I was so happy. People who are able-bodied do not understand how much they take little things like that for granted.

Never assume what someone else is capable of. Ever.

[christymtidwell]

Neurodiversity advocates … suggest that, instead of investing millions of dollars a year to uncover the causes of autism in the future, we should be helping autistic people and their families live happier, healthier, more productive, and more secure lives in the present. This process has barely begun. Imagine if society had put off the issue of civil rights until the genetics of race were sorted out, or denied wheelchair users access to public buildings while insisting that someday, with the help of science, everyone will be able to walk.

Steve Silberman, NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity (via chronicillnesshelp)

[wetwareproblem]

PSA

No neurotype or mental illness is inherently abusive.

If someone tells you you’re being abusive, and your immediate response is to talk about how your mental illness is making you this way, you are engaging in further abuse. If someone tells you not to contact them again, and you persist in doing so, that’s not your mental illness; that’s you being abusive and violating boundaries. If you enlist others to try to force yourself into the other person’s life, and threaten them or guilt-trip them if they refuse - particularly leaning on the “if you cared about mentally ill people you would!” argument - that is not your mental illness, that is you choosing to resort to abusive tactics to get what you want.

If you abuse someone publicly and they cut you off, they are not responsible for you. They are not required to reengage with you because of what a third party is doing - even if that third party is, itself, being gross and abusive. Nobody, least of all someone who does not feel safe in your presence, is required to help you deal with this. Yes, it would be the kind thing to do, but people you have abused do not owe you kindness. Their first responsibility is to protect themselves, and you are a threat to them.

If you have demonstrably gaslit someone in the past - intentionally or otherwise - then ignoring their do-not-contact request and violating their boundaries to demand they purge records of your interaction is an active threat. You are asking them to throw away the evidence they can point to to prove that the things you are saying are untrue. Those records are a defense mechanism.

Once again: Your neurotype or mental illness does not justify or excuse abuse.

[igotpillstheyremultiplying]

when ur disabled & @ college

student: i missed classes and assignments cuz im disabled

teacher: to prove you arent a Dirty Faker you have to get approved at the disability office

disability office: ok so heres all the hoops you need to jump through. what? you cant do some of this because your “disability”? ummm

disability office: we’re sorry but you might be Faking so its not that we dont trust you, its just Exactly That :)

teacher: so you are a Faker then. looks like your multiple absences and missed assignments are going to negatively affect your grade...

teacher: why dont you just try harder?

[liminallyric-deactivated2015030]

reminder for bisexuals

today is bi visibility day. as such, bisexual people will be completely visible for the next 24 hours. this is a bad day to engage in bank heists, ghost impersonations, covert operations for vague yet menacing government agencies, and other common bisexual hobbies that rely upon our powers of invisibility. 

reblog to save a life. 

[shadowthephoenix-deactivated201]

To everyone living on disability benefits:

You are not a burden. You are not a faker. You are not lazy. You are, in no way, lesser than anyone that goes to work every day.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. 

[spookshellmaz-deactivated201511]

DC Comics: Harley Quinn & Poison Ivy Are Girlfriends “Without Monogamy”

You know the character most famous for being the Joker’s girlfriend? DC Comics just confirmed that she’s been in a relationship with a woman, too. Yep, Harley/Ivy is canon.

BI POLY LADY VILLAINS

IT’S CANON

[thecheshirequeen]

Help Support a Disabled Native Person

Hi there tumblr, I’m Rose and I’m in a bit of a situation at the moment. I’m diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Major Depressive Disorder, Complex Trauma PTSD, and Social Anxiety Disorder. I’m currently waiting on an appeal from SSI(who has been dicking around on my case for almost a year) and I’m currently completely unable to work. My illnesses often leave me in too much pain to even take care of myself and I’m often unable to leave the house for weeks. I’m being supported by my sister but the reality is is I’m about $2,000 behind on rent and I’m lacking in a lot of necessities. Please, I’m asking for donations to my paypal [email protected](donate button on my blog too) or to signal boost. I hope you all have a nice day

[thecheshirequeen]

Hey so I haven’t gotten any donations since the 31st of May. I hate to seem like a bother or needy but my situation is serious and I didnt get many donations to begin with before they stopped. I really need clothes and I have a doctors appointment in two days and will be getting medication and I have no way to pay for them and please just please donate and reblog

[thecheshirequeen]

Please reblog this or donate I just tried to get cash assistance but in Pennsylvania you can only get cash assistance if you’re pregnant or have a child. I’m trying to figure out ways to help myself but there’s just not much for me to do

[thecheshirequeen]

I’ve only hit about 1/10th of my goal please please please donate

[positivityandpaperstars]

My friend sent me this last time I had a panic attack. “Try to breathe with this.” And it worked. So, sharing this. 

[positivityandpaperstars]

My friend sent me this last time I had a panic attack. “Try to breathe with this.” And it worked. So, sharing this.