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I don’t feel that from you anymore. Am I to learn to be fine with that and live the rest of my life that way ?

What horrible life that would be.

Maybe...I could be fine without that kind of affection.

Maybe... it won’t be that horrible.

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Everyone needs bunnies on their dash

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intangible-rice

When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal

lingering-spirit

this actually happened to me during my math final and i didn’t think anything of it and when i was later admitted to the hospital my math prof was asking me ‘you didn’t have to take the final! why didn’t you tell me it hurt?!?!’ and i told him i’ve had cramps worse.

he gave me 100

kadenonio

This is actually an extremely common occurrence simply because in sex ed they don’t teach you how to tell the difference between menstrual cramps and other more serious pains. The way to tell the difference between cramps and appendicitis is that while menstrual cramps are generalized toward the middle of the stomach below the belly button, pain from a swollen or burst appendix will start in the middle of the stomach and relocate to only the lower right side, even lower than menstrual cramps, and is a very localized pain. It also comes on extremely suddenly and will worsen over time or when you make a sudden movement, like a cough or a sneeze.

Basically, if you’re feeling any sort of pain, even if it’s menstrual cramps, don’t hesitate to tell the school nurse or a parent, or if you’re out of school and home even make a doctor’s appointment. Chances are if your cramps are that bad there’s something they can do to improve that as well.

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I am boosting the shit out of that reply, because I am twenty-fucking-five years old and did not know how to tell the two pains apart

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Shout out to neuro-atypical Muslims

-Muslims with eating disorders that get triggered during Ramadan, who feel obligated to explain why they’re not fasting to nosey aunties

-Muslims on psych meds who can’t fast because without medication they can’t function, who feel uncomfortable explaining this to everyone who asks why they aren’t fasting

-Muslims with ADD who struggle to perform Salah, Taraweeh, read Qur'an, etc.

-Muslims with depression who sometimes find it hard to get out of bed and do the obligatory prayers or go to the masjid

-Muslims with bipolar disorder who find Islamic obligations easy on some days and impossible on others, who are seen as flaky or flip-floppy about faith

-Muslims with social anxiety who are afraid to pray in the masjid because of fear of making mistakes or being looked at

-Muslims with dissociative issues who struggle with performing Salah and other obligations due to fear/threat of dissociating

-Muslims with PTSD, sensory issues or agoraphobia who are unable to go to the masjid or other crowded areas & get seen as rude/snobby, or feel isolated

-Muslims with low self-worth, suicidal ideations, etc that feel guilty because of that.

-Muslims with autism who are viewed/treated as a difficult test for their families

-Muslims with mental health issues who are told they need prayer or that their issues are caused by lack of imaan

-All Muslims with any other mental health issue that I forgot to add that affects their practice of Islam & treatment in the Ummah

You are valid. Your Islam is valid. And you are Allah (SWT)’s beautiful creation.

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A reminder to help those who are strangers to you.

Look at the beautiful character of this brother who is helping a blind Hajji with his food. They did not know each other before they sat down next to each other.

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ISLAM BRINGS ELEVATION TO THE STATUS OF WOMEN ♥

Islam brings elevation to the status of women ♥ BEFORE the time of The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), women were hardly seen as human. Women in general were seen as objects and were treated carelessly. In Ancient Greece terms such as ‘chattels’ (possessions of men) and ‘gynes’(bearers of children), were given to woman. Seen as only sexual items, women were treated with no bodily, emotional or spiritual respect. They were not given the right to deal in legal matters, deal with money, war or show any form of intellect. According to various sources, in various cultures women were not allowed to attain inheritance as only men were entitled to it. Back about 5000 years ago, prostitution was widespread. Females were conceived as ‘glamorous but empty’; they were seen to have no intelligence and no personality. Their bodily modesty was disregarded as they were forced to be sexual slaves, they were objects of gratification. All strengths of a woman, their wills, their life-aims, their personality or their modesty were seen as nothing. They were forced unwillingly to be the sexual items of the men who falsely and wrongly nominated themselves as their masters. As Christianity developed it considered complete abstinence from sex as the ideal. Churches started revelations concerning ‘anti-sex’ and ‘anti-woman’ to complete this notion. A virgin daughter was unfairly ‘given’ a higher place in heaven than her mother, because her mother had sex in order to bear her. In Christianity nuns are considered holy and closer to God, but are still not given their humanly rights. Nuns are forbidden to own any material object, and are forbidden to have sexual relations and therefore cannot express love without feeling shame (www.benedictinenuns.org.uk). In the Catholic religion, divorce was seen as unholy trapping women in abusive and horrible marriages (en.m.wikipedia.org) “There is no need for us to mention the situation of women in Greek, Persian or Jewish society, but even Christian societies had a bad attitude towards women. The theologians even gathered at the Council of Macon to discuss whether a woman was merely a body or a body with a soul. They thought it most likely that women did not have a soul that could be saved, and they made an exception only in the case of Mary (Maryam – peace be upon her). The French held a conference in 586 CE to discuss whether women had souls or not, and if they had souls, were these souls animal or human? In the end, they decided that they were human! But they were created to serve men only. During the time of Henry VIII, the English Parliament issued a decree forbidding women to read the New Testament because they were regarded as impure. Until 1805, English law allowed a man to sell his wife, and set a wife’s price at six pennies.” (http://islamqa.info/en/70042)

♥ With the coming of Islam, Islam decreed elevation of the status of woman ♥ The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had witnessed the oppression of women and acted against the oppression evident with Hadith. Many Quranic verses from God Almighty were revealed in the purpose of protecting woman and uplifting their status; showing them equal to men. In Islam we are defined as being human, not a gender: “So know that there is no god save Allah, ask forgiveness for your sins and for the believing men and the believing women. Allah knows well your moving and your place of rest.” (47:19) “…Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you…” (49:13) “To whomever, male or female, does good deeds and has faith, We shall give a good life and reward them according to the best of their actions.” (16:97) “And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise” (2:228) “and live with them honourably” (4:19) The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “I urge you to treat women well.” (al-Bukhaari, 331; Muslim, 1468.) The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (al-Tirmidhi, 3895; Ibn Maajah, 1977; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi)

♥ In Islam, women are empowered to search for knowledge and intelligence. Women are seen as humans. Men and women are equal in their rights! ♥ “It is only those who have knowledge among His servants that fear Allah.” (35:28) “And say: My Lord increase me in knowledge.” (20:114) It was narrated from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “Seeking knowledge is a duty upon every Muslim…” (Sunan Ibn Majah) ♥ In Islam women are allowed to take witness to legal documents ♥ “…And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women, such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her…” (2:282)

♥ Islam allows women to choose their spouses so that they are not forced into an unwanted marriage ♥ It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (pbuh) said: “No previously-married woman should be married off without being consulted and no virgin should be married off without asking her permission.” They said: “O Messenger of Allah, what is her permission?” He said: “If she remains silent.” (al-Bukhaari, 4843; Muslim, 1419) ♥ Islam elevates the mother by saying the child’s Heaven (be they a son or daughter) is under her feet ♥ “Stay with her for Paradise is beneath her feet.” (Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah)

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: A man came to the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, who is most deserving of my good company?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then who?” He said: “Then your father.” ♥ Islam elevates the status of daughters ♥ The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, he and I will come like this on the Day of Resurrection,” and he held his fingers together. (Muslim, 2631) Ibn Maajah (3669) narrated that ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) say: “Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink and clothes them from his riches, they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.” (Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah) Islam protects a woman’s modesty with Hijab, and forces the man to look at her inwardly at her religion, personality, intelligence, emotions and her soul; rather than just look at her body like a material object ♥ Hijab overrules any notion that a man can use a woman who wears Hijab in prostitution or in any degrading manner; Hijab is a sign of strength and protection. Hijab is a sign of the Mercy God has on women ♥ The Believing women in Islam ♥

Islam allows women to receive inheritance and even go to war if necessary and under threat ♥ ALHAMDULILAH! I AM MUSLIM AND I AM A WOMAN!

There is no God but Allah Whom can protect like He Protects the believing women ♥ and Islam allows women to be the most respected, loved, cherished and understood in the world In Shaa Allah ♥ Alhamdulilah ♥ Alhamdulilah I am Muslim ♥

(other sources: Tutorial Letter MGG2602, Department of Social Work, UNISA)

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Senad Hadzic walked all the way from Bosnia to Saudi Arabia to perform Hajj, passing through Serbia, Bulgaria, Turkey, Syria and Jordan. He took with him just a torch, some clothes, maps and flags of the countries he walked through but no food or water. He had €200 ($230) and slept mostly in mosques and parks. It was in Serbia he faced a lot of trouble, where he was beaten up twice and had stones thrown at him. However, he came through Syria - a war zone - unhurt, as soldiers of all allegiances showed him a lot of respect when they saw the Qur'an in his backpack and found out his mission. He described the Syrian people as “wonderful” as they treated him with kindness and gave him oranges and apples in the streets.

(Photo: Getty Images)

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Children of Aleppo

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Question: How do Muslims respond to Bruce Jenner?

Assalamu Alaykum,

Really glad that you asked this.

1. First, to preface this, as someone who is has training in mental health counseling at a graduate level, I understand the nuances between gender identity vs. sexual orientation. In one of my lifespan courses, we covered gender-based psychological concepts such as the Kinsey scale (which I don’t fully agree with), and other theories on sexuality and gender. What is important to note is that in academia, there is no codified, singular, universally-accepted theory on gender and sexuality. Some are more popular than others (funding can come into play here), but be aware that, from a secular perspective, nothing is “scientifically proven.” There is data for almost each respective theory. Humanity is nuanced.

2. Second preface: when I write this, I am speaking in theory, not practically. I am not alleging or indicting anyone of anything. God is the ultimate judge of the heart, I am just analyzing what I observe from the apparent, but only as a phenomenon.

3. The question on gender identity and/or sexual orientation ultimately boils down to morality - namely, moral ontology. Where do morals - the guiding principles that teach us what is right and wrong - come from? Do they change? Or do they adapt over time?

4. As a Muslim, it’s part of our belief-system that morality is defined by Divine revelation: God, and revelation to/through His Prophet Muhammad [p]. This might sound arrogant (towards others) at first, but that’s an incorrect reading; it’s actually sourced in humility (towards God). As a believer, I submit that God is The Most Knowledgeable and Most Wise, thus I humbly submit my understanding of morality to him, realizing that if I were in charge of deciding what was wrong and what was right, those decisions would change possibly every single day of my life.

5. Besides constantly changing principles, the primary flaw with human-defined morality in the post-modern era is that if you take any human-defined moral principle to its logical conclusion, it will not stand. And, it will possibly evoke the same border that is felt with Divine morality - the only difference being that the border will be socially defined, not religiously. So what does this mean?

6. Let’s take the principle/slogan for marriage equality, “two people who love one another should be able to marry one another.”

In the United States, if you show support for this logic, you’re seen as modern, progressive, enlightened, compassionate, etc. If you don’t agree in the universality of this statement, you’re seen as bigoted, backwards, old-fashioned, hateful, etc. Generally, this statement refers to two consenting adults from the same gender being able to marry each other without obstacle, in the same way that two consenting adults from opposite genders can marry one another.

7. The problem arises when you take this (or any) human-defined morality and extend it to its logical conclusion; that is, why don’t we allow siblings to get married? Or a parent and their child? What if a person wanted to marry a corpse of a person who previously loved them? When you make an argument for incest, as it technically can qualify under the moral principle, people begin to squirm in disgust. Why?

8. Because they’ve drawn an arbitrary line saying that “for now, this moral truth is bordered at same-sex couples.” The question then begs to be asked: who made you/us the controllers of where morality stops vs. what it includes/extends to? And why is that a better option than God? It is, in fact, just as allegedly “limiting” and the morality that we define. It just depends on how society feels about something at that given time/place - look at homosexuality in the USA in 1915 vs 2015.

9. With regards to gender reassignment, I’m not certain the exact circumstances of Jenner’s case, but clients that I’ve had who expressed gender confusion said that they were one gender on the outside but felt totally and completely the other gender internally. Essentially, they felt the need to make the two parts of their existence congruent, by altering their external to match what they felt they were internally. From a physical and mental health science capacity, there are numerous complications and long-term treatments that go into changing this.

10. Islam views this procedure as being morally wrong, as it is changing an essentially core component of what God created the person as - in God’s Ultimate Wisdom and Knowledge, blessing and testing that person with certain things, etc. Islam doesn’t necessarily deny the feelings that people have, and doesn’t shame them for having those feelings, even - Islam would simply say that not everything that we feel is good for us, and could be sourced in desire of the self (nafs) or even a manifestation of illness in the spiritual heart (qalb).This is why spiritual legal parameters exist, going back to the first preface: to guide us, like a lighthouse, in the storm of our emotions.

Conclusion: I am comfortable in my moral belief that I do not agree with practicing homosexuality or gender reassignment. At the same time, I fully understand the capacity of liberty and pluralism in the United States (and other places), and would support others to be afforded the same right to live and practice their lives the way they feel fit, the same way that I am able to live and practice my life and faith the way that I feel fit. It’s important to realize that we don’t have to agree with others’ choices, or support them, but we should support their right to make whatever choice they want, just like we expect the liberty to do so, ourselves. Note: disagreement is not license for bullying or terrorizing someone emotionally or even physically for making choices that go against your beliefs, as you should also not be bullied emotionally or physically for holding your beliefs. Learn to agree to disagree, live and let live.

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Palestinians search for survivors amid rubble after Yarmouk, Syria’s largest Palestinian refugee camp, was again attacked with barrel bombs by Bashar al-Assad’s forces, Tuesday May 26, 2015.

According to a resident, “three barrel bombs fell near the electricity Foundation, while the others landed in the vicinity of Palestine Mosque in the area.”

Accurate information about the number of casualties is not yet available due to the number of people still trapped under the ruins of residential buildings.

(Photos: Moayad Zaghmout / Reuters)