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Anneke van Straten - Sassy Classy and a bit Smart Assy

[palotis]

[liquidstar]

anyone else get the constant fear that there are unspoken social rules you dont know about (especially in new situations, like when i first started taking the bus, i was afraid i was doing it wrong lol) so youre just always on edge and kind of… watching how other people act so you can copy the “correct” thing to do

[imanneke]

This right here is why I don’t do new things on my own. This way, if there is some sort of new social rule I’m missing, I wont look like an idiot all alone.

[thedarkperidot]

A e s t h e t i c A m b e r ☆

[emergensy]

[fallingforleavesandpumpkins]

[autumn-n-ny]

Come buy the the goodest boy’s pumpkins

[thelionkingdaily]

The Lion King (1994) dir. Roger Allers and Rob Minkoff

[atlanxic-deactivated20250205]

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

[verygoodsportsplayer-deactivate]

This is so important. 

[zodiacmind]

Fun facts about your sign here

[just-shower-thoughts]

I love being alone, but only if I know someone will be home “soon.” It’s a sad thought to be home alone and know no one is coming.

[manfuckyopride]

“hey come hang out with my other friends, i want you to meet them!”

*with friend’s other friends*

*hears them make racist/misogynistic/homophobic/transphobic comments*

[imanneke]

Skyler and I on the beach in South Haven, Michigan, for his mother's wedding this past weekend. #nofilter #wewouldmakecutebabies #beachwedding

[imanneke]

When the snapchat filters are better than Instagram lol I don't look this good in real life.

[imanneke]

Today we road tripped to Cedar Point! We got the chance to enjoy all the rides we had planned to ride! I may be slightly sunburnt, but I certainly had a blast! Now it's time for pizza! #chetandmattspizza #cedarpoint2016 #sunburnfordays #timewithmylove #hadablast (at Chet & Matt's Pizza)

[imanneke]

Tincaps game with my love

[foodffs]

Lemon Bundt Cake

Recipe source: Marsha’s Baking Addiction

Really nice recipes. Every hour.

Show me what you cooked!

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

Today I shut my cat in the fridge.

Okay, so here’s the deal.  Tali loves the fridge.  I don’t know why, but every single time we open it, she bolts for it and jumps in.  She crawls into the back of the fridge and nestles int the smallest little corner she can.  Now naturally, my biggest fear has been that I’ll close the fridge without knowing she’s in there.  And of course, today I went to go grab my Brita filter to pour myself some water.  I wasn’t really watching the fridge, and I just opened and closed it really quickly to put the Brita back while I was looking somewhere else.  And then I looked around and realized that Tali had been in the kitchen, and now she was nowhere in sight.  So immediately, I throw open the fridge door, and there is is, hanging out in the back, content as can be.

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

Fridge cat just got weirder.  Today Tali got into the bathroom while I was showering, which of course made me a little nervous.  I didn’t want her to freak out and hurt herself or go on a scratching spree.  But evidently she loves water, so she jumped in and just splashed around for a while and got back out.  But then she kept whining to get back in, so my boyfriend put a cooler down so she could get in and out with ease, which she took great advantage of.  She’s soaking wet now, and very content.  

[i-remember-there-was-mist]

I told Tali she was famous.  She and her stuffed husky celebrated.

[theapatheticstag]

This is the kind of content I joined for