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Sophie's Universe - AKA the Crabby Frog.

Sophie’s Universe – AKA the Crabby Frog.

I meant to post this on Sunday, but I drank a lot of wine on Saturday, and there was a Harry Potter marathon on Freeform…so yeah, that needless to say that did not happen. I did however, complete parts 3 and 4 of Sophie (and pat 5 this week). PART THREE: Still fairly simple and quick to progress. But we’re starting to add lots of front post stitches and the mythical FPdtr (Front Post Double…

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A Journey With Sophie

I have been wanting to crochet Sophie’s Universe since I first saw it on Dedri Uys’ blog, and after a few failed attempts I am finally determined to complete her. It also helps that Dedri just released the book format of this popular CAL, so there is no hassle of looking it up on her blog or printing out and subsequently losing pages of patterns. I am planning to blog my process, but we’ll see…

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F*!@ 2016?

All I have been hearing for the last few months of 2016 is how much it sucked. Trump won the election, celebrities are dying, people are being shot by the police, etc, etc. While these things certainly are tragic, awful and at times mind-boggling I don’t really feel like they made 2016 the most terrible year in existence and I feel like it’s important to recognize the good things that have…

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Friendship Ain't Easy When You're Me.

Friendship Ain’t Easy When You’re Me.

I have never been good at friendship, and that is something I have always been honest about. My social anxiety prevents me from being the kind of friend who is always planning girls nights or going out for drinks, most times I am more than content to spend my entire weekend with my dog and Netflix (Are you still watching?). I am really good at coming up with excuses as to why I can’t do a thing –…

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Here's What They Don't Tell You

Here’s What They Don’t Tell You

When you’ve been married for nearly 3 years and are in your late 20’s, people start asking – when are you going to have kids? Most of the time, they mean well – just trying to start a conversation. But here’s the thing, they might not know that you are struggling or that your journey to hopeful parenthood has not been an easy one, or it is an impossible one. That’s not their fault, it’s a thing…

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abortion that late should 🚫❌

I did not know that in 7 states in America, you can carry out an abortion the day before you give birth (allows abortion at any time). That’s so fucking disgusting. And other states allow abortion up to 28 weeks. That’s not a ball of cells no more, that’s a damn baby. It’s good that abortion is legal but not the fucking late into the pregnancy 😷😷 nasty

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You do know the reason abortion is carried out that late in a pregnancy is because of fetal abnormalities, right? There’s no woman that stays pregnant for 8 months and then decides “Meh, I’m just gonna have an abortion instead.”

These women are not nasty, they are not evil, they are women who were so excited to welcome their little one into this world. They are women who had a nursery set up and baby clothes bought. They are women who excitedly waited for their due date, took belly photos and updated the world on how their pregnancy was coming along. They are the women who woke up one day and felt that their baby wasn’t moving anymore. They are the women that felt in their gut that something was terribly wrong, just to have their worst fears confirmed.

They are the women who went to a regular checkup to find out that their baby is severely deformed and won’t live outside the womb, or will but only for a few days and suffer terribly the whole time. They are the women who have to make a decision to not let their baby suffer.

Women having abortions that late are not women who just decided to get an abortion 8 months into pregnancy. While that is there right to do so, know that isn’t what happens. Know that that isn’t the reality.

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This is really upsetting to read but it is the truth, more people need to know this.

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Something like 90% of abortions are first trimester, which is so early that the medical terminology vacillates between “zygote” and “fetus”, and whatever the name, the thing’s the size of a pencil eraser and has 0% ability to survive outside of the womb.

The remainder are performed in the 2nd trimester, generally as a result of fetal abnormality or a severe congenital defect.

The vanishingly rare 3rd trimester abortions are generally for one of two reasons:

1) the life of the mother is in serious danger 2) the fetus is either dead or dying

So no. Women aren’t just bouncing on coat-hangers at 37 weeks for a giggle, they’re undertaking a serious medical procedure for a heartbreaking reason.

But nice try, jerk.

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I have been involved with a charity since 2007 that caters to women in this position. I have been a support for dozens of moms who have induced labours at various stages, resulting in very very wanted babies that have either already passed, or pass soon after.

Every single one of those mothers would have traded a limb to not have to go through that. It is an agonizing thing to make that choice: either induce labour, or wait around with your visibly swollen belly carrying a dead or dying child and endure the harrowing experience of having strangers ask you questions about your little bundle of joy, all day every day, for weeks or even months.

There is no easy way out of that situation: no matter what you do, you lose.

Do not ever think for a second these women do not care.