Art of Waiting for Another Text
During academic semesters, having creative abilities means that you are a student with the most valuable potential. We are taught that creativity is a positive resource. We are told that we should be creative to become a civilized individual who achieves whatever to be achieved. In other words, to become significant, or successful in the industry, you must be creative.
However, after some time passes, after their girlhood has ended, women are now told not to be 'too' creative. We feel ashamed by that we wrote stories about the guys we had tindered with, texted back and forth with, and met up with for brunch/lunch/dinner the day before. Especially while we are waiting for another text to buzz us up.
Why not?
My creativity works the best when I am under stress. When I feel nervous. When I am exposed to the most vulnerability of mine. I write faster, and even more smoothly when my deadline comes up an inch away from the tip of my nose. Same with this. I make up the greatest stories of all when I want a guy to message me, when I want the guy to call me back, or when I want him to ask me out for dinner again.
My stories almost always walk on the same edge of the imaginary world.
He is at work. His boss calls him in, throwing piles and piles of paper to him, yelling and cursing, and giving him another oh-so-close deadline for the same project that he has been spending days and nights for. He has to do everything all over again. He gets so stressed, closes the door behind him, leaving the ugly boss inside, heads back to his desk, covers his face with his sweaty hands, and totally forgets that he is supposed to write me.
Or, he is on the way home. He gets a phone call. His father, or mother, or whoever in the family, is super ill. He has to fly over to Calgary, Toronto, or even back to Europe, just to visit for a day or two. He doesn’t have enough time to get a sim card, or enough mentality to click the icon and write me. He is basically out of town without any emotional preparation.
Or, he jogs on Saturday, or on Sunday. He has a park nearby his place. He does not bring his phone while working out to fully focus on the nature surrounding him. He only listens to music when jogging. He doesn’t like to get bothered. He jogs often. He does not get hit by a car often 'though. But, that day he gets hit by a car. He falls. An ambulance comes. He is picked and transferred to the nearest hospital. He does not have his ID with him. Nurses and doctors spend more time than usual to find his contact information. He is hospitalized without any sufficient information. Obviously, he can never write me anytime soon at this point.
What is wrong with being creative? Creativity gives room for women from feeling rejected, excused, forgotten. It truly gives us an opportunity to breathe and think about what should’ve rather happened. It gives us a break from resenting ourselves as if everything has happened because there is something puzzled about ourselves, in what we do, in what we say or about how we present ourselves to others. In truth, things happen because of 'him.'
A friend of mine, after some number of blind dates, told me that she finally proved herself that the problem was not herself, but the people whom she encountered in those dates. Being kind enough to think that all the guys weren't the source of the problem, she has been shooting arrows to herself. She didn't realize that this type of kindness blocked her vision to see that the guys were the ones who were twisted, didn't have a proper definition of a relationship, were lost in the past, were rude to others, just wanted to get a taste of the market of singles.
People who tell us not to be creating stories are those who do not want themselves considered to be the antagonist of the stories. And, if they understand what it really feels like, they should not make the women another protagonist of the drama by not giving them false hope. There is only one way not to be an antagonist of anyone's narratives - get out of one's story.
Hey, all the evildoers in the stories written by creative women! By stepping out, by telling us the truth behind your intentions, by revealing what you want to happen between the two of us. Women who are creative can doubtlessly face the truth. They are strong enough to do that. Look, at the end of the day, they are the ones who make waiting rather enjoyable to get their hands dirty, or heads busy, with their creativity. They will eventually open the door of their hearts to those who are 100 times more honest and considerate.
Dear women who had tried writing a story about a random dude you just met. Please never give up on your creativity. When you keep going forward with amazing stories for your sake, you will for sure find the person who would allow you to use that creativity somewhere more profitable.
And, who knows? Maybe the guy whom you are waiting for actually had had his arms broken that he’s been dying to press that 'send' button right at this moment.











