Why Introverts Feel Drained Around the Wrong People But Energized Around the Right Ones
Some people leave you feeling tired. Others make you forget you were ever tired in the first place.
If youâre introverted, youâve probably felt this before. You might even start to wonder if youâre bad at socializing, or why your energy feels so all over the place.
But what if itâs not about how social you are, but who youâre social with?
Itâs not about how much energy you have
People often think that introverts have less social energy and get drained easily no matter who theyâre with.
But thatâs not entirely true.
Introverts can spend hours talking, laughing, and being fully present when theyâre with the right people. Time passes quickly. Conversations feel natural, and you leave feeling full, not empty.
So whatâs actually different when introverts are around the right people?
It comes down to how much mental and emotional effort your brain has to put into the interaction.
The hidden cost of being around the wrong people
Not âwrongâ as in bad people, just not your people.
When youâre around someone who doesnât really feel aligned with you, your brain just goes into overdrive.
You might notice yourself:
Thinking carefully before you speakÂ
Replaying what you just said to see if it sounded okayÂ
Forcing reactions so you donât seem too quietÂ
Trying to match their energy, humour, or paceÂ
Filling silences that feel uncomfortableÂ
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