“Life has a funny way of working out. When that person leaves, or when you lose them, whether it’s a lover or friend or just someone that meant something, it feels like the world is ending. You ask yourself if it’s going to be an endless amount of hurting; you’re not sure how to deal with it and wonder if it was the right choice to walk away in the first place. You still stumble upon places and things that remind you of them, the little scents or trinkets you find in a thrift shop; and maybe you still wear the matching necklace they brought for you. You want to hate them, as much as you want to forget them, but that seems impossible. So you continue to love everyday, trying to pretend it doesn’t ruin you but sometimes you fall deep into the memories and it does. It kills you to know what went wrong, how both of you fell apart and stopped loving due to the things you once love about one another. But here’s how you forgive: You stop trying to forget - don’t force yourself to forget all the good times. Live with it. You had your good times and now it’s over. Accept that this is all a learning experience. You can’t change the past. Who you are today isn’t who you were and wouldn’t be possible without all your wins and losses. Know that you are more than the people who come and leave, you are more than their footprints. It’s not important that they leave pieces in you, but where you take them and lead yourself. Find your peace; there is nothing more comforting to know that you are comfortable in your skin and proud of it. And most importantly - love who you are and who you will become. You can not win against fate and what’s meant to happen. You are on track. Do good and be good, and life will fall into place.”
— Ming D. Liu, A Letter to Myself
