IT'S OKAY

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THANK YOU.

“‘Thank you’ is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding.” —Alice Walker It’s going to happen. You’re going to fall apart. Your pieces are going to be EVERYWHERE. And no matter how well you’ve tried to keep it together, you’ll have bits floating downstream faster than you can swim (especially whilst missing a limb.) Meanwhile, those that care about you gather your bits. They drain their emotional wells. They spend their free-time pouring cups of coffee and love. They lug your dead weight around until your spirit comes back. Because to them, even when broken, you are special. 

Thank you to those who break their backs hauling around the pieces of those they care about. It doesn’t go unnoticed. After the superglue dries, lunch is on us.

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IT’S OKAY TO SEE MOVIES ALONE.

Going to a matinee or a late night showing alone is such a treat. You get to watch whatever movie you want without someone being indecisive. You can sob during the sad bits and drool over the sexy ones. Throw on your biggest hoodie so that you can sneak in popcorn shrimp and a latte. Find the most center row spot. And enjoy the show! 

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IT’S OKAY TO BE A THORNBACK.

Recently the web has flared up with the beautifully pokey term Thornback, describing women over the age of 26 who are unmarried. I once dreamed of coming back into the pond as a spinster and momentarily was off-put by the fact that I wasn’t going to get to join the Spinsterhood due to my age. That was a brief moment. Being a Thornback sounds way cooler.

It’s okay to be unmarried. I repeat, it is okay. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having no plans to ceremoniously unite any humans anywhere.

Enjoy whatever makes you feel full of love and joy. 

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IT’S OKAY IF YOU HAVE JANKY TEETH.

 Pearly whites. Choppers. The wondrous bones in your mouth.

There aren’t a ton of variables in placement when it comes to the bones in your body. Everyone is a little different, but generally speaking, we don’t have too many femurs growing sideway. Nor do we generally have adult finger bones pushing baby finger bones out of our bodies. Teeth, however, are on their own agendas. They replace themselves once. Some that we don’t need come in much later and often need to be surgically removed. Teeth grow in at different angles and at times crowd each other, turning beautiful smiles into the Mouth of Sauron. (BTW, I think that guy has a great smile.)

Some people get braces to correct their scrambled ivory. Some people don’t wear their retainers after the braces are removed. Some people go right back to having janky teeth and are perfectly fine with it.

Whatever that mouth do — I hope you get to smile big ridiculous toothy smiles, often.

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IT’S OKAY TO NEVER BUY THE STUFF IN YOUR ONLINE SHOPPING CART.

Sort of like window shopping. It all seems like a wonderful deals that you REALLY want. But moments before your debit card flies out of your wallet — you pause. You think about how you’re trying to be better with your money. You remember that you don’t actually need a monogramed bathrobe. BUT you do need to order that gift for your mom’s birthday because you won’t remember to do it later. So, you may as well treat yourself to that bathrobe since it will save on shipping. BUT THEN you see the total price with tax and shipping and whatever amount of handling they’re doing and the cycle repeats until you close your browser and end up sending your mom a lame text on her birthday instead.

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IT’S OKAY TO THINK YOUNG LOVE IS GROSS.

Turn 30 and find someone that you want to share HPV and your bank account with. 

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IT’S OKAY TO BE A BOWZER.

Urban Dictionary defines a Bowzer as: A Man or Woman who look exactly like the dog that they are walking. There are plenty of beautiful golden retrievers trotting about with their luscious locks in the wind. And hell, I’d gladly be a bowzer to one of them any day. 

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IT’S OKAY IF YOU HAVE 14,051 UNREAD EMAILS.

Please, someone come Marie Kondo my inbox. 

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IT’S OKAY TO MATCH. WHY is it such a big deal if you show up and someone else is wearing the same outfit? It just means you have super great taste. I’d say it would even mean that you hit the mark on dressing appropriately for the occasion. Celebrate these serendipitous events. You’re fashionable. You’re cool. You got it all.

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IT’S OKAY IF YOU LOVE CANDY.

Every meal can be dessert if you put in the effort.

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IT’S OKAY WHEN YOU LEAVE YOUR PHONE AT HOME.

I need to tell myself this more often. Leave the damn thing behind. Take a break. Unglue the device from your paws. Texting isn’t actual human contact. Melancholy isn’t fixable via social media. And no, Google doesn’t have all of the answers.  Challenge yourself.

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IT’S OKAY IF YOU LIKE SNAKES.

Snakes are neat critters. They don’t have any legs, but they can get around super quick. They don’t have eyelids. Snakes do have ears - but they’re internal, not external. And like myself, they do not chew their food - they just swallow it whole. If you encounter a long legless boi in the wild, admire and leave it alone, especially in Ireland ... apparently Ireland does not have snakes, so if you see one, nope your way out of there. ✌🏻  

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IT’S OKAY TO DANCE AWAY CRUMMY DAYS.

On Spotify I have a playlist called, Nasty Gal. It is the playlist I put on when I need to remove myself from a bummer situation and find a headspace where I can make solutions. It is also accompanied by a lot of dancing. A LOT of dancing. You can’t cry and dance to these songs. It just looks like jumping up and down - been there, cried that. I’m sorry if you’re feeling blue or if you miss someone or you’re frustrated. Make yourself an emergency playlist, turn it up loud, take off your clothes (not required) and dance until you’re ready to feel better. 

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Meowzers look at him go!

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Happy Cat Day!

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IT’S OKAY TO WEAR YOUR BOYFRIEND’S T-SHIRTS.

If you listen, you can hear your S.O. slide open their dresser drawer or flick a hanger off of the rod to pluck the perfect t-shirt for you to wear. When you put on the article of clothing, you’re instantly comfy and casual. You can probably even do my favorite thing — take off your “outside” pants (aka: public pants, leg traps, beef stick squeezers, work pants.)  It doesn’t matter if the shirt is too big or a little snug, you look great in their eyes. And that feels darn tootin’ good.

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IT’S OKAY FOR EVERYTHING TO BE PUMPKIN SPICE FLAVOR.

DoN’t YoU DaRe ShAmE Me! 🎃