Important Announcement
After months of hiatuses and attempts to reconnect with this RP community, I must sadly say that I am discontinuing this blog as of today. After I post this, and queue it up a couple times, I will log out of this account and forget the password. This was not an easy decision for me to make, but in the end, it wasn’t worth the stress.
But before I go, I want to explain a little bit about what is driving me off RPing as a whole so expertly: So congratulations the whole Dragon Age fandom for making my experience here horrid and worthless.
Before I explain further, I will amend that there are some of you that made staying worthwhile, some of you that I connected with, and that I enjoyed, and it is you select few that made my decision to leave such a hard one, and one that leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.
So first of all, let’s address the elephant in the room: why do I hate this perfect loving fandom so much? And that, I think, is exactly why. This fandom is so strung up on how open and accepting they are, and how much they don’t tolerate hate, that they ignore the blatant hate they themselves perpetuate.
On a more personal relevance, I’ve heard people say that a straight Cassandra is disgusting, and that anyone who thought she was straight was disgusting and queerphobic. As many of you know, I played Cassandra as “straight” or hetero-flexible (my Cassandra had the possibility to be interested in all Male Inquisitors but Lavellan, and female Adaar, for my own reasons), and while I play Cassandra mostly straight, as a pansexual woman I find it hard to logic that this some how makes me queerphobic.
In the same regard, there are those fans who swear on their lives that Cullen is Bi And Bi Only (because it was in the writing of course, disregarding that anything that gets cut from the writing is not canon. Sorry) and would lash out, often hatefully and furiously at any one who’s opinions differed.Â
That being said, there is nothing wrong with these character’s being portrayed as Bisexual. But you can’t slap a sticker on an old box and call it new; its not representation if you just force your own reality on it.
On that same note, it’s not even really representation that the fandom aimed for. All of it, every single bit, was fetishization. Or the wanting of someone (Cullen) to be Bisexual so he could be paired with another attractive male (Dorian). This in itself is not inherently wrong, but it is wrong when you accuse anyone who calls you out of homophobia. You’re the real homophobe, you are the problem.
And I won’t write too much on Krem, other than it falls under the same sort of umbrella. The fandom throws the word transphobic at anyone who disagrees with them when they say that transmen don’t date women. spoilers: transmen date whoever they want, saying that they exclusively don’t date women is, you guessed it, transphobic.
But now on to the reason I’m quitting.
For the above reasons, most likely, my Cassandra is treated as a second-rate. Forgotten about, mistagged, dropped, passed up… and all because I don’t play her as Bi?
I also know for a fact that I’ve had threads dropped after making it clear that I had no intention of shipping with someone. And that’s fine really; if you’re only talking to me so you can bang my character, I have no interest in you anyway.Â
RPing has become more of a chore than it is a joy, and its all thanks to the Dragon Age fandom. Never before have I seen a fandom so adept at making people feel worthless for their opinions, never before have I seen a fandom so expertly send anonymous hate to a person telling them to kill themselves, and then go back to pretending like the fandom is amazing, never before have I seen a fandom with its head so far up its own ass that it can’t see how full of shit it is.
And this fandom is full of so much shit.
And I’m tired of being ignored because I’m not good enough. I’m tired of being tossed aside because I refuse to allow you to fetishize a character I care deeply about; My character. I am not sorry if you find this rude, or offensive, because if you do, you are the person this message is for.
So goodbye Dragon Age RP Fandom.
And Good Fucking Riddance.














