I am meant to be lavished with love and happiness daily. My livelihood is seeped in abundance and I only enjoy the finer things in Life. My body is a temple that I care for dearly and I only invite positivity and peace into my body, spirit, and soul. I attract wealth in abundance and spread love and goodwill through my artistry and my dedication to humanitarian efforts. I am blessed. I am free to enjoy a life filled with peace, harmony, and the love of my family. I am healthy, I am well, I am stable. My heart is open to receive love always, and it flows to me freely and abundantly. Money flows to me freely and abundantly. I am the head and not the tail. I am the first, and not the last. I am Godâs angel. I am light. My mission is to spread Godâs love and light. I am fulfilling my purpose.
Hereâs 10 Non-Material Ways You Can Live Lavishly
When we think of luxury, itâs often designer bags or high-end shoesâbut true elegance transcends material things. Welcome or welcome back to The Black Feminine Society, a blog, sisterhood and brand dedicated to Black women who are on their journey to healing, and elevating in all areas of life the feminine way.
Today will want to give you 10 ways to lavishly invest in yourself, producing a life of inner richness and timeless grace ( & its well deserved!)
Its time to bring softness into your home, offices, and even your cars! For your home try decorating with plush throws, fresh flowers, candlelight, and soothing scents. When it come to the office, whether you work in a cubicle, have a office of your own or a spot in your home because your remote or self employed. Don't underestimate the power of cleanliness, good lighting and some floral or even water sounds. Give your workplace a sense of relaxation and love. Lastly, ladies clean and try aroma therapy in your cars! Every space that consumes your day should feel warm and peaceful. It'll add a touch to your daily routines and even on those off day a when you are rushing and woke up on the wrong side of the bed (it happens)
Tip: Depending on the weather, a change of scenery helps also. Try a cafe or work space on the nicer side of town. Work outside or even early at the beach. A serene environment cultivates peaceâand feels like a loving hug every day.
Schedule moments of quietâearly morning, nature walks, journaling breaksâwhere you just breathe, reflect, and exist without pressure to perform. Embrace these pauses as essential parts of your day, allowing your mind to clear and your thoughts to settle. Use this time to connect with your inner self, to listen to the whispers of your heart, and to cultivate gratitude for the present moment. Let these peaceful intervals recharge your spirit, enabling you to approach your tasks with renewed energy and focus. Remember, it's in these moments of stillness that clarity often emerges, guiding you on your path forward.
I know, We talk about this a lot but itâs because Itâs so game changing! Slow morning are a must here at BFS. Try to practice on weekends, itâs less pressure to start trying to slow down your weekend mornings than during the week. Yes this means donât sleep in every weekend! Try to wake up and slowly indulge in self care, pray, take a bath instead of a shower, make some coffee or tea, do your skin care, donât touch your phone until 11 am. Swap doom scrolling with your favorite gospel or motivational speeches playlists while you pour into yourself. Simple rituals feel sumptuous when done with intention.
If you arenât already a bookworm your approach to reading might be skewed. You may have never been a reader because of school or personal reasons but reading isnât just fundamental itâs a luxury. Try getting a book that teaches you something, read spiritually enriching books. Self care or self help books are always good. Run a bath. Pour a warm herbal tea. These small acts build an abundant inner life.
If you are apart of the discord you know we are big advocates in investing in your fitness and health. Move in ways you loveâpilates, dance, gentle yoga. Stretch, roll muscles, breathe deeper. Honor your vessel as the beautiful temple it is. For motivation, tips an and community we have a space for you in our discord, click HERE to join now.
Rather than constantly buying, savor what you already own. Whether fashion, skincare, or homeware, refine your collection. Focus on creating your capsule wardrobe and invest in things you NEED and donât become a victim of overconsumption. The minimalistic approach is recommended because not only do you avoid clutter and overspending, itâs classic, elegant and most importantly timeless. Later you can add hints of your favorite pieces and items to spice things up.
Just as stated in #6 âEmbrace the âquiet luxuryâ aesthetic: timeless silhouettes, soft neutrals, tactile fabrics. A capsule wardrobe is built off of intention. Each piece should be versatile, allowing for multiple combinations that suit various occasions. Focus on quality over quantity, investing in items that will withstand the test of time. Prioritize classic cuts that flatter your body shape and colors that enhance your complexion. Accessories should be minimal yet impactful, adding a touch of personality without overwhelming the overall look. Remember, the goal is to create a cohesive collection that reflects your personal style while maintaining a sense of understated elegance. Consider the longevity of each item, ensuring they can adapt to changing trends without losing their charm. Embrace the art of simplicity, and allow your wardrobe to speak volumes without saying a word.
Stand tall, speak softly, walk slowlyâelegance is a posture. Embody dignified energy even during everyday tasks, and watch your presence transform. As you move through each moment with grace, notice how others respond to your calm demeanor. Allow your confidence to radiate, creating an atmosphere of respect and admiration. Each step becomes a statement, each word a melody, harmonizing with the rhythm of life around you. Embrace the power of poise, and let it guide you to greater heights, enriching not only your journey but also the paths of those who cross your way.
Experience the magic of the queen treatment in action and discover the captivating power of pretty privilege!
Gather with your sisters. If youâre searching for community and sisterhood we have resources like our âThe Ladies Roomâ đgroupchat on discord. This is a safe space where you can share your thoughts, seek advice, and connect with like-minded women who support each other. Join us for virtual meetups, discussions on various topics, and activities that foster genuine connections. Whether youâre looking to make new friends, share your experiences, or simply find a place to belong, âThe Ladies Roomâ is here for you. Don't hesitate to reach out and become part of our growing community â Join HERE â¨
God is GOOD and always in control. When you know this truth you should live like it. No matter the amount in you bank account, the storms and noise of the world. A simple cup of tea, a compliment from your mirror, a handwritten noteâthese are the moments that breathe life into a feminine legacy. They feel lavish because they feel like you. Always celebrate, youâre alive, you deserve it.
đ Final Thoughts
True luxury isnât about price tagsâitâs a mindset. When you treat yourself with kindness, choose depth over flash, and curate beauty around you, you are living lavishly. And that richness radiates outwards.
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I truly wish that Black women would start their feminine journeys for themselves and their healing, rather than for men.
I understand that some women wish to be married, seek long-term relationships, or desire a space where they can embrace their feminine energy and experience protection and companionship from men, and that's perfectly okay! In fact, I believe we are designed for one anotherâit's natural.
The problem is the intent behind it.
It's a disservice to yourself to focus on a man when the power of this journey is birthed from self-love, care, discovery, and womanhood.
It builds:
⢠Character, discernment, and self awareness.
⢠Inner peace and confidence.
⢠Elegance in daily living.
⢠Alignment with your purpose.
⢠Increased value in society.
⢠Better relationships.
⢠Generational impact and legacy.
I truly believe that a woman who is on a journey to become her best (leveling up) and softest (healed femininity) self is going attract the man she truly desires because of the authentic aura she radiates â because of the work she's done on herself from the inside out.
Ladies the trick to success is to make it quite literally impossible to fail. Make it so that failure requires effort & success is the matter of natural course. I'll say this until you get it- success isn't a question of milestones, it's a question of systems. You are where you are because your current systems support that, change it and see if nothing changes.
So if you want to look elegant and classy donate all the clothes & shoes you have that don't look elegant & classy- then how will you look dusty? Even if you wanted to look dusty, how would you do that??? When the option isn't there?? Take away the option for failure so that you must work hard to fail. If you have no sugars or processed foods in your house then you literally have to leave and pay to be unhealthy. If you only listen to calming, positive music genuinely where will constant anxiety come from. If you don't even have social media how will you get addicted to it? You have to exert effort to be. Girl if you don't even have his number how will you call him? If you focus during class how will you fail? Literally how will you fail. How will that happen? If you have no alcohol in your house how will you get drunk? You must leave and pay for it, right? If you're eating right and getting your vitamin balance in check how high are the chances for diseases? Acne? Hormonal imbalances? Weight issues? Automimmune diseases? Mood swings? Like yes it can happen but let's talk statistics, how high are the chances?
The easiest path to success is to not even give failure a chance. Like, instead of working so hard to succeed you must work hard to fail. Success, love, is a consequence of systems- a matter of natural course- you're eating right so you look and feel great- a natural consequence. A matter of rather obvious course. You're studying so you pass. Matter of course. You buy the right clothes so you just always look put together, like always. Obviously. What other choice do you have? All your friends are girlbosses so obviously you're a girlboss? Duh. Literally what other choice is there? Even if you wanted to fail the choice to isn't there, and although the chance is never zero it can be beautifully close to zero, that's the goal.
Success is a matter of systems, love. Not milestones. You set in place systems whose consequences are what you want. Like if your study system is great genuinely how will you fail?
Take away the option to easily fail, that's the goal. Set systems that have literally no choice but to get you where you want, as a natural consequence rather than goals you're trying to superficially impose. Its not milestones, it's systems. Its- habits. Routines. Systems. Make some that make failure hard to get.
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