Adventures Ahead!

Jacqueline, but my friends call me Jackie. (she/they) Biologist, witch, trans woman, and celebrator of the spooky, whimsical, strange, and unique. Gender affirming procedure fund: https://ko-fi.com/jackieofowls

[jackieofowls]

Hey there!

I will update this post as things occur to me or change with time.

My name is Jacqueline, but my friends call me Jackie.

I'm 34, a pan trans woman (she/they), been on hrt for over 2 years at this point, married to an a-spec genderfaun. I'll refer to them as either "my partner" or Ember.

An eclectic witch still defining her practice.

A biologist by education with a focus on evolution, environmental science, ecology, geology, and paleontology. Basically if it has to do with nature I'm into it.

A political activist trying to build community as has become necessary for survival at this point. I'm tired of having my destiny be at the whims of wealthy people whose dedication to their constituents you couldn't find with a microscope and a guide. I've already made progress with regards to my local politicians' attitudes towards trans rights.

Feel free to ask me anything, even personal stuff as I think it might help me process things. I will never punish genuine curiosity, but if I get the sense that you're trying to spread hate, I am not afraid of the block button!

Platonically Flirtatious: If I ever get flirty or suggestive with you, please understand it's all in good fun and not meant to get anywhere relationship-wise. I'm in a happy, monogamous marriage with a partner who means the world to me, and while they understand that I am a bit free-spirited, we have some established boundaries as to what they're comfortable with me doing, and I hope you can respect that.

Potential NSFW! Hornyposting, playful flirting, potential suggestive or dirty pics, and discussions of various mature topics will occasionally appear on this blog.

There are many of our trans siblings out there that need help getting their gender affirming care more than I do, so if you're looking to donate please look to them first. However if you have something to spare, or you just like me in particular and want to help out, get me a gift, etc., then I have a ko-fi set up just in case. We've been trying to save up for laser and bottom surgery for me, and top surgery for Ember, so if you'd like to make our journey just a bit easier you can help out here: https://ko-fi.com/jackieofowls

I'll keep the fund open after our surgeries are taken care of, and any donations given afterward will be used to help other trans people acquire their medical care.

[jackieofowls]

So my mom says she's unaware of any potential traumatic incident from my childhood that would contribute to my vivid recurring nightmare (I rarely remember any dream or nightmare but I can recall every detail of this one) or my visual and auditory hallucinations.

But would she know? And if she did would she tell me?

The journey to make sense of my troubled mind continues...

[bjoirdhnn]

Hi everybody.

My brother @transfaguette went missing last Tuesday. The family was left a suicide note on a hard drive similar to the one posted on this platform 2 nights ago. His last known location was Chittenango Falls, New York, our hometown. You may have seen the selfie of him standing in front of the falls. The park was turned upside down by the most qualified personnel in the state, including SWAT and cadaver dogs. Ansel is nowhere to be found. You may have seen the news reports.

We suspect he may be alive somewhere with somebody. The police have been on top of this investigation 24/7 and have gone to every length to help us. There is one major piece missing to this puzzle that we feel could provide us some answers - his online presence. If you interacted with Ansel on Tumblr, X, and specifically Discord, *please* reach out to me. Accessing this information would require dozens of subpoenas that would take months. If you have any screenshots or anything you’d like to share, pm me and I will give you my personal number. If you would like to just talk to the police, you can call the tip hotline at 315-366-6000.

Take care of each other. Look out for each other. Thank you.

[prettyboykatsuki-moved]

i always mean it when i say i love you btw

[prettyboykatsuki-moved]

‘but thats a stranger you dont know’ and i love them. i love that they exist and i love that they passed through my life. and i love u too btw

[teathattast]

reblog to tell your mutuals you love them for existing

[tanrak]

[prose-n-scripts]

Transphobia is about to be signed into law in the UK. We can fight this.

I am begging the UK trans community and its allies to attend the Mass Lobby at Parliament on June 25th, 11am-4pm, organised by Trans Solidarity Alliance.

Mass Lobby for Trans Equality

Last year we broke the record for an LGBT+ mass lobby of Parliament. Will you help us break it again? Join us on 25th June 2026 to demand be

The new EHRC Code of Practice pushes trans people out of toilets, hospital wards, and community spaces. It normalises gender policing based on appearance and stereotypes. It becomes statutory guidance in the UK by the end of June.

Trans people are now legally their assigned gender at birth and must join gendered spaces accordingly, but if they are perceived as their lived gender, they can also be ejected from those spaces. The guidance says: either break the law, or don’t pass too well.

A mass lobby is where you invite your MP to discuss your concerns with you in-person. Ask your MP to:

Demand full parliamentary scrutiny, debate, and use their free vote on the EHRC Code of Practice.

Support any motions rejecting the EHRC guidance. As of June 4th, Labour MP Nadia Whittome has submitted a prayer motion - Early Day Motion 240.

Write to Bridget Phillipson, the Minister for Women and Equalities about our concerns

Your MP does not have to be an ally, they do not have to respond to your email for you to show up and greencard them (details below the cut.) What matters is that as many people as possible show up.

I cannot stress this enough: Showing up in person matters. It is much more effective than petitions, emails, and letters.

It is a horrible, stressful time, and I am so sorry if you're trans and live in the UK. But I was at last year's mass lobby and the line for greencarding alone stretched around the back gates. It was a record breaking mass lobby and made us impossible to ignore. Let's do even better this time. Details under the cut:

Worried about what to say? Bring your personal worries about transphobia being signed into law, and trans friends being excluded from public spaces. You are a living person who deserves dignity. Remind your MP of that. You will also get guidance and brochures from Trans Solidarity Alliance that outlines our demands. This is mine from last year.

Money issues? Trans Solidarity Alliance provides a travel bursary that you can sign up for via the link.

Got a refusal or no response from your MP?  Come anyway! You can request a same-day appointment with your MP through a process called greencarding. They will come and see you if they’re already in Parliament. Even if they don’t, they’re made acutely aware of your cause because you showed up in person. This is my greencard from last year.

Here is the EHRC Code of Practice in full. It's a tough read, but some highlights are:

Organisations can’t provide trans-inclusive, single-sex services, or they risk being sued for discrimination. e.g. domestic violence support for women including trans women, men’s rugby group including trans men (12.68).

Trans people will have nowhere safe to pee. If you’re a trans man, businesses can't allow you to pee in the men's, and you can also be ejected from women’s bathrooms if you’re perceived as a man. Vice versa for trans women. EHRC suggests a ‘third space’ bathroom, which is discriminatory and unworkable for most businesses. (13.130-133)

Sports organisations must exclude trans people from single-sex competitions (13.73).  A women’s only sports competition must exclude trans women because of their biological advantage or face potential lawsuits (13.74), but a trans man who has undergone testosterone treatment can also be excluded based on fairness rules (13.81).

Trans women are stripped of the legal definition of ‘lesbian’, and therefore no longer have legal protections if they’re discriminated against on the basis of sexual orientation. (2.50, 2.92).

Here is the Good Law Project's better explanation of the EHRC Code.

I have also made a PDF printout of QR codes for the government petition, email your MP tool, and mass lobby link to pass around your communities. DM me and I'll send it to you.

[thebaconsandwichofregret]

It's also important for us cis allies to show up and support our trans community members, so think about joining this if you're able no matter your gender identity.

I'm not going to be able to go, but I do have some experience with lobbying my various MPs over the years, so here's some quick advice off the top of my head:

If you're resident in the UK but not a citizen you still have the right to go to Parliament and be seen by your MP.

If you don't know who your MP is you can look it up by putting your postcode into the Find My MP page on Parliament's website (pro tip if you are a uni student, check your MP for both your family home and your uni, one may be a better option for lobbying than the other, you may even be able to Green Card both of them, but I don't know if that's possible, ask on the desk when you ask for the card).

And everyone needs to remember that while officially you're not required to show photo ID to get into Parliament the official guidance from the House of Commons is "you don't need photo ID to get in but we suggest you bring it anyway" (which is just unhelpful)

You will also be required to pass through airport style security which obviously may be a stressful experience for some of the people taking part in the mass lobby. That can take anywhere up to half an hour, the staff are usually pretty nice, but the entry into the security check is a sloped metal ramp with zero shade and nowhere to lean or sit so plan accordingly.

If your MP is not in the building to come and meet you they are required to respond to your Green Card as soon as possible via the contact details you put on your Green Card. While meeting them in person is the ideal you will get a response so it will be worth it even if your MP is unavailable.

Have a safe, productive lobby! Proud of all of you who can go and support the cause.

[wittyno]

Tips

People in general, are more likely to take you seriously and want to help you if you are nice and polite to them.

They may not be in parliament. They may be their London offices which are located a 5-minute walk away in the Portcullis House.

They also should have offices in their districts. So if London is too far of a trek you can absolutely go to their local office.

[thebaconsandwichofregret]

Yes! This is also a good point! MPs are traditionally expected to spend their Fridays in their constituency and to hold regular opportunities for you to meet with them to discuss issues. This is called a constituency surgery. If you are unable to make it to London you can look up when your MP is holding their next surgery and make an appointment to see them in your home town to discuss it there. Maybe even reach out to local pride groups in your area and do a local mass lobby of your MP in order to show them this is an issue that matters in your area too.

[capricornluna-deactivated201810]

this blog hates donald trump

[pearlmarley]

Look how many people hate him. I’m pretty damn happy about that 😁😁😁😁😁😁

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[teal-deer]

/raises hand

Genuine question: is it possible for trans women to get endometriosis without a uterus? Because the whole Thing about endo is your body putting menses in Not The Uterus and that's SUPER bad for you and your insides.

Tbh this is probably one of those things that's just gone utterly unstudied because lol who even studies endo in people who *do* have uteri.

I ask because if it's possible, 1) I am so sorry and 2) this is a reason a trans woman might need hormonal birth control in addition to HRT. Because birth control prevents the formation of menses and is a literal lifesaver in terms of keeping your body from fucking itself up. My own endo is probably what screwed up my kidneys and bladder, for instance.

Even if it's not possible, periods suck and I'm sorry you ladies go through it too. Only things I can personally suggest are painkillers, heating pads, chocolate, and reminding yourself that your hormones and brain are just being jerks.

[kayla-denker]

I would honesly be shocked if trans women were somehow immune to endometriosis. Especially since it's not even just on other parts of the uterus that endomitrisis causes the tissue to grow, but also on the bladder, the bowls, and the pelvic wall.

I don't know of any cases, but I feel very confident that they're out there but go undiagnosed because doctor's refuse to treat us as if we have anything but "male bodies."

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

I’m so fucking gay Jesus Christ my neck

[the-ivy-grows-regardless]

What about your neck now?

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

Sesbian lex

[jackieofowls]

Gonna need more details...and possibly pictures...

(^v~)

[jackieofowls]

Before I get bottom surgery, I'm gonna use a dildo-molding kit on myself.

That way whenever Ember gets mad at me they can always chuck it at me and tell me to go fuck myself.

[kewlb0t]

you’re not really trans if you haven’t oozed at least once let’s be real

[discolor3d]

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

[jackieofowls]

I wish I were hot enough to sell nudes. Two years without a job and having that much needed extra income is really starting to wear thin...

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

I wish the government would just give me a job, instead of playing this dumb back and forth that never seems to go anywhere with employers.

[sarwin000]

An Army recruiter is running to your house right now with a contract in his hands. Free housing, food, money, schooling, and Healthcare, just for 4 years

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

I am an out trans woman socialist with terrible eyesight and a fear of conflict.

No thank you.

[jackieofowls]

All of those recruiter promises are lies anyway.

[jackieofowls]

Novelty condoms with funny phrases printed on them. What would yours say?

I'll start: Mine would probably say "This won't take long..." 🤣😭

[tgirl-tamag0tchi]

Meeting someone from tumblr irl is horrifying and wonderful cause they know all my perverted thoughts and weird as fuck jokes.

[jackieofowls]

Sounds like the perfect ice-breaker to me.

[jackieofowls]

How can I sleep solidly throughout the entire night but have gotten no rest?! What a waste of time, I could have been cleaning the apartment...

[jackieofowls]

Ember got me a new blouse! It goes with so many of my skirts, and it'll be perfect for the Halloween event we're going to at the museum this year!