Andrew Wyeth (American 1917-2009)
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Andrew Wyeth (American 1917-2009)
Pisses me off when people call Brooklyn Nine Nine cop propaganda.
Copaganda is just a much better term
so like okay,
I don’t know why I’ve been obsessively thinking about the concept of “gaydar”
but I have.
Actually no it’s because a straight family member used the term like
“oh I have really great gaydar”
and it made me feel really gross
and it took me like a full hour to realize why.
When heterosexual people say that,
it feels like they’re bragging about their ability to clock us, you know?
like a straight person is telling me that they can spot us queers at 50 paces
and i’m immediately going to be uncomfortable with that,
whereas when other queer folks talk about being able to spot each other
it’s a tool for survival.
Like here’s the thing right?
being able to tell is important sometimes.
Here’s an example:
A couple summers ago I was in a very very small town in Nova Scotia, Canada
(like 6 buildings small)
and I met a woman in the library who was probably a little older than my actual mother.
She was there most days using the wifi
because she lived across the street in an apartment without internet.
We sat at the same table a few times and spoke briefly about life in passing
and after a few of these not-talking-about-gay-stuff convos I was pretty sure she was a part of the lgbtq community
and I slipped in a casual pronoun re: an ex
and she just looked at me,
stopped completely
and said “oh thank fuck, I thought so.”
and instantly started talking about her girlfriend,
it was like this huge wave of relief washed over both of us
because we were in a small rural town and both hovering in this really queer space and unable to talk about it.
Anyway she was really rad and took me to the closest big town to buy me a tim hortons coffee
because she found it reprehensible that I had been in canada for more than 3 weeks already and hadn’t ever had it.
Almost instantly it was like
“oh okay we have this thing in common that other people may not be cool with
but we can actually exist and not hide shit without the fear of violence or anger”
but when it’s a straight person
they’re pretty much just letting you know that they can spot the fact that you seem “abnormal” to them
like great
thanks for letting me know.
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We’re identifying brethren while they’re identifying outsiders. It’s that simple.
or We Need To Protect LGBTQ Kids And Teenagers
“(Aug 3rd, 2017) This week, the trailer for the film adaptation of “Call Me By Your Name” hit the Internet, while the movie started showing at Sundance. Both the trailer and the movie were welcomed with praise and excitement by most of the public, but my reaction can’t be other than worry and fear. Fear for the kids who will stumble upon this movie, along with the multitude of similar material that already exists, and think that the predatory and manipulative relationship portrayed in it is, as the critics have been describing it, a “sexy, passionate summer romance”.
“Call Me By Your Name” is a film about the “forbidden” romance between a closeted seventeen year old boy and a twenty-four year old man. Based on the book of the same name, the movie portrays a relationship in which the older adult clearly knows that what he’s doing is wrong, yet he still starts a romantic and sexual relationship with a high-school aged teenager. The story ends with Oliver (the older man) married to a woman while Elio (the younger man, who was a teenager at the time of their “affair”) is still heavily affected by their relationship a decade and a half later.
It doesn’t seem, from his interviews, that André Aciman intended to write the story of a predatory adult manipulating a kid, but that’s the story told. The fact that the author of the book is a straight man only complicates any possible analysis, and raises the question of if, maybe, the choice to portray a teenager “falling” for a man seven year older was caused by the prejudiced idea that LGBTQ people are predatory; or by straight men’s own tendency to prey on inexperienced teenagers and see nothing wrong with it.
The people involved in the film see no fault in the narrative either, and Armie Hammer said in an interview that “nothing about the relationship was predatory”. The movie isn’t a cautionary tale about adults manipulating a closeted teenager, but it should be.
The discussion around “Call Me By Your Name” is a conflicting one. The movie both perpetuates (even if it doesn’t want to) the idea that gay men prey on young kids, while it also normalizes and romanticizes relationships between adult men and teenagers. And, while the first instinct is to say “hey, no, LGBTQ people aren’t inherently predatory”, the overwhelmingly positive response (even from LGBTQ circles!) makes us wonder if it isn’t even more important to say “yeah, some LGBTQ people are predatory, and we have to protect young LGBTQ kids”.
The fact is that, though of course we aren’t born predators trying to turn the innocent straight youth gay, or trick the heterosexuals into sleeping with us; there are predators in our spaces, often protected by the idea that, because a space is LGBTQ, it will be safe.
I’d hoped that the response to “Call Me By Your Name” would be of swift condemnation (akin to the quick response to allegations of PWR BTTM member Ben Hopkins being an abuser, or the major outrage every time a show has killed a sapphic character in the last couple of years) or, at the very least, the start of a sincere discussion of how often isolated and closeted kids find themselves in unsafe situations when attempting to explore their sexuality. Instead, not only is the response overwhelmingly positive but, what’s worse, all criticisms are being shut down with either accusations of homophobia or defenses of abuse.
“Call Me By Your Name” isn’t okay because “Pretty Little Liars” has a victim marry her abuser or because Woody Allen keeps making movies where men in their forties fall for nineteen-years-old girls. Abuse culture is abuse culture, and these portrayals of abuse (including the warped and romanticized image of “Lolita” that has spread through pop culture despite the original novel being a horror story about an abuser and his prey) are all equally wrong, whether they depict heterosexual people or gay people as abusers.
Sure, toxic relationships are a common theme in fiction, and “Lolita” is a staple of literature because it so hauntingly portrays the mentality of an abuser. If “Call Me By Your Name” intended to be (like the original novel by Vladimir Nabokov) an introspection into the mind of a predator, or even a portrayal of the trauma that dating adults causes teenagers (like the dreadful, but accurate “Abzurdah”), there wouldn’t be a problem with it. And, just like we criticize heterosexual romances for normalizing and romanticizing abuse, we should be able to apply this same criteria to gay media.
But the most worrisome part of this argument isn’t the discussion over whether we can ever portray LGBTQ people as abusive (and how these narratives should be framed) but the argument that there is no abuse at all, and because a seventeen year old teenager is legally able to consent within the context of the film, there is nothing wrong with them sleeping with an adult in their mid-twenties. And what’s genuinely, truly scary, is that it’s not teenagers who don’t know better making these arguments, but actual adults in their twenties (and even older). There are people outing themselves as potential predators as a defense of this movie, and the majority of the Internet doesn’t seem to care one bit.
Maybe the most controversial part of the “it’s legal and so it’s okay” argument is the fact that age of consent laws are often frail and even illogical constructs. In Italy, where the story of “Call Me By Your Name” is set, the age of consent is fourteen. In the United States, where Oliver is from, the age of consent ranges from sixteen to eighteen. Some countries have an age of consent as low as twelve and, up until a handful of years ago, the age of consent in the United Kingdom was sixteen for heterosexual couples and twenty-one for gay couples.
What’s important to remember is that the law is not the end-all-be-all of morality, and that something being legal (like gay panic laws, the Industrial Prison Complex, or forced genital mutilation) or illegal (like existing as a gay person, abortion, or consenting adults practicing sex work) doesn’t magically make it right or wrong.
(Most of us) understand that, though they are both under the age of consent and it’s not directly punishable by law in most places, a twelve year old and a sixteen year old should not be having sex. There is an understanding that, no matter how smart or mature or physically developed a twelve year old is, there are certain vital stages of development that separate them from a sixteen year old. Because of these stages of development it’s that consent, majority, responsibility and accountability are given to people in stages, allowing them certain rights and obligations as they grow older, with twenty-one being the age when most countries consider a person fully mature. But, while it’s generally understood that the stage between twelve and sixteen years of age creates a kind of boundary, the abuse culture that we live in makes it so the lines get blurrier as teenagers get older, leaving vulnerable young people to be manipulated by adults with little to no consequences.
Always, in these discussions, we end up bringing up the anecdotal evidence. People will argue that their parents met when their mom was a teenager and their dad was in his mid-twenties “and yet they’re happily married!”, or think of a fling they had as a teenager themselves with an adult person that didn’t affect them much. What the overwhelming majority of anecdotal evidence actually proves is that most people who dated an older adult in the fifteen-to-nineteen stage experienced some kind of abuse. Even though a lot of these people can’t actually recognize it as abuse until it’s been pointed to them as such, it still is.
Young people dating older adults, particularly young people still in high-school, are still developing emotionally, sexually, and intellectually; and they don’t have the social and economic position that an older adult might have. They are more susceptible to manipulation, likely to have their boundaries trespassed and their consent forced; and at-risk youth are the most prone to be targeted by predatory adults.
LGBTQ kids are particularly endangered, especially closeted youth. Though not every LGBTQ teenager will find themselves isolated and without resources, it’s still a common experience, and one that can be exploited. When a more experienced adult presents themselves as the one source of wisdom and hope in an otherwise unwelcoming surrounding, and asking for counsel or help might mean outing themselves, the chances of LGBTQ teens ending in abusive relationships without even being aware that they are being taken advantage of are huge.
The refusal to portray abusive relationships as abusive only further endangers teenagers. From the “Twilight” books to films like “Call Me By Your Name”, the portrayal of these relationships as a non-issue convinces teenagers that not only are relationships with older adults acceptable, but sometimes even desirable. Given the prevalence of gay narratives where one’s “one true love” is what finally allows them to come out and be happy, and the overwhelming presence of romances between teenagers and older people; gay and bisexual teens often think that a relationship with an older person might be a necessary stepping stone or even the only possible outcome of the path to being out and proud.
It’s time to start holding ourselves and everyone around us accountable for harboring, spreading and defending these ideas. All of society is guilty of upholding a culture that normalizes abuse and protects abusers. But it’s particularly important that we, as LGBTQ people, remember that protecting our own, sometimes, means protecting the most vulnerable among us; not just from the outside prejudice that we’re all dangerous, but also from the abusers in our communities.
Parting note: It was incredibly hard not to write this as a personal essay on how the trauma of these experiences has marked me and mine, and why the discussion surrounding this movie personally wounds me, because I hope that an attempt at a less emotional talk will reach more people. Still, I urge you to read, if you can, this personal account about fandom’s normalization of abuse and how it directly affects victims.”
yeah um everyone defending this film can drop dead
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I was really in the mood to make fanart this week! So here ya go, Clay from "13 Reasons Why" on Netflix. The middle of the season is a bit slow, but the beginning and end = 👍 @dylan_minnette @13reasons / Watercolour, gouache, colour pencil. 🎨 . . . . #13reasonswhy #Netflix #13reasonswhyfanart #fanart #fanartfriday #clay #clayjensen #dylanminnette #actor #art #artist #artistsofinstagram #drawing #draw #painting #paint #portraitdrawing #portrait #gouache #watercolor #watercolour #purple #fangirl #jennytaravosh (på/i Malmö, Sweden)
Just finished this lurking cat today, and moving on! I had planned to add the flowers, but I didn't sketch them out before I started painting. That was a mistake. Oh well, I'm fine with it anyway. I will take a little break from #tendaystenanimals for a day or two so I can go and visit my dad. Yes! ♥ . . . . #tendaystenanimals #jennytaravosh #challenge #drawing #draw #sketch #sketchbook #pencil #painting #paint #watercolors #gouache #gouachepainting #cat #cats #catstagram #kitty #animal #flower #flowers #art #artist #artistsofinstagram #artistsoninstagram #moss #green #red #orange #black #white
Day 3: I drew a turtle and I love him so much. 🐢 Not because it's the best thing I've ever made, but simply because it's a turtle. . . . #tendaystenanimals #jennytaravosh #turtle #art #artistsofinstagram #artistsoninstagram #draw #drawing #challenge #pencil #pencildrawing #sketch #practice #love #purple #color #colour #animal #watercolor #pencils #wip #workinprogress (på/i Malmö, Sweden)
Day 2 of #tendaystenanimals 🐘 Sketch: by me. Frame: neighbour's awesome gigantic aloe vera. . Maybe I'll paint this, but some other time, because I'm having a pain day. Anyway, I love elephants, they're so darn wrinkly. . . . #tendaystenanimals #jennytaravosh #challenge #elephant #elephants #animals #art #artist #artistsoninstagram #artistsofinstagram #draw #drawing #sketch #sketchbook #pencil #pencilart #pencildrawing #wrinkles #aloevera #plant #plants #love (på/i Belgrade, Serbia)
Cat! ❇ I've decided to really practice drawing animals, so I made a little challenge for myself: #tendaystenanimals 🐢 I might end up failing miserably, I am ill and some days I simply can't do much, but I'd like to give it a try anyway. And, oh, if there is anyone that wants to join the challenge, go for it, and please share your work so I can be even more inspired. :D . . . #tendaystenanimals #jennytaravosh #draw #drawing #sketch #sketchbook #paint #painting #watercolorpainting #watercolor #gouache #art #artistsofinstagram #artistsoninstagram #cat #cats #catdrawing #catart #catsofinstagram #caturday #pink #mint #green #plant #leaves #challenge #artchallenge (på/i Belgrade, Serbia)
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Drawing outside in the sun. ☀ I lasted a whole 30 minutes.. But I took a photo so I can continue later. . I kind of feel sorry for artists of the past that didn't have these shortcuts.. 📷 . . #drawing #drawing #sketch #sketchbook #succulent #succulents #plant #plants #art #artistsofinstagram #artistsoninstagram #wip #workinprogress #artprocess #sun #willpaintthislater (på/i Zemun)
💛 This one goes out to @trasslaren who is a kind, brave and beautiful person, as well as one of my dearest friends. I haven't always been present (mentally as well as physically), but I'm hoping as the years continue to go by I will learn how to be a better friend to her. Happy (much belated) birthday, Åsa! I'll hand over this little gouache painting to you as soon as I'm back in Sweden. Jag saknar dig! 🐢 (på/i Belgrade, Serbia)
Another oldie! 🌿💖 This is a little black and white oil painting I made for my cousin Anna, as a gift. It was before I went to art school and actually learned oils, so.. It is probably at least 8 years old. Woah. . . . . #throwback #memories my #beautiful #cousin #artwork #artist #art #artistsofinstagram #retro #model #painting #oil #oils #oilpainting #oilpaint #windsornewton #paint #portrait #portraitpainting #gift #woman #family #blackandwhite #monstera
Kino, from Kino's Journey, my favourite anime. Another old drawing. I remember it well because it was after this one that I fell in love with Daler Rowney Smooth Heavyweight paper! 😍 I draw all my pencil comics and most of my portraits on that paper still. . . . . #throwback #anime #character #loveher she's such a #badass #manga #artwork #art #mixedmedia #mixedmediaart #watercolour #watercolorart #watercolor #painting #watercolorpainting #artist #comic #colour #color #pretty #dalerrowney #favorite #paper
Aw! 💖 I dug out some photos of old drawings the other day, so I'm making this a bit of a Throwback Weekend. This is a drawing based off a photo from my (third?) birthday party, featuring myself and my amazing grandmother. From 2012! . . . #jennytaravosh #tiny #person #throwback #pencilart #pencil #pencilportrait #portrait #pencildrawing #drawing #portraitdrawing #grandma #grandmother #family #memory #loveher #birthday
I hate that coming out is like, entirely for the sake of cis&straight people. We come about because they can’t stop assuming that everyone else is cis&straight, we come out because they can’t stop being homophobic and transphobic and assuming that we are comfortable hearing it, we come out because they keep asking about why we don’t have a boyfriend yet or monitoring which bathroom we use. And then there’s the fact that cis&straight people are so invested in us coming out. They tell us it’s lying and deceptive when LGBT folks don’t come out to the point that they tell other people for us, they tell us that they “already knew” or “could tell” and brag about their gaydar or else they praise us by pretending it’s a compliment that they “never would’ve guessed”, then they go on to call us “brave” and “strong” for doing something we never should’ve had to do in the first place. And then there’s the idea that we are the ones who should feel ashamed about it and be told that they “still love us” despite the fact that it’s their hatred and bigotry that we’ve had to deal with the entire time we’ve known them and not the other way around. Coming out is the only milestone they think we have because it’s the one that they play the biggest role in and the one that they necessitate and I absolutely hate that about coming out.
The never-ending coming out crap.