KalSeraGray

A blog to acknowledge and create miracles. KalSeraGray, adj. "To be fully powerful and vigorous while authentically expressing your benevolent spirit with elegance and beauty, a way of being."

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Second Thinking Jeans As I sit here in the lobby of a golf club to meet my 11:00 lunch appointment doubt starts to settle in. It is 11:05, did I get the time right? Did I get the right place? Maybe I am just missing him? Damn I should not have worn jeans. Do my $300 shoes make up for the fact that I am wearing jeans? Maybe I will take one look around again. I hope no one notices my jeans. Ok, he is on his way. I hope this meeting goes well and is not confrontational. I was so confident this morning. Damn jeans. Oh no, my nails look horrible. Swirl. How we swirl when we let our mind run away with thought. Our minds are always processing and thinking like computers set to process data 24/7. Data in/information out. The conversation is constantly pulling from past experiences and using those experiences as cold hard facts. Often situations taken out of context or events we have given meaning to. Our inner bully constantly giving us information to take us out of the game and out of what it perceives as harms way. Time to change the conversation. We do control how we run away with our thoughts. Stop focusing on the questions and inner voice. Thank you for the information. Now create who you know yourself to be. Here I go, confident, compassionate and intelligent. And YES, he wore jeans!

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Exploring anxiety. Sitting with the family at the end of the night and attempting to relax and spend quality time, but your mind swirls with all you have to do, your chest feels heavy with unrest and you are overall tense. You lay down to sleep at night and you mind will not turn off. You replay all the events that happened that day. Maybe you preview events for tomorrow or even next week. Sound familiar? If I count all the hours I have wasted to moments like these, I would be looking at a whole new part time job. One that not only does not pay much, but is more stressful than my real job. So why do we do it? What are we getting out of it? What is our payoff? Yes, you heard right, pay off. You would not continue to do something you got nothing out of. That would be crazy. Once you can identify what you are getting out of it, you can then weigh it against the cost of what you are giving up. You have to even ask yourself the question, how do you know it is anxiety? What if it were something else? It is then, that you can stand in choice, you can choose, you have the power. What if? What do you choose?

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Performance and Success In working with my children on performance, choices and success, I have realized I am not present to the current conversation and have uncovered a gross error in my support and expectations around them. Stepping back and taking an active listening role in how their world occurs to them, I slowly become aware of their drivers. The conversation I hear is, "We have to clean up." "It is time to go to school." "We need to do this." "Stop, you should not do that" "Mom said.... My teacher said.... My friend said...." Where are they in their world and what is important. And don't think the conversation changes as we step into being adults. We live in the expectations, the should and the have to conversation. As leaders, parents and facilitators, we could move to teach and model values, morals and humanity as the foundation and then stand in support of their driver, their vision and/or why. So, What if the conversation was different?What if their spirt, their beliefs and their why became the driver? What if they started to read, write and go to school for them and what was important to them? What would be possible if they were present to their why and chose their actions in success of their vision and their why. How would they be in the face of obstacle, challenge and frustration when they were doing it for their why and not someone else's. What if the answer was intrinsic to them and they could stand in confidence in their choice from within. What is possible for any of us when we stand in our why?

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Soaring Confidence. My question for today is... How do you teach and instill confidence? I sit here with a lack of power and confidence and instead I am filled with anxiety and frustration on how to work with my son and build his confidence. How to assist him to believe in himself and to have him know his choices matter, without needing the agreement of the collective. Yes, I do see the irony in this. And even with it nicely illustrated in my life and in my way of being right now, I still have no access to the solution. As I look at what is missing or in the way of being and instilling confidence, it is not the lack of knowing or knowledge; it is the conversation of doubt, approval and being right. Frustration! The fear of choosing wrong or having someone discover I may not know is overpowering any ability to succeed or to powerfully choose. Again more irony in how being with fear is creating the perception of what I am fearful of to begin with. Now to craft the conversation to deal with and address what is in the way of or missing. Removing the obstacle or story should allow us to powerfully stand in confidence. Better first have the conversation with myself, to not only build my confidence, but to be it by example. Confidence in the creating

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I love cloudy days! Probably because I live in Arizona and we do not see them often. For me, the clouds bring change, and a cleanse of the earth. Time to start new and fresh. Clean.

Today I feel renewed and am alive with all that is possible. Planning, being in action and standing at the doorway of transformation. In the clearing and peace their is the ability to not only work it out but create it. Today everything is possible and I can see it all laid out.

The shift comes from the perspective and being in action. Standing in now, today and creating. Putting the pieces together for what will be not trying to piece together what I need to fix.

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Change perspective, see the big picture. This year I am so committed to transforming my life that I have become too attached to how it looks and trying to control the process. I am looking too close and creating upset, worry and anxiety. When all I really want is peace and answers. Just like when I look at the close up image of this fabric, I am unclear as to what it is actually an image of or how I would use it. And when I take a step back and see the big picture, I can transform my mindset and try it on. Change your perspective, and try it on. Who knows, it may fit?

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Mindfulness, in search of peace.

Today I feel as if I have been searching for peace. Really looking everywhere, really trying too hard. The harder I looked the louder the noise in my head became and the more restless I became. That is the thing about mindfulness, you cannot find it with your mind. It is found in the peace and the space in between the thoughts.

It was not till this evening where I took some deep breaths, stopped searching and connected with the innocence of my children. It was then I saw a mosquito hawk or crane fly taping at my window. It is then, that I took moment to reflect. The crane fly speaks to us about emotion. It is the pull between our emotional creative self and our analytical self. It calls forward purpose, balance and introspection. The crane fly is resourceful, has instinctive survival techniques and gives the message to sacrifice that which no longer serves us. Be purposeful, creative and passionate about the lives we create. Balance both our emotional and analytical minds to create a life we love.

Today the universe sent me the gift of choice and balance in the innocence of my children. The inner peace in between the moments. Stop looking, stop searching and be. Be with your heart to find the peace you seek.

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Around us, life bursts with miracles—a glass of water, a ray of sunshine, a leaf, a caterpillar, a flower, laughter, raindrops. If you live in awareness, it is easy to see miracles everywhere.

Thich Nhat Hanh (via thecalminside)

Acknowledge and see the miracles

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Mindfulness, quiet the mind, be present and experience.

I believe the universe sends us messages everyday, it is when we slow down, pause and see the world, we notice them. The more present we are, the more we experience the miracles around us. These messages are exactly what we need to move forward.

Today I was sent the dragonfly. He hovered close by and it seemed time stood still until I took notice of him. The dragonfly brings the message of change and transformation. He seems to fly with ease, quickly and effortlessly able to change directions. Today I use the dragonfly as inspiration to see obstacles in a new perspective, to be flexible and effortlessly adapt. To Transform