Organized Chaos

"Have more than you show, Speak less than you know."

[systlin]

Here, a cheater course on caring for natural fibers!

1. Wool. Treat it like it has the delicate constitution of a Victorian lady and the conviction that baths are evil of a 17th century noble. (If I get in WATER my PORES will OPEN and I will CATCH ILL AND DIE.)

2. Cotton; easygoing. Will shrink a bit if washed and dried hot.

3. Silk; people think it’s like wool and has the constitution of a fashionably dying of consumption Victorian lady, but actually it’s quite tough. Can be washed in an ordinary washer, and either tumbled dry without heat or hung to dry.

4. Linen; it doesn’t give a shit. Beat the hell out of it. Historically was laundered by dousing it in lye and beating the shit out of it with wooden paddles, which only makes it look better. The masochist of the natural fiber world. Beat the fuck out of it linen doesn’t care. Considerably stronger than cotton. Linen sheet sets can last literal decades in more or less pristine shape because of that strength.The most likely natural fiber to own a ball gag.

[feelingsoftheday]

I like dates. I like healthy communication. I love room to grow. I like quality time. I like reassurance. I like reciprocated energy.

[adamsmasher]

True facts.

[feelthekenergy]

This is unfortunately something everybody needs to fucking know about crafting, but nobody knows about crafting.

[sakuracards]

tags from @sergle

[byjove]

If EVERYBODY in your life hates your significant other then they are the problem. If it is one or two people like a family member you have a turbulent relationship with and one friend who’s always been kind of jealous, maybe they just hate your success. But most of the time that is not the case and the people who are closest to you and love you and have had your back for years probably know when your new relationship is toxic and/or doomed.

[byjove]

“My friends don’t talk to me anymore because of my boyfriend.” Who do you talk to now, other than him?

[naamahdarling]

YES. A MILLION TIMES YES.

Inverse also true! If your partner dislikes most of the people you are close to or gets really pouty about you spending some time with them and keeping in touch, that's a huge red flag.

If you don't have people over anymore or don't take your partner places because your partner's behavior is embarrassing or noxious, something is very very wrong.

[adventurous-nerd]

So this is crystal clear to me now, in hindsight because, y'know.. But also add on to that list 'I don't want to talk about my relationship with my nearest and dearest because I feel like I have to defend it' is also something to look out for.

[beaniebabyoftheday]

someone: bear in mind…..

me:

[catchymemes]

[jean-doe]

Britt Reagan

[ceremonial]

Behind the scenes of Pride & Prejudice (2005)

[bolesci]

[nebris]

[hollowboobtheory]

you know there actually is a meaningful difference between 'men's' and 'women's' deodorant beyond the selection of scents. 'mens' plays better with pit hair and doesn't pill up in it and 'womens' tends to have a more powdery finish to help prevent chafing. so really the two genders are actually hairy and bald.

[hollowboobtheory]

realizing this was such a paradigm shift for me and i have to wonder what other "uselessly" gendered products are like this, where they actually are different in a way that would be useful to consumers but some marketing department decided instead of just saying what the difference is, to prescribe which you need based on the most arbitrary metric, so nebulous that what it even means varies from person to person. as if they think you're too dumb to look at "anti-chafing powder formula" and "lightweight gel formula" and decide for yourself which one would work best.

[izzycodes]

I like this a lot.

[revivisection]

my hobbies include napping, sleeping, lying down, resting, closing my eyes, dozing, snoozing, slumbering, etc.

[lunamonchtuna]

you know what's a love language that gets me everytime i see it between two people? gaze. even though one is looking at the other with heart eyes in front of everyone, it seems like such a private moment that we just happened to witness, but weren't meant to. most of the times, even the one they are looking at is not meant to see how they are being looked at with so much love and admiration. the loving gaze doesn't have a purpose. more than being a conversation with one's lover, it's a conversation with oneself one where you smile and admit to yourself: "i am gone for this person, aren't i?"

[thelongvictorian]

The Yellow Jacket (1907) by William McGregor Paxton (American artist, lived 1869-1941). An elegant women in a highly styled Chinese jacket consults a weighty tome by a window.

[hwhwgwhnwnwbwbwg-deactivated202]

when hands touch

[mun-dane]

and there lies your hand feeling the warmth of their hand, begging you to not put an end on this warmth even if something important comes up.

[atinystraykid]

“If you have time to be on social media, you also have time for…” “If you have time to watch Netflix, you also have time for…” Yeah, but do I have the energy for it? Do I have the emotional and mental capacity for it? Am I pain-free enough for it? Can I focus on it? Can I do it without leaving my bed? Can I safely do it without risk of (physically or emotionally) injuring myself by pushing past my boundaries?

[jeherion]

Actually I DON'T have time.

I need insane amounts of rest to function. There's a good chance I'll also be on tumblr, chatting to a friend, listening to podcast etc. during that resting time.

But I can't use that time to do whatever I want, whenever I want, because pushing myself past my limits will make me feel like crap for days.

So technically it's NOT free time.

[doomhamster]

This is a very helpful way of putting it. Recovery time isn't free time; it's for RECOVERY. And if you're neurodivergent or chronically ill or anything in that register, it becomes even more mandatory because your mind and body will punish you that much more severely for neglecting recovery. (Though, uh, that is definitely a thing that will happen to you even if you're Perfectly Normal And Healthy, it just probably won't be as immediate or obvious! so you may not even notice it until it MAKES you neurodivergent or chronically ill!)

[aqueerkettleofish]

Your brain is a machine. Schedule downtime and maintenance, or it will be scheduled for you.