Hush, don't speak

Personal side blog of a bitchy german lass. My posts will be in english and german. I mostly complain into the void.

[veritablevent]

there was this trend of promoting healthy male emotionality a couple of years ago, the whole "men don't cry... but you should! and then you'll feel better!" and "not crying will turn you into a zombie... let yourself feel emotions!" singing movement, and i cannot help thinking that that's where the manipulative matcha boy plague of today comes from. men did listen and they did start crying more. it's just that they also didn't stop beating their girlfriends, because beating their girlfriends had nothing to do with their emotional repression and everything to do with knowing they would get away with it. the illness hasn't been cured; it's just that now they know the symptoms and can therefore do their best to cover those up.

[marbleguard]

brother: sometimes it seems like the end result of feminism will be that nobody (read: straight women) even fucks anymore. and that will be how we go extinct

dad: hahaha

[marbleguard]

men are so incapable of even imagining changing their own behavior that in the hypothetical scenario where all straight women decide to be celibate as a result of observing male’s terrible behavior, the blame is placed on feminism and not the male behavior that spawned the movement in the first place. men are very smart

[marbleguard]

personally I think that if one half of a species evolves to be so vicious and antisocial that the other half refuses to reproduce with them, it makes perfect sense for it to go extinct

[scribbles-0f-a-madwoman]

This is quite literally nature's path. That's what is so ironic about males. They have convinced themselves for so long that WOMEN are the ones who submit to reproduction as a service, so long so that this very ideology has long been forgotten as purposeful manipulation made to supplement insecurity and has instead ingrained itself as a biological fact. Look at nature. What female animal breeds with males "for the greater good" past selfish desire? What animal has males selecting females? Why would the animal tjat labors less be the one choosing a reproductive partner? Why would the one laboring more submit herself to be picked? The female is the one who needs compensation, not the male. Genuinely, it hurts to talk about because males are so god damn stupid and alienated from their nature. Their cult like fairytale of nature is becoming less intentionally curated and moreso belived as an objective truth. How far do you need to look into nature to see peacocks dancing for peahens and female bonobos beating the shit out of males? To see female tortoises launch themselves to their death rather than submit to males? Their species will die, and male humans will not learn from their example. They'll chalk it up to difficult females until they die. And our species death to me, our hypothetical death, is beautiful.

Males are the subjects. And that, ladies, is why I continue to theorize that patriarchy is a role reversal based on the absolute wound that this fact inflicts upon the male mind. Patriarchy is projection, I'm proven right almost every time. The obsession with our eggs, all to find out that sperm mutates 4x more. Saying we decrease in value when we live longer due to evolving next to the fact of matriarchy. Making maternal instincts animalize our brains whilst acting as if males just own their children, while in reality we would be matrilineal with biparental care (so males would care for children yet get no pride or status).

It is simply all projection. It is avoiding the harsh truth of sexual selection and their logistics of reproduction in the context of weighing labor. Males must MAKE themselves useful, they are not useful by just existing. Their existence and it's value is connected to their ability to appeal and be selected. I am the default that chooses. This is what male knowledge and epistemology seeks to obscure. This is why they tried to hide the fact that nature is largely matriarchal. Why so many bad studies exist with alpha male wolves and male lions leading the pack.

I want you all to just assess the linguistics around reproduction and childbirth. It is all worded as a service. And I used to get really confused by the dilemma of reproduction and its harmful risk to women, why do it? But what I was missing was a component of female desire. That is how much the priority of reproduction has been erased. How much males have made your suffering into a service for their pride. Pride over what? Ejaculation. How impressive. But in the end, just pay attention to how much true desire is wiped from the process. How much dignity is taken. How much identity is culturally eliminated. Words matter. "Giving birth" not surviving birth, focusing on the product not the woman. "His child" obsessing over the man who ejaculated and wording the birth as a service to him. In reality sperm is a tool, a tool they offer and we select. Men know it's supposed to be our event, not our performance, and they can't stand not being the priority. They can't stand serving someone else's interest. Once you uncover the truth of sexual dynamics in a logical sense, it all becomes so clear.

Keep your eyes and ears open. I'll make a post on this another day. The childbirth dilemma and its ethics. I will word how much the process has been twisted into an unethical mess, but it is not intrinsically doomed.

[ak-nm]

[happyfunnysmiler]

What's crazy is the instinctual female feeling of betrayal when you catch a seemingly nice, respectful man in your life watching porn even when you're not anti porn. I was either 17 or newly 18 when I walked over to my grandpa's computer station where he works to ask him something, sort of off to himself in a cubby, only to see him quickly click out of a porn video. I just felt sad and disappointed, even though I wasn't aware of the horrors of porn at that time and simply thought of it as videos of people having sex. I just instinctually knew there was something wrong with the fact that he watched it. I thought "Oh, I guess he does objectify women after all" even though I never consciously thought of porn as objectification of women. My instincts in that moment knew it was objectification of people like me and that upset me.

[atwoodsfemalefantasy]

it's that sinking feeling of realizing a man you trusted cannot be trusted. that he isn't any different, even if you thought that he was. he's not any different. he's not any different.

[th3ophobia]

im donating my body to pseudoscience

[preposterousblasphemy]

Transitioning

[dworkinsdaughter]

[majchic]

[the-rad-menace]

Reminded me of when Lara Logan was raped by a mob of men while reporting on the revolution in Egypt in 2011. She fully believed she was going to die until Egyptian women closed rank around her and protected her until soldiers were able to reach her.

Read the interview at your own discretion. It's deeply disturbing.

Link

[female-eren]

The men who are doing "walking challenges" around the world make me so mad. Oh you're casually walking through Iran and Afghanistan and Azerbajdzjan and whatever. Oh the people are so nice? Oh you're happily sharing a room with 3 other male strangers? Oh you got picked up by a nice group of friends who drove you for a couple hours to your next stop with no incident? Fuck you

[nordenflycht]

“Yes, my consuming desire is to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, barroom regulars—to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording—all this is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always supposedly in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yes, God, I want to talk to everybody as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night...”

sylvia plath

[coolthingoftheday]

In 2005, a group of artists in Italy built a giant 200-foot-long plushie rabbit in the countryside, and just left it there. It’s been there ever since. 

(Source)

[annnmoody]

i think about this all the time

[annnmoody]

Wonder what he’s doing now…

[annnmoody]

That’s his decaying body in 2011

And 2012

He’s made of natural materials and is expected to completely disintegrate by 2025. Me too, bro

[annnmoody]

This is my favorite pic of him in the winter of 2006

[severalowls]

2025 turned out to be a generous estimate, as of 2020, there was only an outline of stunted vegetation:

[thingstrumperssay]

This comic has been going around, uncredited. So I don’t know who the artist is. I’d like to credit them properly for being so accurate in describing TERFs but for now I cannot.

I’ll edit this if I ever find out who the artist is, though.

[the-rad-menace]

This is unbelievably stupid.

From the woman’s perspective, the guy climbed down from the cart, put on a wig, and started pretending to be in her same predicament. He could easily take off the wig and get back in the cart at any moment. It’s a game for him. And the woman does not and will never have the option to cut her hair and get in the cart. Misogyny is sex based and doesn’t disappear just because you want to pretend it doesn’t effect you anymore.

[xrgl]

[triptihosmrti]

something so absolute wrath inducing about germany still pretending it‘s the prime example for progressive values, democracy and equality and not the final destination hotspot of sex trafficking in europe and actively benefitting from eastern euro exploitation both in the carer industry and xenophobic misogyny in prostitution

[femalecel]

George Lucas, a creep who wouldn't let Carrie Fisher wear a bra, and then later made her wear a slave bikini suit, stole content from his wife, and is allegedly in the blackbook, is a good person, but JKR, a woman who made some mean tweets is a bad person

[femalecel]

Why is being a pervert on main ok but being a transphobe on main isn't?

[femalecel]

To my great surprise, I learned that Neil Gaiman is a pedophile but still a good person, unlike that TERF JKR

[eve-made-the-right-choice]

It’s almost like men have the PRIVILEGE of being given the benefit of the doubt, even when they don’t deserve it, while women are punished for even the smallest mis-step.

I wonder what it could mean. Like maybe there’s a word for this dynamic? idk guys, help me out here

[killallthefuckboys]

interesting choice of authors, women always bad huh?

[fingerlickinbutch-deactivated20]

Whenever I see some woman make a long ass post about how men are wonderful and anyone who disagrees is toxic or whatever, I just want to grab her face and whisper “No man would ever say this about women unless he was looking for some sort of reward. The “good man” who you were probably thinking about when you made this post almost definitely spews the most vile, misogynistic trash about you and other women when he’s with his friends. You are wasting your compassion and positivity on selfish emotional husks of human beings.”

[gaylor-moon]

[hunter-rodrigez]

If a trans woman became chess world champion, terfs would unironically go: "It's unfair, male brains are much smarter than female brains. It's well known that women are fucking stupid. #feminism"

[new-bitch-who-dis]

They literally did this to a trans woman who won a game of jepoardy named Amy Schneider.

Like they unironically argued that men are "socialized to like trivia more than women" and "men are genetically predisposed to have faster reaction times than women" and other complete nonsense.

[belles--rose]

"Women are fucking stupid and inherently inferior to men" - terfs, without a single fucking shred of irony or self-awareness

[grymmdark]

its literally even fucking co-ed!!! its not like jeopardy is a fucking gendered thing!!! there were also men competing w her!!! wtf

[bingus-terfus]

*sigh*

While I hate to disturb you while you're having so much fun with your strawmen...

Have you considered the fact that women *have less opportunities than men* for systemic and historical reasons?

For example, girls spend several hours everyday doing more chores than boys. Girls get discriminated against at every level. School chess clubs are sexist and unwelcoming. Girls tend to get discouraged by parents and teachers when pursuing "non-practical" hobbies.

It turns out that chess is not co-ed and that the best players are still men. And no it's not because "men are inherently smarter" as you put it, society simply enables men to reach levels of mastery that it prohibits women and girls from reaching through the cumulative effects of a lifetime of discrimination. Women's potential overwhelmingly is not nurtured like with Judit Polgár.

We want to protect women's already scarce opportunities, what's wrong with that? This is like arguing that the gender pay gap is due to "women not working as much as men" or "women choose lower paying jobs" when the reality is that "women do all the unpaid labour at home and have less time for their career than men" and "jobs performed by women are systematically devalued and paid less"

You guys think it's funny to blame women for being sabotaged at every step and having less opportunities. We don't care about proving that women are just as smart as men, we already know that. We want to give women, individual women, (you know, actual people in the world and not ideas), the chance to compete and win titles in a world that vastly doesn't nurture their potential. We don't want to disqualify women from competitions just because all the best training and opportunities are still given to men. And yes, it hurts women when males with all their male privilege don't qualify with their fellow males and steal a spot from a woman instead. It's not fair. The woman who gets disqualified just because an entitled man wants a place with women is a real person who just lost a once in a lifetime opportunity because you can't say no to men. You guys' arguments are no different from MRAs: first deny male privilege, then attribute female disadvantage to either laziness or to an inherent flaw.

Giving more opportunities to women is not an admission that they are inferior, it is an admission that they are systemically disadvantaged. This is not even radical feminism, this is good old liberal feminism 101 while it still cared about women. Just pick up any book on closing gaps in pay and opportunities, any feminist book.

The Jeopardy thing is so ridiculous I have to ask for receipts for actual radical feminists' complaints about Amy Schneider being that 'men like trivia more' or 'better reaction time' in a fucking trivia game. For real. The only complaint I've ever heard from radfems, which is a valid one, is that Amy reportedly "made history" for being "the highest-earning woman on Jeopardy." If you can't see why it is offensive for a member of a privileged population to steal a title from a member of a marginalised population (Julia Collins is actually the highest earning female in that game, in case you didn't know) I can't help you here. Just imagine if he had painted his face black and got reported as the highest earning black person. Yeah a nerdy dude won a game dominated by nerdy dudes. Big deal. Women who have dealt with sexism all their lives in nerd spaces have strictly nothing to celebrate.

[wintertidewater-deactivated2025]

Friendly reminder that gandhi, einstein, mlk jr, and marx all hated women. These men would have never led us to a better world because they don't believe in a better world for half the population. Women need to be at the forefront of change, and male supremacy is the death of love and revolution. Stop worshipping men. They do not believe in your humanity. Growth is replacing your posters of them with women like Vandana Shiva

[jb-blunk]

in this terrifying world you continuously have the power to offer someone else a little relief . why would you withhold that. do you remember what a little relief feels like? it feels like a lot

[testing-stormneko]

excuse me? are you suggesting i frolic directly into someone's emotional space and assume what brings them relief, potentially causing more stress? are you encouraging people to reach past their own boundaries to help, increasing net suffering if it costs more than the other gains? surely not; that would be advocating for emotional self-harm.

[jb-blunk]

this is a post about the woman who waived my late fee at the bank .

[testing-stormneko]

good for you, good for her, the wording on the initial post feels closer to blaming people who don't reach out than celebrating those who do by a large enough margin that i feel the need to hit back

[jb-blunk]

you are a tar pit

[meangirlnurse]

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

we really need to re-introduce the term "publicity stunt" back into our vocabulary. too many people are getting continually duped by blatant marketing ploys bc fundamentally they don't see celebrities as....greedy millionaires cashing in on media trends to make money

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

hmmm i see what u mean, but entertain this idea with me....the misuse of the term 'publicity stunt' could potentially put an end to tiktok's popularity because the kids on that app would start to see themselves as 'posers' the way teens did in the '00s

[vampyrfagg]

NO UR ACTUALLY COMPLETELY AND OBJECTIVELY CORRECT MB

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

[cuntaloupes-deactivated20241215]

'poser' back by popular demand....