1. Always cross your t’s and dot your i’s. By this I mean always tie up every loose end. That POT that hasn’t text you in two weeks? Shoot him a simple message like “I always tie up my loose ends so I just wanted to confirm that you were no longer interested in an arrangement with me?”
Always a good thing to do. Some of these men are genuinely busy and it can be good to show your interest. If they said ‘no’, NEVER be rude, always say ‘Well all the best, I hope you find/found what you were looking for.
Or something along those lines.
2. You never know who you could need tomorrow or what the future holds. Some of these guys can be very douchy, yes, but always maintain your elegance. Even if you want to criticise, do it in a way where you are still kept together. Never degrade yourself in conversation, if he wants to argue you can end a conversation like:
“I don’t think this will work/It’s a shame this won’t work but I genuinely wish you all the best. I hope you find what you’re looking for.”
These are wealthy and influential men, even if an arrangement isn’t on the cards, either it could be in the future or you never know, he could help you in something else. I recently got offered an amazing internship by a POT I had problems with. He could be annoying but I was never rude. Sugaring can be great for networking in general, these men you meet may help you or may know somebody that could help you also to become successful. There is no harm done in being polite.
3. Hardly lower your standards. I say this because hundreds of SB posts say you should only have one standard (let’s say we’re talking about allowance), and never stray from that. I both agree/disagree with this. But we have to be smart and pragmatic. For example if I was offered £6000 a month by a guy I DESPISED, I probably wouldn’t do it. Or if an SD I had more fun with or preferred his company but gave me a slightly lower allowance. I’d probably take him but that’s just me. There’s a reason why many posts tell you to have other sources of income. You are not indispensable to these men. You have to seize control and never let salts or just stingy POTs lowball you too much.
Men expect the SB to be the desperate ones. Many of them feel entitled. He gives you an allowance offer you don’t want? Surely after charming him (either through texting or more effectively, in person) send him a
“I’m afraid I don’t think this arrangement would work. However, you’re a lovely guy and I’ve genuinely enjoyed your company. I wish you all the best and I hope you find what you’re looking for.”
This shows instantly you know your worth and you won’t take shit. If he says goodbye - so be it. There really is more fish in the sea but sometimes guys will be annoyed by the thought of losing you and the fact you didn’t bat an eyelid at ending your relationship with them. Many will compromise on your allowance.
even better a lot of them will let you go and I PROMISE in a few hours, even weeks/months, they’ll send you a message wanting to rediscuss or meet or whatever.
I’m always having POTS come back to me 😘💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
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