Shit Worth Remembering

i just really don't want to forget this stuff

[kiymballa]

9, 10 or 1

The surprisingly great book “Personal Development for Smart People” asks you to think about the different areas of your life (career, relationships, spiritual, health, etc.) - and rate your satisfaction in each area from 1 to 10.

But after doing that, the next suggestion impressed me: it said to go through every area you rated a 5, 6, 7, or 8 - and replace it with a 1! That we should never settle for “it's not so bad” - and instead face up to what you really want.

In other words: No more “yes”. It's either “HELL YEAH!” or “no”.

[kiymballa]

Fuck Yes or No

The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with someone new, in whatever capacity, they must inspire you to say “Fuck Yes” in order for you to proceed with them.

Yes means yes.

No means no.

And maybe means no. 

[kiymballa]

The goal of this thing is "to externalize this anxiety and actually simulate it by making this bot. Because it turns out that, like, your worst crappiest part of your personality make great bots. It's like a little robot that just *screams*. So what this let me do is look at the robot... It's sort of like spam... the minute you see that, you're just like, 'no...' That's just crazy poisonous robots that are telling me this and I don't want anything to do with it... You can yell at the robot and tell it to shut the fuck up.... It's so ridiculous to scream at yourself all day long and yet there it was, there was the evidence of it, and seeing it actually externalized as 20 messages in a gmail inbox, it was so much like what my brain was producing, it was like, 'Oh my god, I've been wasting so much time with this little son of a bitch'". 

[kiymballa]

"If I share something with you that's very difficult, I'd rather you say 'I don't even know what to say right now. I'm just so glad you told me'. Because the truth is, rarely can a response make something better. What makes something better is connection."

[kiymballa]

Four Qualities of Empathy: 

Perspective-taking

Staying out of judgement

Recognizing emotion in other people

Communicating emotion

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It's not in the way; It is the way

I really wish I knew