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Keeping in touch;

For anyone that maaaaayyy want to keep up with me, I do post on my instagram a lot @tammynestt 

I also do have a new tumblr that I may or may not keep up with. We’ll see. @tammymeetsworld

I miss the LDR community so much. I’ll always be checking up on y’all! <3

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Nostalgia; 3.5 years later.

I don’t know if anyone even remembers this blog. I see some of my old viral posts here and there which is actually what made me log in today. 

I’ll admit that I’ve kept this blog because Ger and I’s relationship was so special to me, despite how things ended. We loved each other a tremendous amount. I went through some of my most important emotional development years with him. He literally at one point in my schooling would wake me up every morning via our ongoing Skype chat to make sure I got to my classes on time haha.

He taught me how to cook. He taught me how to be patient. He taught me how important it is to not always be ‘right”, and sometimes forfeit a fight because it’s pointless in the long run. He taught me what a healthy, supportive relationship looked like. He let me be exactly who I wanted to be and loved me all the same.

We weren’t perfect. Ultimately we had two different visions of our future. Long distance is not easy. There is so much compromise to be together.

I’ll always have a place in my heart for what we were, our little blog, our YouTube videos and the inspiration and support for my old website, LongDistanceDiaries.com (no longer in service). 

I realize back then how much support we had from the long distance community. How many people looked up to our relationship and asked us questions and rooted for us. It honestly was really nice.

I remember once I followed this girl and she sent me a message full on fangirling. I’ll never forget that moment because it made me realize just how much some people looked up to us.

Tumblr is a very different place now. I don’t see myself coming back like I once did. I’m in a really different place in my life now.

I’m a Registered Nurse, living with my not-long-distance boyfriend in America. We’re engaged to be engaged I like to joke. Just saving money for our move across the country soon. I have two wonderful kitties. Lots of plant pets. Some great friends. I found my One and a little life I love.

Also for those curious: Ger is married to this girl that seems totally perfect for him. Moving to Europe I believe. Has a really fantastic job. They are a GORGEOUS couple, my god.

So, cheers to Nostalgia. I hope all of you are doing well.

[leffelovesdestrua]

After these 3 years of long distance, what can you say didn’t work?

1. Taking one another for granted

2. Not communicating as effectively as we should have with each other, or not actually listening to each others’ concerns and making changes.

3. Taking our time together in person for granted and not making the other feel special. 

4. Unhealthy fighting styles.

5. Becoming boring as a couple, which actually is a big deal. Having fun and keeping things interesting is really important.

6. Having different visions of the future.

I think ultimately we didn’t follow our own advice.. which could ruin any relationship. I hope this gives a little insight. I know everyone has their own opinion of why things didn’t work out but remember that Ger and I really cared for each other deeply. The decision wasn’t easy and still can be unsettling to both of us as we try to move on. 

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Do I ask questions here or on your new blog

You can ask on my new blog! :) it's not totally LDR related but I will always answer questions.

[leffelovesdestrua]

How are u

I’m doing well! Just writing final exams the next 8 days then I’m free for the winter break :) 

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Did Gerald not want to get serious?

Gerald actually had plans to propose to me after graduation. I think if anything I was the one less ready to settle down due to my uncertainties/concerns in the relationship.

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Cacti

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Why would you continue this blog though your relationship failed? It just feels like there's a bunch of personal stuff on your blog that probably shouldn't be public now that you're over

I would never make this blog private or delete it because it contains many happy memories and advice for people in the LDR community. I may eventually create a different blog, though, as a personal blog. At that point I will leave this blog open only to answer questions.

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Don't you find it hard to give advice when your own relationship didn't work

I think it actually gave me a lot of insight to what DOESN’T work in a LDR, as well as what did work for 3 years. 

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How to Solve Miscommunication in a Long Distance Relationship

How many times have you been misunderstood in a conversation? Simple conversation suddenly becomes heated argument and it seems as if the person you are talking to has a completely different point …

Such a helpful article! Effective communication in a LDR can be difficult but is essential.

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“I can’t wait to hold you in my arms.”

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Dealing With Jealousy & Mistrust in Your LDR

One of the biggest issues in relationships, especially LDR’s, is jealously, and trust issues. You’re hundreds to thousands of miles away from your partner and rather than seeing them a few times a …

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Guest Post: 6 Online Dating Tips No One Told You Before

Warning: In this article I am going to be very honest and straightforward. You have been on an online dating site like some other singles with little success. Or, you just found one amazing site an…

We have a new guest article for you from one of our readers - 6 Online Dating Tips No One Told You Before!

Long distance relationship blogs rarely talk about the “mingling phase” of LDRs, and this article gives you the ins and outs of the early stages of online dating. 

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“My favorite part of the day is when I get to talk to you.”📱☺️️

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