Another reason I'm leaving tumblr is because I've found it hard to engage gracefully with posts from other Christians that have seemed theologically lacking. And the biggest offender, by far, is the topic of gender identity and body dysmorphia/gender dysphoria. I finally actually know what I've been wanting to say this whole time. So I'm going to speak my peace now.
This post is directed towards fellow Christians. If you're not a Christian and you dislike what I have to say about the topic, I'm not terribly surprised about that.
If you are a Christian, and you're experiencing a severe disconnect between who you feel you are and what your body indicates to you, I need you to know firstly that I have a dim understanding of this. I have more experience with this on the Eating Disorder side of things than the Gender Identity side, though I've experienced a smattering of that too throughout my life. I suspect the two are not as different as we tend to think.
The very obvious thing is that none of us are inhabiting a body God intended us to live in forever. That's why the body feels wrong to us. Yet, I've never seen anyone use this fact to acknowledge eating disorders or gender dysphoria, in all my years online. If you feel like your body isn't right...congratulations! You are probably more in tune with the absolute truth than people who never feel any discomfort in their physical bodies.
Romans 8:21 categorizes all created things as temporary, and in bondage to corruption. 8:20-21, ESV: "For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God."
Your body is part of that category; it is "subjected to futility." You will not spend the rest of your conscious lifetime in this body. Take comfort in that! You're not stuck the way you are!
You are a new creation, but parts of you are still in progress. Most notably, the physical part. Philippians 1:6 makes it plain that we are not complete yet; "And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ."
If your body feels wrong for you...all I can tell you is that someday it won't. Christian, you are possibly being lied to about what kind of body will make you feel whole; 2 Corinthians 5:2 points our focus back towards the new body we should really be looking forward to: "We grow weary in our present bodies, and we long to put on our heavenly bodies like new clothing."
Someday it will feel perfect, better than anything you could achieve on earth through any of your own efforts, because Jesus Christ has already made you a new one. You will assume it when our brief sojourn on this planet is over. You don't have to work for that. It's just like salvation, because it's part of salvation: you don't do it yourself. Jesus Christ has already got you covered.
Listen. I know this sounds hand-wavy. Listen, I know it must seem easy for me to speak about this. But I mean it with my whole heart; you can be at peace without changing your body physically. That peace was won for you by Jesus Christ. It comes with every other kind of peace the Holy Spirit has to offer you, in your surrender and cooperation with Him. I'm not saying you'll never feel dysphoria again, but I'm saying, here is the antidote: it is (unsurprisingly) the grace of God.
All of us will bear some form of suffering until our current life on earth is over, because of the fall. But this place is not permanent. Psalms 39:5 reminds us that these bodies are temporary; "Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you. Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath!" Keeping this in mind makes it so much easier to live as a sacrifice to God. Our bodies are not our own. We know this. We were bought with a price.
I will end this post with one final point. It has never been a sin, and never will be a sin, merely to feel that your body is wrong for you. However, I'm not saying you should try to change it yourself! I don't think that's in line with God's plan for us. I think the new body God will give you is better than any new kind of body you can create through physical means on earth. I don't believe the ethics of HRT/transitioning/ozempic for weightloss/purely cosmetic plastic surgery etc are in line with Christian theology at all. (I'm not limiting this line of reasoning to the trans community. It applies to anyone who's preoccupied with making this current, super temporary, not-even-your-own body "perfect" before it's time.)
But I'm done now, you've suffered me enough. I don't want to burn bridges with brothers and sisters who will feel differently from me on this. But I don't want to see nuance get left by the wayside, and I don't want to see us looking anywhere except eternity for the sureness of our hopes.