remycherie

20 | Second-Year Fashion Student at ESMOD Balancing studies with style. Sharing my journey in fashion, personal flair, and a love for all things chic and seasonal.

[lilyprettyremy]

Mastering the It Girl Life on Campus/ at school : Confidence, Class, and Style

On-Campus Essentials: Sophisticated and Ready to Conquer

Structured mini tote – Think sleek and polished. Choose something that says "I'm on my game" while fitting your essentials: a slim laptop, your chic planner, and a pair of sunnies.

Signature scent – A travel-sized luxury perfume, like Byredo or Le Labo. It leaves a lasting impression without overpowering.

Hydro flask in a neutral tone – Hydration, but make it aesthetic. Bonus points if it matches your outfit.

Protein bar or matcha to-go – Snacks are essential, but we’re keeping it elevated. Opt for a protein bar with clean ingredients or a homemade matcha latte in a reusable tumbler.

AirPods Max or sleek earbuds – Perfect for tuning out the noise between classes with a curated podcast or chill playlist, keeping your energy cool and collected.

In Class: Own the Room with Confidence and Intelligence

Effortless note-taking setup – Digital is where it’s at. Use a tablet with a stylus for sleek, organized notes that sync across all your devices. Bonus: it looks high-tech and minimalistic.

Command attention – Sit where you can engage, but it’s not about the front row anymore—it’s about being present and prepared. Contribute thoughtfully when needed, and stay poised.

All-in-one app for organization – Ditch the old-school planner. Use an app like Notion or Google Calendar to sync your schedule, assignments, and deadlines. Effortlessly keep everything streamlined and on point.

Refined confidence – Instead of always speaking up, choose your moments wisely. Command attention through well-thought-out points that showcase your intellect, not just participation.

Breaks Between Classes: Elevate Your Downtime

Mini face mist – A refreshing face mist with a subtle scent keeps your skin hydrated and glowing, giving you a post-class refresh. Think Tatcha or a rose water mist.

Quick mirror check – Always have a compact mirror to do a quick hair and lip check. It's about looking polished and put together without effort.

Reset with movement – Walk around campus to stay energized, but with intention. Pop in your favorite playlist, take in the surroundings, and use this time to clear your mind before the next task.

Digital declutter – Use breaks to clear out any unnecessary tabs, update your notes, or respond to quick emails. Keeping your digital life tidy is the new version of looking organized.

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How to romanticize every school moment like a true 'it girl' :

Here’s the secret: school isn’t just about textbooks and deadlines. It's your runway, your story, your stepping stone to greatness. Here’s how to turn even the most mundane school day into something magical, stylish, and *completely* iconic.

Morning Goddess Energy

Waking up early isn't punishment—it's the moment the world is yours before anyone else wakes up. Prep the night before, set your favorite playlist, and let the morning sun kiss your skin. A silk robe, a cappuccino in hand, and a moment to journal or meditate? That’s *main character* energy.

Look Good, Feel Good

The "I just rolled out of bed" look is cute, but nothing beats stepping into class looking polished. Lay out your outfit the night before—think blazers, structured skirts, or those high-waisted jeans that make you feel *unstoppable*. Own the hallways like they’re your runway.

Coffee Dates... With Yourself

Instead of rushing through that study session, make it an experience. Light a candle, pour yourself a fancy latte, and treat studying like a cozy coffee shop moment. Bonus: add your *fave* playlist in the background and find a cute study spot with a view.

Take Class Like a Boss

Classes aren’t just for sitting there—they’re your stage. Be the person who raises their hand with that killer question or insightful comment. Sit at the front, stay organized with your sleek planner, and use the cutest stationery. Confidence is everything.

Study Smart, Not Hard

Make studying enjoyable with timed sessions (hello, Pomodoro Technique) and aesthetic notes. Find your vibe—whether it’s a window seat or your favorite cozy corner. Hydrate, treat yourself to a little snack, and romanticize every highlight and flashcard.

Romanticize Routine

Turning small habits into rituals is *everything*. Treat yourself to a calming skincare routine after a long day, keep your desk tidy with flowers or decor that makes you happy, and wind down with a good book before bed. Make everyday routines feel like luxurious rituals.

Celebrate the Small Wins

Finished an assignment? Nailed that test? Celebrate *every* win. Take yourself out for a little treat, order in something indulgent, or enjoy a relaxing evening with a bubble bath. You *deserve* it. Life’s too short not to savor every victory.

✨ Own your day, romanticize the moments, and make even the toughest school days feel like a dream. ✨ You’ve got this, babe.

[lilyprettyremy]

Building a Timeless Wardrobe: A Fashion Student’s Guide

Girl let’s be honest, the last thing you want is a closet full of random pieces that don’t make you feel amazing. Instead of mindlessly adding things to your cart, let’s focus on building a wardrobe that truly reflects you. A wardrobe that’s authentic, versatile, and just the right amount of chic. It’s not about having less; it’s about having what works for your vibe, your lifestyle, and your inner fashionista.

Step 1: Find Your Signature Style

Okay, let’s start with the fun part—figuring out what makes you feel amazing. What outfits give you that “I’m totally owning this” feeling? Which colors, fabrics, and shapes make you feel like the best version of yourself? Create a moodboard that’s not just about clothes, fill it with your favorite art, dreamy places, and things that make your heart skip a beat. Fashion is all about self-expression, so let your wardrobe tell your story!

Step 2: Give Your Closet a Real Heart-to-Heart

Before you shop, let’s get real about what you already own. What pieces are your absolute faves that you wear on repeat? What’s just sitting there, begging for a little love? Take a moment to figure out what’s working, what’s not, and what gaps need to be filled (hello, shopping spree).

Step 3: Tailor Your Wardrobe to Your Real Life

A wardrobe that works for you isn’t just cute, it’s practical. Think about your day-to-day. Do you need lots of looks for work, casual hangouts, or nights out with your girls? Your wardrobe should reflect your actual lifestyle, not some dream version of it.

Step 4: Choose Quality Over Clutter

Invest in pieces that’ll last you forever (and feel amazing every time you wear them). Quality doesn’t always mean expensive, it’s about finding pieces that feel luxe, with great fabric, stitching, and that perfect fit. A perfectly tailored blazer or the perfect pair of jeans will always feel way more chic than a closet full of impulse buys.

Step 5: Start with the Basics, Then Have Fun

Basics are the foundation of your wardrobe. A crisp white shirt, tailored trousers, a pair of classic jeans, and a jacket that goes with everything—those are your essential staples. Once those are covered, add in the fun stuff: the unique, flirty pieces that show off your personality and make your wardrobe pop.

Step 6: Shop with Purpose (Not Impulse)

Before you click add to cart, ask yourself: Does this piece go with what I already own? Can I wear it a bunch of different ways? Do I absolutely love it, or am I just caught up in the hype? Stay intentional, your wardrobe is about pieces you adore, not just things you feel like buying on a whim.

Step 7: Let Your Style Evolve (Because You Will)

Your style will change as you do, and that’s so exciting! Your intentional wardrobe isn’t static, it evolves with you as you grow. It’s not about perfection, it’s about building a wardrobe that’s true to you, now and forever.

An intentional wardrobe isn’t about rules or restrictions. It’s about embracing who you are, feeling confident in your choices, and wearing what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. As a fashion student, I’ve learned that style isn’t just about clothes, it’s how you wear them. So go ahead, embrace your wardrobe, and wear it like the boss you are.

[lilyprettyremy]

The Power of Hobbies: Your Secret Weapon to Level Up

Listen, sweethearts! In a world where everyone’s glued to their screens, doom-scrolling into oblivion, it’s time to bring back the ultimate glow-up tool: HOBBIES. Yep, hobbies aren’t just for your grandma’s knitting club. They’re the secret sauce to becoming the best version of YOU. Ready to romanticize your life? Let’s go.

Why Hobbies Are Important

First off, hobbies aren’t just cute little pastimes—they’re mini acts of self-love. They give your brain a break, boost your mood, and remind you that life isn’t just about surviving; it’s about THRIVING. Everyone’s out here living the same routine—work, uni, hang out, repeat. Yawn. Having hobbies, interests, and actual skills? That’s what makes you special girl. It’s like having your own secret world while everyone else is stuck on autopilot.

The Glow-Up Benefits

Mental Health Boost: Hobbies are like mental spa days. They reduce stress, fight off burnout, and give you that serotonin sparkle.

Confidence Builder: Nothing hits like the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Suddenly, you’re THAT girl who can paint, dance, or whip up a killer playlist.

Meet Your People: Join a hobby club or class, and boom—instant community. Forget awkward small talk, you’re bonding over shared passions.

Creative Energy: Your mind loves to play. Hobbies spark creativity, which spills into every part of your life, from problem-solving to personal style.

Hobbies for the Girlies Who Want It All

Journaling: Not just a diary, babe. Think manifestation, gratitude lists, mood tracking—your thoughts, but make them aesthetic.

Pilates or Yoga: Strong body, strong mind. Plus, the cute workout fits? Obsessed.

Baking: Whip up some sweet treats, because why not be the friend who always brings the vibes and the cookies?

Scrapbooking: Old school? Maybe. Therapeutic and fun? Absolutely.

Learning a New Language: Multilingual queen energy, anyone?

Thrifting and Upcycling: Turn fashion finds into one-of-a-kind pieces. Sustainable and stylish.

Photography: Capture your life like it’s an indie film. Bonus: Instagram-worthy content.

Pottery or Painting: Get messy, get creative, and make something with your own two hands.

Gardening (Even if It’s Just Houseplants): Plant mom vibes. Watch something grow because of you? Ugh, love it.

Your hobby doesn’t have to be perfect, productive, or profitable. It just has to make you feel alive. Life isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding joy in the little things. So pick up that paintbrush, roll out that yoga mat, or start that playlist. Do it for YOU, queen. You deserve it.

[lilyprettyremy]

The Power of Hobbies: Your Secret Weapon to Level Up

Listen, sweethearts! In a world where everyone’s glued to their screens, doom-scrolling into oblivion, it’s time to bring back the ultimate glow-up tool: HOBBIES. Yep, hobbies aren’t just for your grandma’s knitting club. They’re the secret sauce to becoming the best version of YOU. Ready to romanticize your life? Let’s go.

Why Hobbies Are Important

First off, hobbies aren’t just cute little pastimes—they’re mini acts of self-love. They give your brain a break, boost your mood, and remind you that life isn’t just about surviving; it’s about THRIVING. Everyone’s out here living the same routine—work, uni, hang out, repeat. Yawn. Having hobbies, interests, and actual skills? That’s what makes you special girl. It’s like having your own secret world while everyone else is stuck on autopilot.

The Glow-Up Benefits

Mental Health Boost: Hobbies are like mental spa days. They reduce stress, fight off burnout, and give you that serotonin sparkle.

Confidence Builder: Nothing hits like the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Suddenly, you’re THAT girl who can paint, dance, or whip up a killer playlist.

Meet Your People: Join a hobby club or class, and boom—instant community. Forget awkward small talk, you’re bonding over shared passions.

Creative Energy: Your mind loves to play. Hobbies spark creativity, which spills into every part of your life, from problem-solving to personal style.

Hobbies for the Girlies Who Want It All

Journaling: Not just a diary, babe. Think manifestation, gratitude lists, mood tracking—your thoughts, but make them aesthetic.

Pilates or Yoga: Strong body, strong mind. Plus, the cute workout fits? Obsessed.

Baking: Whip up some sweet treats, because why not be the friend who always brings the vibes and the cookies?

Scrapbooking: Old school? Maybe. Therapeutic and fun? Absolutely.

Learning a New Language: Multilingual queen energy, anyone?

Thrifting and Upcycling: Turn fashion finds into one-of-a-kind pieces. Sustainable and stylish.

Photography: Capture your life like it’s an indie film. Bonus: Instagram-worthy content.

Pottery or Painting: Get messy, get creative, and make something with your own two hands.

Gardening (Even if It’s Just Houseplants): Plant mom vibes. Watch something grow because of you? Ugh, love it.

Your hobby doesn’t have to be perfect, productive, or profitable. It just has to make you feel alive. Life isn’t about doing everything perfectly—it’s about finding joy in the little things. So pick up that paintbrush, roll out that yoga mat, or start that playlist. Do it for YOU, queen. You deserve it.

[lilyprettyremy]

Building a Timeless Wardrobe: A Fashion Student’s Guide

Girl let’s be honest, the last thing you want is a closet full of random pieces that don’t make you feel amazing. Instead of mindlessly adding things to your cart, let’s focus on building a wardrobe that truly reflects you. A wardrobe that’s authentic, versatile, and just the right amount of chic. It’s not about having less; it’s about having what works for your vibe, your lifestyle, and your inner fashionista.

Step 1: Find Your Signature Style

Okay, let’s start with the fun part—figuring out what makes you feel amazing. What outfits give you that “I’m totally owning this” feeling? Which colors, fabrics, and shapes make you feel like the best version of yourself? Create a moodboard that’s not just about clothes, fill it with your favorite art, dreamy places, and things that make your heart skip a beat. Fashion is all about self-expression, so let your wardrobe tell your story!

Step 2: Give Your Closet a Real Heart-to-Heart

Before you shop, let’s get real about what you already own. What pieces are your absolute faves that you wear on repeat? What’s just sitting there, begging for a little love? Take a moment to figure out what’s working, what’s not, and what gaps need to be filled (hello, shopping spree).

Step 3: Tailor Your Wardrobe to Your Real Life

A wardrobe that works for you isn’t just cute, it’s practical. Think about your day-to-day. Do you need lots of looks for work, casual hangouts, or nights out with your girls? Your wardrobe should reflect your actual lifestyle, not some dream version of it.

Step 4: Choose Quality Over Clutter

Invest in pieces that’ll last you forever (and feel amazing every time you wear them). Quality doesn’t always mean expensive, it’s about finding pieces that feel luxe, with great fabric, stitching, and that perfect fit. A perfectly tailored blazer or the perfect pair of jeans will always feel way more chic than a closet full of impulse buys.

Step 5: Start with the Basics, Then Have Fun

Basics are the foundation of your wardrobe. A crisp white shirt, tailored trousers, a pair of classic jeans, and a jacket that goes with everything—those are your essential staples. Once those are covered, add in the fun stuff: the unique, flirty pieces that show off your personality and make your wardrobe pop.

Step 6: Shop with Purpose (Not Impulse)

Before you click add to cart, ask yourself: Does this piece go with what I already own? Can I wear it a bunch of different ways? Do I absolutely love it, or am I just caught up in the hype? Stay intentional, your wardrobe is about pieces you adore, not just things you feel like buying on a whim.

Step 7: Let Your Style Evolve (Because You Will)

Your style will change as you do, and that’s so exciting! Your intentional wardrobe isn’t static, it evolves with you as you grow. It’s not about perfection, it’s about building a wardrobe that’s true to you, now and forever.

An intentional wardrobe isn’t about rules or restrictions. It’s about embracing who you are, feeling confident in your choices, and wearing what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. As a fashion student, I’ve learned that style isn’t just about clothes, it’s how you wear them. So go ahead, embrace your wardrobe, and wear it like the boss you are.

[lilyprettyremy]

Hey, Remy! My final exams week is coming up and I'm scared, like REALLY, and no matter how much I try, but I can't help but be nervous and anxious all the time. I know I'll do great and top the class but since these exams are the last ones of the academic year, I'm really scared and anxious, it's like I'm ready to burst out crying at any second! That's how much I'm anxious.

Do you have any tips to build self-confidence in my studies, so that I can overcome this fear of failing? I swear, I'll do great in exams but the fear itself, seems like it'd engulf me anytime.

Love you and your posts, btw!

XOXO ♡

-E 💜

Hey love, I hear you, and I promise you’re not alone in feeling this way.

First, take a deep breath. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s okay to be scared. These feelings don’t mean you’re not capable, they mean you care deeply, and that’s a beautiful thing.

Remind Yourself of Your Strength: You've come so far already. Think about all the challenges you’ve faced and overcome. This is just another hurdle, and you are more than equipped to jump over it.

Shift Your Focus: Instead of focusing on the fear of failure, focus on what you can control. Show up every day and give your best, and trust that your best is enough.

Create a Calm Space: When everything feels too much, step away for a moment. Light a candle, listen to your favorite music, or take a walk. Allow yourself to feel grounded.

Affirm Yourself Daily: Write down affirmations and say them out loud every morning: I am capable. I am prepared. I trust myself.

Lean on Your Support System: Talk to someone who uplifts you; a friend, family member, or even yourself in the mirror. Sometimes, saying your worries out loud lessens their weight.

Visualize Peace: Close your eyes and picture yourself calm, confident, and proud after your exams. Hold onto that feeling.

Remember this: You don’t need to be fearless, you just need to keep going, even with the fear. You are already enough, and no exam can change that. Be kind to yourself. I believe in you, and I know you’ll shine. Sending you so much love and calmness, you’ve got this. <3

[lilyprettyremy]

Forget the Hype: Growth Doesn’t Care About Your Calendar

Okay, babes, let’s be real—by February, the sparkle of New Year’s resolutions has totally fizzled. Gyms are empty, planners are abandoned, and that "New Year, New Me" vibe? A distant memory. But here’s the tea: growth was NEVER about January 1st, and it’s definitely not about February 1st either. You don’t need a calendar to glow up. You just need YOU. Any day, any time.

Why the Calendar Mindset Is Overrated

Tying your glow-up to a date? Overhyped. Thinking one magical day will flip your life upside down sets you up for disappointment. Real change isn’t some midnight makeover; it’s built on tiny, fierce choices you make every single day. No glitter, no countdown required.

Focus on Small, Sustainable Habits

Forget giant, dramatic resolutions. The real magic? Small, cute habits that stick. Sip an extra glass of water, read a juicy chapter, strut on a quick walk. It’s giving consistent queen energy. Little actions, done daily, turn into BIG wins.

Plan for Setbacks—Because Life Happens

Let’s face it: life doesn’t care about your vibe check. Some days will be a whole mess. That’s not failure, honey, that’s just life doing its thing. A bad week doesn’t erase your boss moves from the past month. Setbacks? Just cute little pauses. The glow-up continues.

Build Systems, Not Just Goals

Goals? Cute. Systems? ICONIC. Want to read more? Don’t just aim to finish 12 books—create a cozy habit like reading one chapter before bed, blanket burrito style. Systems keep the momentum going when motivation dips.

Accountability? Yes, Please

Spill your goals to your bestie, join a squad with the same vibes, or track your progress like the confident queen you are. It’s not pressure—it’s your cheer squad, hyping you up every step of the way.

Growth Can Start Anytime

Waiting for Monday? Next month? Girl, that’s just fancy procrastination. Your glow-up can start on a random Tuesday at 3 PM or a cozy Sunday morning with coffee in hand. The best time to start? Yesterday. The second-best time? Right now.

Be Kind to Yourself

Self-improvement isn’t some straight path. Some days you’ll feel like THE moment, others you’ll want to hide under the covers. Both are valid. Celebrate your wins, learn from the oopsies, and remember: one off day doesn’t define you. It’s all about progress, not perfection.

You don’t need a fresh month or a new year to shine. You just need today. Go get it, gorgeous.

[lilyprettyremy]

Date Yourself: The Art of Falling in Love with Your Own Company

Ladies, let’s delve into the most profound relationship you’ll ever have—the one with YOURSELF. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or navigating the in-between, dating yourself isn’t merely a fleeting self-care trend; it’s a transformative practice. Imagine cherishing yourself with the same grace, intention, and joy you'd expect from someone else. Sounds empowering, doesn’t it? Let’s explore why this is essential and how to embrace it wholeheartedly.

Why You Should Date Yourself

Cultivates Confidence – When you relish your own company, you exude an undeniable self-assurance. You cease seeking external validation and recognize that YOU are the leading lady of your life.

Promotes Self-Discovery – Engaging in new experiences solo allows you to uncover passions and interests that are authentically yours, untouched by external influences.

Elevates Standards – By treating yourself with reverence, you naturally raise the bar for how others should treat you. Your self-worth becomes the standard, not the exception.

Enriches Relationships – A fulfilled, self-aware individual brings depth and authenticity to every connection. You contribute joy rather than seek it from others.

Sophisticated Solo Date Ideas & Their Benefits

Café Date with a Book – Savor a beautifully crafted beverage while immersing yourself in literature. A delightful exercise in mindfulness and personal enrichment.

Museum or Art Gallery Visit – Engage with art and culture, fostering inspiration and a deeper connection to creativity without external distractions.

Elegant Solo Dinner – Dress impeccably, dine at your favorite spot, and relish the freedom to indulge in your culinary preferences. A true testament to self-sufficiency and grace.

Curated Thrift Shopping or Boutique Exploration – Discover hidden gems that reflect your unique style. It’s an exercise in creativity and self-expression.

Cinema Experience for One – Enjoy a film uninterrupted, fully immersed in the narrative. It’s the epitome of independence and personal enjoyment.

Sunset Stroll or Thoughtful Picnic – Embrace nature’s tranquility, reflect on your journey, and find clarity in solitude. Perfect for setting intentions and grounding yourself.

Wellness Retreat at Home – Dedicate a day to holistic self-care—yoga, meditation, luxurious skincare rituals. Nourish your body and spirit with intention.

Cooking a Gourmet Meal for Yourself – Select a new, sophisticated recipe, set the table beautifully, and savor the art of cooking and dining solo. It fosters mindfulness and culinary confidence.

Attend a Workshop or Class Alone – Whether it’s a pottery class, dance session, or photography workshop, immersing yourself in learning cultivates new skills and enriches your sense of accomplishment.

Solo Day Trip or Staycation – Explore a nearby town, visit historical sites, or book a night in a charming boutique hotel. Adventure on your terms enhances independence and broadens your perspective.

Star Gazing or Visiting a Planetarium – Reconnect with the vastness of the universe. It’s a humbling, awe-inspiring experience that brings clarity and peace.

Dating yourself isn’t a mere alternative, it’s a sophisticated commitment to your own well-being. It’s about recognizing your intrinsic worth, cultivating self-love, and creating a life that feels fulfilling from within. Whether you're single or entwined in a relationship, remember: the love you bestow upon yourself sets the precedent for all other connections.

So, schedule that solo date, darling. You deserve every moment of it.

[lilyprettyremy]

Forget the Hype: Growth Doesn’t Care About Your Calendar

Okay, babes, let’s be real—by February, the sparkle of New Year’s resolutions has totally fizzled. Gyms are empty, planners are abandoned, and that "New Year, New Me" vibe? A distant memory. But here’s the tea: growth was NEVER about January 1st, and it’s definitely not about February 1st either. You don’t need a calendar to glow up. You just need YOU. Any day, any time.

Why the Calendar Mindset Is Overrated

Tying your glow-up to a date? Overhyped. Thinking one magical day will flip your life upside down sets you up for disappointment. Real change isn’t some midnight makeover; it’s built on tiny, fierce choices you make every single day. No glitter, no countdown required.

Focus on Small, Sustainable Habits

Forget giant, dramatic resolutions. The real magic? Small, cute habits that stick. Sip an extra glass of water, read a juicy chapter, strut on a quick walk. It’s giving consistent queen energy. Little actions, done daily, turn into BIG wins.

Plan for Setbacks—Because Life Happens

Let’s face it: life doesn’t care about your vibe check. Some days will be a whole mess. That’s not failure, honey, that’s just life doing its thing. A bad week doesn’t erase your boss moves from the past month. Setbacks? Just cute little pauses. The glow-up continues.

Build Systems, Not Just Goals

Goals? Cute. Systems? ICONIC. Want to read more? Don’t just aim to finish 12 books—create a cozy habit like reading one chapter before bed, blanket burrito style. Systems keep the momentum going when motivation dips.

Accountability? Yes, Please

Spill your goals to your bestie, join a squad with the same vibes, or track your progress like the confident queen you are. It’s not pressure—it’s your cheer squad, hyping you up every step of the way.

Growth Can Start Anytime

Waiting for Monday? Next month? Girl, that’s just fancy procrastination. Your glow-up can start on a random Tuesday at 3 PM or a cozy Sunday morning with coffee in hand. The best time to start? Yesterday. The second-best time? Right now.

Be Kind to Yourself

Self-improvement isn’t some straight path. Some days you’ll feel like THE moment, others you’ll want to hide under the covers. Both are valid. Celebrate your wins, learn from the oopsies, and remember: one off day doesn’t define you. It’s all about progress, not perfection.

You don’t need a fresh month or a new year to shine. You just need today. Go get it, gorgeous.

[lilyprettyremy]

Hey girl, I hope you're doing well! I just wanted to take a moment to tell you how much I absolutely adore your posts. You have such a strong, confident aura in everything you share, and it really resonates with me. I’m more of a quiet and shy girl, and I often find myself feeling a little unsure when it comes to confidence.

I’d love to hear anything you have to say on the subject, whether it’s tips, advice, or just your personal take on how to embrace confidence when you're more reserved. Your energy is truly inspiring, and I’d be so grateful to hear your thoughts!

Thank you so much for all that you do! 💖

With love, M

Hey love,

Thank you so much for your sweet message! I’m honestly flattered that you’ve been inspired by my posts, that means so much to me!

I totally get where you’re coming from. Confidence can feel really hard to tap into, especially when you’re naturally more quiet or shy. But here’s the thing: confidence isn’t about being loud or outgoing. It’s about owning who you are, just as you are. Your quiet, calm presence is powerful, and it’s something you should absolutely embrace!

Here are a few things I’ve learned that might help you:

Practice self-affirmations: Every day, tell yourself something you admire about yourself, whether it’s your kindness, your creativity, or your ability to listen. Those little reminders can build up your sense of self-worth over time.

Own your space: You don’t have to be the loudest in the room to have an impact. Simply being comfortable in your own skin and not shrinking yourself for others can make such a difference. Stand tall, even when you’re not saying a word.

Embrace your introversion: Quiet doesn’t mean lacking in confidence. Your ability to observe, reflect, and choose your words carefully is a strength. People appreciate authenticity, and the quieter you are, the more people will listen when you do speak.

Take small steps outside your comfort zone: Confidence grows when you challenge yourself. You don’t need to take huge leaps—start with small things that push you, like speaking up in a conversation or doing something new you’ve been avoiding. Each step builds your confidence.

Remember, confidence is a journey, not something that happens overnight. Keep being kind to yourself, and trust that your quiet energy is a beautiful strength. You’ve got this!

Thank you for reaching out, and I hope this helps a bit! Keep shining in your own way!

With love, remy

[lilyprettyremy]

How to Stop Comparing Yourself & Become Obsessed with Yourself

Okay, let’s get real. If you’re constantly comparing yourself to others, it’s time to break the habit and start focusing on what you want. The key to unlocking your most confident, successful self isn’t about envying others—it’s about using that energy to obsess over your own growth. Ready to start living your best life? Here’s how to ditch the comparison game and become your own biggest fan.

1. Jealousy = Desire. Turn it into your power move. First of all, jealousy isn’t the problem—it’s how you use it that counts. When you feel envious of someone, it’s actually a sign that they have something you want. Instead of spiraling, turn that jealousy into motivation. Want their style? Their career? Their glow-up? That’s your cue to start making it happen for yourself.

Action Steps:

Identify what’s sparking the jealousy. Is it their confidence, career, or lifestyle?

Take a mental note of exactly what you want from their vibe.

Now, turn that feeling into goals. Make a list of what you want and how you’re going to get there. Start working on those goals today, and you’ll be on the path to achieving your desires—without the comparison game.

2. Make self-love your obsession. Self-love isn’t just a trend—it’s the foundation of every confident, successful “it girl” vibe. Your routine should be all about you, honey. Create a daily self-love habit that fills you with positive energy and makes you feel like the queen you are.

Action Steps:

Morning Rituals: Begin your day by setting the tone. Whether it’s writing down affirmations, sipping on lemon water, or practicing some deep breaths—give yourself a good start.

Mental Health TLC: Meditate or journal for 10 minutes each day. Focus on gratitude and remind yourself of your worth.

Body Love: Treat your body like the temple it is. Get moving (dance party, anyone?), drink water, and invest in that skincare routine. A face mask or a bubble bath at the end of the day? Absolutely.

3. Turn Your Energy Into Your Personal Brand. You’re not just a person—you’re a brand. And, like every successful brand, your vibe needs to be on point. Start channeling that energy into building a personal identity that screams confidence, ambition, and success. When you start focusing on what makes you unique, comparison will feel like a thing of the past.

Action Steps:

Define Your Brand: Write down what you want to be known for. What makes you stand out? Is it your chic style? Your brilliant ideas? Your hustle?

Create Consistent Content: Whether it’s posting on social or just being yourself IRL, curate your energy and your image. Share your passions, your story, and your journey.

Presence is Everything: Dress in a way that makes you feel like a million bucks. Stand tall, speak with conviction, and show the world that you own your space.

4. Quiet Confidence is the New Loud. The loudest person in the room doesn’t always win—quiet confidence is what draws people in. Be secure in who you are, and let your presence speak for itself. The best “it girls” don’t need to shout—they simply are.

Action Steps:

Set Boundaries: Protect your energy. Say no to things and people that don’t serve you.

Lead by Example: Be the girl who stays true to her goals without seeking validation. The more you trust yourself, the more others will follow your lead.

Master Your Craft: Whether it’s learning a new skill or becoming the best at what you do, focus on growth without the need for applause. When you shine quietly, it’s magnetic.

Being obsessed with yourself isn’t vanity—it’s self-respect. Prioritize your growth, and watch how the universe responds to that magnetic energy. You’re not just an “it girl”—you’re the girl.

[lilyprettyremy]

How to Get Out of a Reading Slump:

Let’s be real—reading slumps happen to the best of us. One day you’re devouring novels like snacks, and the next, the thought of picking up a book feels like climbing a mountain. But don’t worry, this isn’t permanent! Here’s how you can reignite your love for reading with practical advice (and a little personal touch).

1. Start Small and Easy

Sometimes, the thought of diving into a big, heavy novel can feel overwhelming. Instead, reach for something light, fun, or even familiar. What Worked for Me: When I hit a slump, I re-read my favorite childhood book. The nostalgia pulled me in, and before I knew it, I was back in the reading groove.

Try This:

A novella, poetry collection, or short story.

A feel-good romance or an easy thriller that keeps you hooked.

2. Switch Formats

Who says reading has to be on paper? Shake things up with audiobooks, eBooks, or graphic novels. Sometimes, a new format is all you need to make stories exciting again. What I Loved: Listening to an audiobook while walking felt like having a friend tell me a story. It’s low-pressure and immersive.

Try This:

Download an audiobook for your commute or chores.

Explore comics or manga—they’re visually engaging and quick to finish.

3. Create a Cozy Reading Ritual

Make reading feel like a treat, not a task. Set the scene: grab a warm drink, snuggle up in a cozy blanket, and turn reading into a moment of self-care. What Helps Me: I light a candle, sip some tea, and read for just 15 minutes. Even if I don’t feel like continuing, I’ve created a moment of peace for myself.

4. Ditch the Guilt

If a book isn’t grabbing your attention, it’s okay to put it down! Life’s too short to force yourself through something you’re not enjoying. What I Do: I keep a “second chance” stack of books I didn’t finish but might come back to later. It takes the pressure off and lets me move on guilt-free.

Pro Tip: Give yourself permission to stop at any time. The right book will find you when you’re ready.

5. Set the Mood with Your TBR

Sometimes a slump happens because you’re not in the mood for what you’ve been reading. Change it up with books that match your current vibe. My Recent Trick: When I wanted cozy, wintery vibes, I picked up a snow-filled mystery, and it fit the season perfectly. It felt like I was part of the story.

Try This:

If it’s cold, go for a winter romance or mystery.

Feeling adventurous? Pick up a fast-paced fantasy.

6. Buddy Up

Reading doesn’t have to be a solo activity. Share the experience with someone who loves books as much as you do. What Worked for Me: My friend and I read the same book and texted each other our reactions. It made the whole process so much fun, and we got to geek out together.

Pro Tip: Join a book club, even if it’s online! Goodreads or apps like Fable make it easy to connect with other readers.

7. Take the Pressure Off

Sometimes, we fall into slumps because we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves. Forget about reading “x” number of books or finishing by a certain date—just read what you love. My Perspective: I stopped tracking my reading goals for a while and focused on enjoying the stories. That shift in mindset made all the difference.

8. Revisit Your Why

Ask yourself: Why do you love reading? Is it the escape, the knowledge, the way stories make you feel? Reconnecting with that "why" can reignite your passion. 💡 What I Remind Myself: Reading isn’t a chore—it’s a gift. When I focus on that, it stops feeling like something I “should” do and starts feeling like something I want to do.

9. Explore a Different Genre

If you’ve been stuck in the same genre, it might be time for a change. Trying something new can surprise you and pull you right back in. My Experiment: I went from contemporary fiction to fantasy and felt like I’d rediscovered the magic of reading all over again.

Pro Tip: Ask for recommendations in genres you don’t usually explore!

10. Go Easy on Yourself

At the end of the day, slumps happen. Don’t stress about it—it’s just a phase. The books will always be there when you’re ready. My Advice: Take it slow, experiment, and most importantly, enjoy the journey. Sometimes, stepping away from reading for a little while can also recharge your love for it.

Getting out of a reading slump is all about finding what sparks your interest again—whether it’s a cozy atmosphere, a gripping audiobook, or a change of genres. Be patient with yourself, and remember, it’s not about the number of books you read but the joy you find in them. So go ahead, grab that book, and take it one page at a time. You’ve got this!

[lilyprettyremy]

Redefining Femininity: Your Guide to Embracing Grace and Inner Strength

Hey love,

Let me tell you about something that’s completely changed the way I see my day-to-day life: stepping into my Soft Girl Era. It’s not just an aesthetic or a mood, it’s a whole mindset that’s about slowing down, showing yourself love, and finding joy in the tiniest things.

And listen, I get it. Life gets crazy, and sometimes we feel like we need to keep up with everything. But honestly? There’s magic in choosing softness and deciding that you deserve the good things, right now. Let me share how I’m doing it and how you can, too:

Romanticize Your Life

I used to wait for big moments to feel good—birthdays, vacations, those rare “perfect” days. But here’s the thing: life isn’t made up of perfect days. It’s the little ones that count! So now, I’m pouring my coffee into the prettiest mug I own, spritzing on perfume even if I’m just staying home, and playing my favorite music while I do my skincare.

Use your best things every day—your fancy candles, your satin pillowcases, your sparkling water in a wine glass. Why not?

Pick one “special” activity you love and make it part of your routine. Journaling, reading a dreamy book, or even sitting outside to watch the sunset can feel like a treat.

Glow Through Your Style

Soft Girl vibes start with wearing what feels good to you—literally and emotionally. For me, that’s cozy knits, flowy dresses, and the kind of jewelry that makes me feel like the main character. I’ve started thrifting pieces that bring me joy and pairing them with staples I already loved.

Go through your closet and pick the pieces that feel like you. Maybe it’s pastels, maybe it’s neutrals—whatever makes you feel soft and confident.

Accessorize! Add gold hoops, a simple hair bow, or your favorite gloss.

Care for Your Heart and Mind

Let’s get real: being soft doesn’t mean being weak. It means being honest with yourself and letting your emotions flow without shame. Lately, I’ve been journaling almost every day—it’s like having a heart-to-heart with myself. Sometimes I even set a timer for 5 minutes and just write everything I feel. It’s so freeing!

Start or end your day with journaling. It doesn’t have to be deep—write about what made you happy or even what annoyed you.

Try a mini reset when things feel overwhelming: sit in silence for a moment, take a deep breath, or cry if you need to. It’s all okay.

Create a Beautiful Space

I used to think my environment didn’t matter much, but wow, was I wrong. When my space feels cozy and pretty, I feel better. Adding fresh flowers, twinkly lights, or even a soft blanket can completely shift the vibe.

Add one small thing to your space that makes you smile—like a cute photo, a plant, or even a thrifted vase.

Try a mini DIY: create a vision board with quotes, pictures, and colors that inspire you. Tape it to your wall or keep it in your journal as a reminder of what you’re working towards.

Nurture Your Relationships

The best part of my Soft Girl Era? Feeling closer to the people I love. I’ve been making an effort to check in with friends, even if it’s just a quick voice note or a funny meme. It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection.

Send that “I miss you” text you’ve been thinking about. It might just make someone’s day.

Be present in conversations. Put down your phone when you’re with people and really listen.

Make time for the relationships that feel good and let go of the ones that don’t.

Softness Is Strength

Choosing softness doesn’t mean you’re fragile, it means you’re strong enough to prioritize joy and kindness in a world that can be harsh. Every time you choose to take care of yourself, you’re showing the world, and yourself, that you’re worth it.

So, let’s lean into this together. Light that candle, grab your coziest sweater, and step into your Soft Girl Era. You deserve a life that feels gentle, beautiful, and completely yours.

What’s one thing you’re doing for your Soft Girl Era today? Let me know—I’d love to hear! 💕

[lilyprettyremy]

How to Thrive This Winter❄️✨

Brrr, baby, it’s cold outside! But don’t worry—cold weather doesn’t have to mean boring layers and dry skin. It’s time to cozy up, glow up, and own the winter like the stylish snow angel you are. Let’s dive into some fabulously fun and ultra-practical tips for thriving when it’s freezing!

1. Layers, but Make It Fashion!

Think of layering as your chance to create a Pinterest-worthy winter look. Start with thermal basics (cute ones, obviously), add a soft knit sweater, and top it off with a statement coat. Don’t be afraid to mix textures—wool, velvet, and fleece are winter’s dream team.

Style Hack: Belt your oversized coat for a snatched look and pair it with earmuffs for retro-cute vibes!

2. Keep Those Tootsies Toasty

Cold feet? Ew, no. Treat your toes to fleece-lined socks or those fluffy slipper socks that feel like heaven. Bonus points if they’re pastel pink or covered in sparkles. Waterproof boots are a must, but why not go for ones with faux fur trim? Practical AND adorable.

Pro Tip: Grab mini hand warmers for your boots on extra chilly days—they’re a lifesaver!

3. Moisturize, Hydrate, Repeat

Winter is out here trying to steal your glow, but we’re not letting it win. Upgrade to a thicker moisturizer and keep lip balm on hand (hello, peppermint-flavored kisses). Hydrate from the inside too—water, herbal teas, and broths will keep your skin dewy and fresh.

Cutie Tip: Carry a mini face mist in your bag for a quick hydration boost that also smells divine.

4. Hot Drinks = Warm Soul

Coffee, hot cocoa, chai lattes—whatever warms your heart, make it cute! Add marshmallows, whipped cream, or even a cinnamon stick for that extra flair. And don’t forget a mug that matches your vibe—sparkly, pastel, or maybe even a personalized one?

Pro Idea: Try a "hot chocolate bar" night with friends. Think toppings galore and the coziest vibes ever.

5. Cozy Up Your Space

Your home is your winter wonderland. Think fairy lights, chunky blankets, and candles that smell like sugar cookies or pine forests. There’s no such thing as too cozy in the winter!

Mood Boost: String some faux ivy or flowers around your mirror for a dreamy winter garden vibe.

6. Winter Proof Your Hair

Cold air can be harsh on your locks, so show them some extra love. Use a leave-in conditioner and silk scrunchies to keep frizz at bay. Also, hats are a must—but make it chic with a beret or pom-pom beanie!

Hair Flair: Add a touch of glitter spray to your hair for winter nights out—because you deserve to sparkle.

7. Move Your Booty (Even When It’s Cold)

Winter is prime snuggle season, but don’t forget to move! Indoor yoga, dance sessions to your fave playlist, or even a brisk walk in the snow will warm you up and lift your mood.

Motivation Tip: Treat yourself to cute workout gear that doubles as loungewear—because who says comfy can’t be stylish?

8. Channel Your Inner Snow Queen

Winter is all about finding magic in the small things. Go ice skating, snap aesthetic snow pics, or cozy up with a rom-com marathon. Romanticize your life, babe—you’re the main character!

Vibes: Picture yourself twirling in the snow with a fluffy scarf, latte in hand. Dreamy, right?

Winter isn’t just a season—it’s your chance to shine in layers, cozy corners, and all the warm drinks your heart desires. So grab your fuzzy socks, fluffiest blanket, and make this cold weather your most stylish and comfy era yet!

What’s your go-to winter survival tip? Share it below, and let’s spread the cozy vibes!

[lilyprettyremy]

The Glam Life: daily routines for a polished life. 💋

Sunday: Reset & Reflect Start with a deep cleanse—face mask, detox tea, and a peaceful journal session. Reflect on the past week, set intentions for the next, and list three things you’re grateful for. This is your day to unwind, reset, and prep for success.

Monday: Fresh Blowout & Big Shades Start the week strong with a fresh blowout. Smooth, glossy, and ready to conquer. Pair with oversized sunglasses for that mysterious, empowered look. Bring an extra boost by planning a bold outfit that makes you feel invincible.

Tuesday: Brows & Browsing Shape your brows to perfection—it’s a small detail that makes a huge impact on your overall look. Afterward, treat yourself to a quick scroll through your favorite style inspiration, bookmarking anything that makes you feel iconic. Style starts with inspiration.

Wednesday: Mani & Diamond Shine Keep your nails sharp and sophisticated, opting for a classic French or deep red. Slip on a ring or two (or five). Hands tell a story, so make sure yours speak of elegance and confidence. Midweek is the perfect time to touch up on hydration, too—think hand creams and cuticle oils.

Thursday: Exfoliate & Hydrate Buff away the week’s worries with a luxe body scrub, followed by a rich, hydrating body lotion or oil. Glowing, smooth skin radiates confidence, so keep it moisturized and ready to be admired. Pair with a hydrating face mask to keep everything refreshed.

Friday: Glow Serum, Gloss, & Signature Scent Skip the self-tan and reach for a brightening glow serum instead. This will give your skin a fresh, natural radiance that looks effortlessly luminous. Follow with a glossy lip and your signature scent to add allure. Enter the weekend looking polished, radiant, and ready to take on any room with grace and confidence.

Saturday: Active Beauty & Leisure Today, beauty meets movement. Whether it’s a dance class, yoga, or a brisk walk, get active and enjoy the natural glow that follows. Afterward, embrace leisure: light a candle, sip on your favorite drink, and give yourself permission to relax with a facial roller or a nourishing hair mask. You deserve it.

Each day brings a fresh intention and a luxurious touch to keep you feeling powerful and radiant all week long. It's a full week of showing up as your best self—stylish, strong, and completely in your element.

[lilyprettyremy]

The Art of Showing Up for Yourself Every Day

In a world where we’re constantly pulled in all directions, showing up for ourselves is a skill worth mastering. It’s the subtle yet powerful act of prioritizing your well-being, setting boundaries, and building daily rituals that honor who you are. Here’s how to make it happen, one intentional step at a time.

1. Create a Morning Ritual That Sets the Tone

Begin with a simple, calming routine that focuses on grounding yourself. Think of five minutes of mindfulness, stretching, or even sipping your morning coffee without scrolling on your phone. This moment is about aligning your mind with your day—your time to check in with yourself.

2. Set Intentions, Not Expectations

Rather than piling on lofty goals, start each day by setting intentions—small, achievable steps that honor your energy and goals for the day. Intentions like “I will protect my energy,” or “I will be kind to myself” keep you connected to what truly matters.

3. Listen to Your Needs Without Judgment

Some days, showing up means tackling a to-do list; other days, it means giving yourself a break. Listen closely to what you need—whether it’s extra rest, time alone, or time to socialize—and honor it without judgment.

4. Invest in Small Acts of Self-Care

Showing up doesn’t require grand gestures. Simple acts like drinking enough water, making time for skincare, or organizing your space send the message that you value yourself. The key is consistency—building small moments that reinforce self-worth daily.

5. Embrace Gratitude and Reflection at Night

Each night, end your day with a few moments of gratitude and reflection. Acknowledge your efforts and appreciate the small victories, however minor they may seem. This habit builds resilience and makes it easier to show up for yourself again tomorrow.

Showing up for yourself daily is about building a life that feels both empowering and graceful. It’s an art form, crafted by listening to yourself, honoring your needs, and taking small steps toward the best version of you. So here’s to you, showing up with intention and elegance, every day.