Hi. I'm a little nervous about sending you a message. I'm a woman. My husband has started sharing me with other men. I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand, it is the most exciting thing ever, and on the other hand, I feel guilty for liking it so much and wanting more. I also feel guilty that I want some of the men more than my husband because I had no idea sex could feel so good as they make me feel. I am trying to reconcile those feelings. I don't have anyone to talk to, and I'd like to send you a direct message.
I've looked at your blog. I have to say wow! You look like you're living the dream. I'd like to understand how you do this without hurting your husband's feelings or your marriage. Did your husband improve sexually when you started having sex with others? I have noticed that about mine. He has started to successfully give me orgasms, which hasn't always been the case. I have so many questions.
My husband really wants me to fuck one of his friends who is handsome, sexy, and from what I can tell, has a nice surprise in his pants. I haven't told my husband that his friend has hit on me several times. I know if I tell him, he is going to push me hard to do it. I want to do it, but I'm concerned it could ruin things for everyone involved. Have you been in that situation? How did you deal with it? Can you give me some general advice about how you and your husband do this? I love my husband. I feel fortunate that he will let me have sex with other men. I love how it has reignited what had become a dull, routine sex life. I love how alive I feel when other men look at me and desire me. I have a bubbly personality, a great smile, and am curvy in all the right places. I love how they feel on top of me, in me, behind me, and being used. There, I said it. I love being used. Is that how it is for you? I'm shaking right now. Sorry. I really hope you'll answer. I have so many thoughts, feelings, and desires inside me.
Thank you in advance for providing whatever response to what I've sent.
Hi, sorry it took me so long to reply to this 'ask'. I wanted to make sure I had time to give you a thoughtful response. You can definitely send me a direct message anytime. Please be patient with my replies due to the number of messages I receive. Anytime you send additional messages before I reply, it will result in it taking me longer to reply because your new message will put you at the top of my messages. I always go to the oldest messages first and work my way up to the newest ones.
I always tell people that if they have mixed feelings, then they should be cautious about getting into this kind of sexual activity. It's not for everyone. I can't tell you how many guys have told me that they wanted to share their wives, only to get jealous at how much she enjoyed being with another guy. The woman is going to enjoy it if she is attracted to the guy and he does at least a halfway decent job in pleasing her. It gets more intense for her when she knows it's driving her husband mad with lust.
I understand the guilt, but if your husband gets erect, loves that you do it, and doesn't whine about any part of it, gets jealous, or starts to throw it in your face, then you are good. If Mr. C ever threw it in my face that I was enjoying it, I would NEVER do this kind of thing again. It would only take one time for that to happen. I do it because, yes, it's so much fun, but most importantly, it turns him on so much that it enhances our sex life. If he ever showed any signs of not liking it, I would stop immediately. So, as long as your husband is happy, there is no need to feel guilty about it. Also, you are bound to have sex with someone who will scratch the itch better than your husband does. It comes with the territory. This notion that we marry the world's best lover is a fallacy. I know that Joy and some of my girlfriends do things for him that he loves better than me doing it, just like Dominic and a few others do things to me that Mr. C can't replicate. It doesn't make him or me any less of a good lover; it's just that others do things differently. Mr. C and I have an amazing relationship. We have a chemistry and connection that can't be replicated by anyone else, and that's what makes our sex life so enjoyable. Hopefully, if a guy is doing something you like, you communicate it to your husband to try. He might get it, he might not, but it will enhance your sex. He may even try to prove you wrong, just like how Mr. C tries to prove me wrong about how much better others fuck me.
The first time Mr. C asked me about how Dominic was for me, I was hesitant to tell him the complete truth. I wanted to be honest, but at the same time, I didn't want to hurt his feelings. He was very mature about everything and told me he knew Dominic had fucked me like no other. The fact that his cock was extremely rigid made me realize he liked hearing how much better Dominic was. He made me feel safe to be honest with him. I despise dishonesty in a relationship, and Mr. C made it okay for me to not have to tell white lies out of fear of hurting him. I can't tell you how fortunate we are to be in the relationship that we have.
I don't know that Mr. C improved sexually. We had a really great sexual relationship to begin with. He was very attentive to what pleased me and didn't make the fatal mistake that guys do when they sense me having an orgasm, and all of a sudden, they think it's time to go to their power move when, in fact, if they had stuck to what was happening, I would have had an earth-shattering orgasm. If I ask/tell Mr. C I'm about to cum, he will not change up, he will stay on it. Even if he cums, he will keep going until I climax. Now, he did, however, pick up on tips from what the other guys did that I really liked. About 95% of the time, he can replicate what they did, which makes it so much more enjoyable for us. I am so happy to hear that your husband has started to give you orgasms. It shows that you have found something to improve your sex life.
I will tell you about the friend thing, which is a natural evolution of what to do next. Doing this is intoxicating, and you're always looking at what's next. What's even hotter than what you did last time? I also understand mentioning to your husband about a friend hitting on you. Men can't help it. They think with their dicks, and if it's something that will please their cocks, they will want you to do it. I don't say that to be negative or belittle men. They love sex, and if their partner is willing to do things, then they will jump on any possible opportunity to fulfill a fantasy. Mr. C wanted me to fuck a friend. I did it, and it was fun. It didn't cause any problem, but that was back in Colorado. I'm sure his friend told everyone he fucked me after we moved away, and that's okay. We don't have to see any of them again. I would say, do what you're comfortable with. If it feels right, then do it, but drain your husband completely before discussing it. Have a wild sex night where he has cum so much, and then discuss with him about the pros and cons of doing one of his friends. He may still get excited, but at least he might be able to think about it rationally if he can't get hard again.
My general advice for you is this: communication, honesty, and set rules/boundaries. Neither of you should do anything you are not comfortable with. You have to be honest and respect that. Mr. C loves it when I tell him I want to get cock. That's what he prefers the most, or if things just happen. Keep in mind, we do put ourselves in situations where things could happen, but we don't know what. I know you are thinking, how do you put yourselves in those situations. Going to a hotel bar, sex clubs, even out at regular clubs where I am dressed to impress and may be left alone, or we just happen to meet a guy or a group of guys that we end up hanging out with. Sometimes things will result in something very interesting happening, or maybe nothing happens. If I like any of them, we may exchange phone numbers. I have even told a guy I really liked him, pretending my husband was unaware, and exchanged numbers with him to start texting. I don't tell Mr. C until I fuck the guy, or sometimes I'll give him a heads up, see what I did there? 😏😏😏 This will make Mr. C go crazy because he will want me to fuck the guy as soon as possible, lol. Anyway, there are lots of opportunities. There are also dating apps, which my best friend Joy will set things up without my knowledge because she does the same things with her husband as we do.
I am so happy to hear that it has reignited your sex life with your husband. I hope it works out well for both of you. You sound amazing with your bubbly personality. I am sure your husband loves that because men always misinterpret that as overt flirting and wanting to fuck. That is something to use to your advantage. Being curvy in the right places must attract a lot of attention. I'm envious, lol. I am very much like you. I love feeling the weight of a guy on top of me, in me, and being used is so hot. I can't even describe in words properly how much fun it is to be used by random guys who don't care about me other than getting their climax or climaxes. I'm always a willing participant in giving them what they want and need.
Thank you for your questions. I hope I was helpful. I hope you will DM me. I would love to learn more and share any additional insights that may be helpful to you and your husband. 🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️