So, this will probably be my least popular post ever, but here we go.
One thing Iâve noticed since coming here is that a lot of littlesâmost commonly with diaper boys, but certainly not exclusivelyâcan really struggle to find relationships. This kink seems to be lonely in general, but especially for some more intense of you.
And as much as I thought it was probably because it can be a fairly unusual kink to integrate with vanilla partners, I donât think thatâs the biggest issue.
This may sound mean and unfair, but to be honest, it feels like a lot of you are your own worst enemy. At least on tumblr, so many of you cannot seem to respect the few mommies on here, sending aggressive DMs about your diapers and treating them like they exist to make you squirmy. And donât get me started on the wannabe Daddyâs, youâre just as bad.
And even those who understand that women, Mommies especially, donât exist to be their kink dispenser, often struggle with expecting Mommy to be the primary mover of the relationship.
This will sound especially bad, though I know there is far more variance than what Iâm about to say. So do not take this in the most negative light.
But littles are inherently the most selfish subs that exist. They want to have their caregiver check and change their diapers, handle their emotions, control their bedtimes, food, and often sex lives.
Caregivers are expected to handle the emotional labor, most of the physical labor, and create a world where the little gets to enjoy pure bliss.
And that is not inherently bad. Itâs not that Caregivers donât want to give all that for the ones they care about!
The problem is when littles come to expect and demand thatâand donât believe they need to bring anything else to the relationship.
Certainly there are some caregivers that prefer to handle all that, but most people want to be in a relationship first with kink play second.
Based on what Iâve seen, I think too many diaper boys think primarily of what a Mommy/Daddy can do for them. They want a Mommy/Daddy first and relationship second. It doesnât seem to me many think of what thy are bringing to the caregiver except a soggy diaper and demands.
Ask most women in this kink and they will tell you horror stories of diaper boys sending gross and demanding messages. I know that is not all of youâitâs not even most of youâbut it still happens too often.
And even those who wouldnât ever do that, just wait so their Mommy/Daddy in Shining Armor to find them and make all their diaper dreams come true.
I donât know, I want everyone to be happy. But the longer Iâm here the more I think so much of the loneliness isnât necessary.
I know that Iâm going to get a ton of âwell, thatâs not me!â and âWell, actually!â Most will not engage in what Iâm saying or understand that I donât think this applies to a ton of you.
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