its my dumbass again!

this is my reblogs blog for @local-lilz-posts definitely spoilers for homestuck

[h3avylove-deactivated20150526]

becoming an adult cheat sheet!

learn to coupon

what to do when you can’t afford therapy

cleaning your bathroom

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

stress management

quick fix meals

find out if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

resume workshop

organize your closet

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

what you should bring to a doctor’s appointment

what’s a mortgage?

how to pick a health insurance plan

hotlines list

your first gynecology appointment

what to do if the cops pull you over

things to have in your car in case of emergency

my moving out masterpost

how to make friends as an adult (video)

how to do taxes (video)

recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)

change a flat tire (video)

how to do laundry (video)

opening a bank account (video)

laundry cheat sheet

recipes masterpost

tricks to help you sleep more

what the fuck should you make for dinner?

where should you go for drinks?

alcohol: know your limits

easy makeup tips

find seat maps for your flight

self-defense tips

prevent hangovers

workout masterpost

how to write a check

career builder

browse careers

birth control information

financial management software & app (free)

my mental health masterpost

my college applications masterpost

how to jumpstart a car

sex ed masterpost

[sirflodgypodgy]

reblogging for whomever needs it

[apatheticcinaroll]

i needed this like three years ago… BETTER LATE THAN NEVER!

[india-official]

I’m at uni thank fuck for this

[maryland-officially]

hell yeah. @ohio-thestate you’re close to this age, yes? idk when your birthday is. look. how-to guide.

….i felt like tagging someone

[anewfreind]

The only day you can reblog this post

[weirdness-is-good]

[whunt]

me on days when i’m in the lab doing gruesome medical experiments on human subjects

[jacob-the-gun]

Today is the only day you can reblog this.

[marlinspirkhall]

Nothing quite like seeing this on my dash on both April 10th and October 4th

[scalded]

[creature-wizard]

Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

[xpxssxm]

Whether you're carrying one big rock or a big ol' bucket of sand, it's going to weigh on you just as much.

[ramshacklefey]

This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.

After years and years of this, your nervous system gets "stuck" in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like "genuine human connection" and "interpersonal attachment."

[naamahdarling]

No lie, Complex PTSD/CPTSD is HUGE.

If you are disabled, if you are queer, if you are chronically ill, if you are the survivor of a toxic but not abusive relationship, if you grew up or lived under the threat of harm but no "actual" harm (or "very little" harm) was done, you may have CPTSD that isn't getting caught because CPTSD looks different from PTSD.

[thenookienostradamus]

At the risk of falling into a trivialization trap, a lot of things you may not perceive as traumatic actually are. I was embarrassed for a long time in both group and individual therapy to say anything in my childhood was traumatic, because I was sitting with people who had suffered horrible physical or sexual abuse. But here are some things that are, in fact, traumatic and - when they occur over a long period - can set you on a course of maladaptive coping for decades if not addressed:

Being told or shown that your emotions are not valid, that you have no safe place to express them

Parents or caregivers oversharing graphic trauma from their past with you

Threats of physical violence, even if not carried out

Being told or shown that affection or approval is contingent on competency or academic success

Prejudice from inside OR outside the family (homophobia, racism, body shame)

Mocking or dismissal of things that are meaningful to you

If you constantly feel unworthy, afraid, ashamed, or even flat and emotionless, it's worth exploring why. And, because you've been so consistently undermined and minimized, you may feel like a fraud for being upset or functioning poorly. You're not a fraud; it's years of conditioning telling you "I should be able to handle this" or "lots of people are worse off than I am so I shouldn't complain." Your conditioned brain is lying to you; you won't be able to open yourself to the joy of trusting relationships with others OR do meaningful things to help those who are worse off until you do the work to melt the block of ice surrounding you. All my love to you, friends.

[lunahorizon]

Pete Walker is a therapist that's been on the cutting edge of this for many years, and he has a website here with plenty of free resources. (Just straight PDFs of parts of his books!)

Also, his books are not that expensive, well-written, and truly helped me process a lot of my trauma. I did a ton of it alone because I couldn't find a therapist for years, and those books (complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving & the tao of fully feeling) really changed the trajectory of my life.

He talks about grieving, about changing our internal dialogue to one that's positive instead of negative, talks about SEVERAL trauma typologies, and more.

As someone who has been diagnosed with the big trauma PTSD but most of their problems were coming from the little stuff that was CONSTANT and made me run on 2000% all day every day, this guy is a lifesaver. I'm so different from how I was before, especially with the help of some in-person therapy. Finding the right person makes all the difference, truly.

You can pick up his books on the website, but if you're looking for resources on this and you have the space and support to be able to do some of your own work (please don't do it completely alone unless you must) check out the sidebar over at pete-walker.com. He made this incredible resource that not everyone knows about and I try to share it where this comes up.

Thank you for informing people about this.

[creature-wizard]

Reblogging for the additional info and resources, and to emphasize that the C does indeed stand for "complex," not "chronic." (Understandable that people would get mixed up, though.)

[ftmtftm]

I think that White people, especially White trans people, who want to talk about Black Feminists should actually study the racialized nature of gender. The way that manhood and womanhood are denied and hyperapplied to People of Color and those of racialized ethnicities.

The way that East Asian men are emasculated and denied manhood, the way East Asian women are objectified and hyper sexualized, the way that Black men are hyper sexualized and hyper masculinized, the way Black women are also uniquely hyper sexualized and hyper masculinized, the way that SE Asian men are seen as dirty sexual predators, the way SE Asian women are fetishized and treated as oriental decoration, the way Indigenous men are completely denied manhood and gender as an extension of personhood, the way Indigenous women are stolen and silenced, the way ethnically Jewish men are seen as impotent non-humans, the way Jewish women are treated as monstrous and abrasive, it goes on it goes on.

These are unique positions that people of these demographics experience at the intersections of their races and genders that are not experienced by white gender conformity.

It's like a bare minimum anti-racist feminist understanding of gender and its use as a tool of white supremacy that is required if you are White and are going to start throwing around the names of Black Feminists I think.

[wolfkinsanya]

terezi has acne all over its face and would be caught dead before wearing a bra and pulls its lip up really far when it smiles so its gums are exposed and its hair is messy and greasy half the time

[wolfkinsanya]

and it is fucking FAT!!!

[ursaspecter]

🌓 halfmoonhorror Follow

wtf i'm literally shaking and crying right now i just saw silver bullets for sale on temu why the fuck are there silver bullets on temu

🪢 knotexplosion Follow

Hey. Hey. Look at me. Do you genuinely believe Temu of all places is going to have genuine sterling silver bullets for sale? TEMU. Wish and Shein's bastard child?

🌓 halfmoonhorror Follow

they had wooden stakes on there too i'm actually fearing for my and my partner's lives right now

🦇 count-fuckula Follow

Yeah I bought some wooden stakes from Temu and they broke instantly. I wasn't even using any force to put them in my lawn as it rained quite recently. I wouldn't worry too much about any silver bullets you find. They're probably just silver plated.

🍖 roadkill-meatloaf Follow

Can confirm- Temu silver isn't real and can't hurt us. I bought a bunch of silver jewelry off there because I can't afford anything the legitimate stores are selling and when I tried them they barely even burned. Not worth it.

🍯 bearly-hanging-on Follow

Why on earth would you, a werewolf, buy silver jewelry???

🍖 roadkill-meatloaf Follow

well for me it's a sex thing.

🪢 knotexplosion Follow

Why would you voluntarily wear jewelry from Temu? Did you at least sanitize it first???

🍖 roadkill-meatloaf Follow

Uh... I licked it first. Werewolf saliva can disinfect surfaces right?

🪢 knotexplosion Follow

YOU WHAT

🦇 count-fuckula Follow

Oh my g-d just because werewolf saliva can make your wounds heal faster doesn't mean it works miracles!!!

🪢 knotexplosion Follow

Wait how would you know that?

🦇 count-fuckula Follow

@.daddy-fenris is not the brightest sometimes.

🌕 daddy-fenris Follow

oh my god IT WAS ONE TIME why do you have to put me on blast right now

🦇 count-fuckula Follow

The world needs to know. Roadkill please go see a doctor or a vet or something.

🌓 halfmoonhorror Follow

i feel like this is taking away from the real issue at paw

🪢 knotexplosion Follow

Can't you see we're having a conversation here?

🌓 halfmoonhorror Follow

IT'S MY POST???

🍖 roadkill-meatloaf Follow

Not anymore it's not

[dragongirlsweetie]

honestly i was like 100% against generative ai until other people against generative ai started talking like conservatives and nazis

[dragongirlsweetie]

"woww your're so lazy and you can't do anything and it's turning you ret- i mean stupid and irreversibly tainting your brain" "art can only be made by the human Soul, which is Real, and so important and art that does not have this Soul is terrible and worthless and degenera- i mean uhhh. it's bad" "*straight up just real life white supremacist slogans except they swap out words for made-up robot slurs*"

ohhhh my god please shut up shut up shut up stop talking now. do not say another fucking word. oh my god. what is wrong with you people. if you do not have a materialist argument to contribute to the conversation then please do not ever open your mouth on this subject again thank you

[republicansexscandals]

All the assault allegations against Donald Trump, recapped

Their charges range from an unwanted touch from behind to aggressive, sudden kissing to fingers groping up their skirt and into their underw

Please share liberally.

[jilli1205]

Reference material and facts for those who feel truth matters.

[daysleftofsecondterm]

1,260 days left

[cpericardium]

[robogirldick]

i think the pushback against this post is kinda missing the point, op is not saying 'this is how all trans girls should be', she is saying 'this is how alot of us end up coping with how we are treated' this isnt blahaj and kneesocks posting

[sexhaver]

you'd think "Rosa Sparks" would maybe prompt some introspection here

[rigormortem]

I hate (generative) AI as much as the next person but if You go around using those "Slurs for AI/Robots" I don't trust you because You just really really really want to be racist and say slurs without consequences because it's just a "Funny Joke"

[relaxxattack]

so funny that i keep seeing posts claiming "it's actually NOT transmisogynistic to write thousands of paragraphs about how a transfem is a disgusting, evil man, emphasizing the word man hundreds of times, specifically also using the masculine terms king and alpha and perverted dominator, comparing her to male villains in fiction, and then conclude that she somehow abused you (despite having never spoken to you)-- stop throwing the word transmisogynistic around!"

just soooo funny. i'm laughing really hard.

[plushiekush-deactivated20250830]

white ppl will steal every aesthetic from black culture and then call it something so stupid like bo derek braids instead of box braids or hasbin hotel core instead of black southern dandism. yall will bend over backwards to call my culture barbaric/scary just to drool over the aesthetic the moment no actual black people are involved (21 pilots vs actual reggae). And if ur white/nonblack reading this just reblog. I dont need any comments talking about how not racist you are + speaking up over actual black people.

[wolfkinsanya]

glimpse into my sick and twisted mind