Long Distance Feels

Story of a queer in a long distance relationship and all the feels that go along with it. Check out my sex ed blog at whenitcomesup.tumblr.com!

[longdistancefeels]

Update?

Not sure what’s compelling me to write this (probably procrastinating) but. If there’s anyone out there that still uses this platform AND somehow still follows this account... we got engaged! we did it y’all. Seven years. We did long distance twice (once long after this account went dormant) and will hopefully never need to do it again.

[finnwolfhards]

this is superior humor

[duke-chainsaw]

I have some to add:

[longdistancefeels]

Hello! So I uh have been planning to visit my boyfriend this year or early next year and trying to get money and get my passport and all that fun stuff, he lives in Canada and I live in the states and I was wondering.. Do you have any first meeting tips? I'm so so nervous about this kinda thing and don't want to mess it up if I get to go.

That’s exciting! Congratulations on planning to take your LDR to the next level!

Okay, so, here’s some advice for a first meeting (of course, everyone and every relationship is different, so take this with a grain of salt):

1. I say this all the time, but make sure someone knows where you are, who you’re with, when they can check in and when you’ll be back. This is a generally good safety tactic. 

2. When I’m nervous, I like to have something to fall back on. For instance, if I’m afraid conversation won’t go well, I have a backup plan for something that doesn’t require a lot of conversation (going to the movies/an art gallery/somewhere quiet is great for this). Plus, afterward you’ll have something to chat about!

3. You’re basically traveling with the bonus of a built-in international love affair. Plan to see the sites, romantic afternoons in coffee shops, a fun dinner date. Do some research on your boyfriend’s city/town or what’s nearby and have fun with it! 

4. If you’re like me, some domestic time is also great. Plan to make dinner together at home, do “normal couple” things like grocery shopping and doing the dishes or watching a movie or tv show at home together.

5. Take a deep breath. Not everything needs to be perfect and a good partner will understand this. There will be some awkward moments, but moments are passing. Let yourself have fun with it!

6. Have a worst-case scenario backup plan. If you’ve never met before, there’s always a chance that things could go sideways. Know how to get out quickly and safely or have a place you can go (i.e. a hostel) so you’re not completely dependent on this person. If things go awry, make sure that you have a contact (i.e. your best friend in the world or a family member) that you can talk to about it. It may be embarrassing, but this is not about pride, it’s about your safety.

Anyway, I hope this helps! Good luck anon!

[longdistancefeels]

Do you mind sharing my story ? I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Tyler for a year now he lives in Schenectady, NY and I live in Savannah, Georgia we met on Facebook we were friends for two years prior to dating the distance between us is 958. 2 miles this guy never fails to put a smile on my face and I'm seeing him in 67 days 💞💍💞💍💞 😍😘😍

[longdistancefeels]

Hey :) I met this amazing girl on tumblr about 6 months ago and I really like her. The problem is that she lives in The U.S. and I live in Japan. We are also both 15. Do you think it would be possible for us to date?

The simplest answer I can give you is this:

Almost everything is possible and almost nothing’s a guarantee.

Good luck anon!

[longdistancefeels]

I'm meeting my boyfriend next week and I am so excited. Do you have any tips for the time until we meet? It feels like years.

You’re in the home stretch! At this point, just hang in there, think about all the great things you’ll do and count down the days!

Good luck!

[longdistancefeels]

How far apart are you and your partner?

We actually live in the same city (and with each other roughly half the time) and have been since December. It takes roughly an hour and a half for me to get to her place from mine. Before that we were considerably further apart, I think over 1000k.

[longdistancefeels]

I have a boyfriend in Ireland whom I've never met (I live in U.S.), I've never felt like this before. He's just great, I can't explain how happy he makes me. My friends like to call him my "internet boyfriend" which I don't like, I feel that they should respect him as my partner and just simply call him by his name. I say that we're long distance but she denies it saying that if we've never met its not long distance, and it's just an online boyfriend. Is it?

“Online boyfriend” has “boyfriend” in the title, doesn’t it? 

I’d say if you and your boyfriend think it’s real, it’s real. End of story.

[longdistancefeels]

Would you consider living in different countries long distance? Never meeting before? Would it be love?

Would I personally consider a long distance relationship with someone I’d never met who lived in a different country? It’s honestly hard to say because I haven’t been in that situation. Also, for me personally, it would be really hard to develop feelings for someone that I’d never met in person (even if I’d met them once, say on holiday, it would be a very different story). 

I’m guessing that your question stems from the world of tumblr relationships and online dating. Though I don’t think that this particular method (never meeting, then entering an international long distance relationship) would work for me, I have no doubt that it would work for someone else. 

Now, for your last question, as to whether or not it would be love, is extremely subjective depending on the situation and the people involved. I’m a strong believer in the fact that love can happen anywhere to anyone regardless of extenuating circumstances. Does this mean that it definitely, 100%, would be love? Not necessarily.  Long story short, just because you’re in a long distance relationship with someone whom you’ve never met, it isn’t automatically disqualified from being love. It could very possibly be, and it could very possibly not. 

Hope that answers your question!

[longdistancefeels]

Long distance feel #76

missing your partner the instant after you part

[longdistancefeels]

I just feel like I need to say this to someone because but my boyfriend lives an hour and half away and it's our first Valentine's together and my parents were nice enough to let me see him I'm very happy

That’s great!

I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s day!

[longdistancefeels]

Long distance feel #75

just wanting to fucking kiss and not being able to

[longdistancefeels]

Long distance feel #74

(to the tune of Rhianna)

I fell in love in a hopeless place we fell in love with too much space

[baconnnnnnn]

I can’t wait

[longdistancefeels]

How long have you two been together? Seeing you two and seeing that you just closed the distance is really inspiring and gives me hope in seeing my relationship eventually closing the distance

This is a complicated and long winded answer that basically boils down to kinda five years, but officially a year and a couple months. (I can explain that if you’d like, but that’s the easiest way to put it) Either way, it’s the longest relationship I’ve ever been in, and I’m extremely happy to be in it. :)

Thanks for following! Best of luck with your relationship - plan for an eventual end to the distance, it really is worth it!

[longdistancefeels]

How can you be an hour and a half apart but in the same city... Lol

Hah, mostly just bad public transport

[longdistancefeels]

Do you have tips on dealing with the emotions after the first visit when you've left and you're both distant again?

Oooooh, that’s the worst.

Honestly. It sucks and there’s no way around that.

What I’ve found helps: -planning your next visit-busying yourself with things you enjoy (i.e. reading, movies, friends/anything social, good long baths)-being kind to yourself-talking/texting/messaging/skyping/etc your partner (better yet, talk to them about all the great times you just had together! relive those memories - they’ll carry you through to your next visit!)

Be creative, you know how to take care of yourself better than anyone else.

Good luck!