Online Dating: Top 5 Ways to Initiate a Conversation
It is difficult to create a perfect opening message. Anything more exciting than “Hey” or "How's it going?" is an accomplishment.
Getting the conversation started isn't even the hardest part anymore - keeping it going is. It can be difficult to initiate a conversation with a total stranger, especially if you are not used to such encounters, or if you consider yourself to be quiet or introverted.
Asking the right questions and saying the right things will determine whether a relationship will lead to an in-person date. Consequently, we designed a little survey to determine which phases of conversation made people want to talk further.
In a survey, members of Lovebuzz, an up-and-coming free online dating site, were asked — “What was the pick line that got you talking?”
Quite varied responses poured in from all around. Here are the top 5 responses:
1. A professional connection -
Users of online dating apps noted that one conversation that always worked in their favour was showing an interest in the job. Let someone know if you think their career is noteworthy! Maybe they're a Youtuber, or a blogger, or even an NGO volunteer. Whatever the case may be, appreciating someone is a good way to initiate communication. There are better chances of getting a reply to such a message.
Client’s reference:
i) “Hey Priya, Fashion Designer! How cool is that job? What inspired you to pursue design?”
ii) “Author Siddharth! That's quite a profession! Developing characters and writing stories must be fun, right? As a bookworm, I love reading new stories. Let’s connect?”
iii) “What's up, petroleum engineer? I have to admit that I am quite intrigued! Well! Smriti here! Developer who wants to know everything about everything. So, what do Petroleum Engineers do?”
2. Appreciate Creative Bio -
Based on our survey, complementing a bio was the second-most frequently observed conversation leading to some starter. People spend a lot of time crafting a bio that speaks well of them and looks impressive. Recognizing their efforts on bio is often effective, always! It not only shows your interest in the person but also gives you a reason to take a lead without sounding desperate.
Client’s reference:
i) Bio - Workaholic by day, party animal by night! Response -
Your description of yourself has been so well expressed in just a few words! I'm blown away! About me- I am a man of few words, who loves to work smart and party wild. Let’s connect?”
ii) Bio - 3 things I can't live without — bike, dog, travel.
“Hey! I think we have a lot in common! Besides being a boho gal, I'm a Retriever mom. However, my love is not limited to a particular breed of dog. We should talk. I think we might click!”
3. Keeping up with Humour -
Girls love humour. Six out of ten girls say humour is their major turn-on. You can send someone a hilarious opening line, but if someone's profile made you laugh, tell them! All the more reason for you to strike up a conversation.
It is interesting to note that according to statistics, someone with humour is more likely to respond to you regardless of your looks or bio.
A funny opening line gets noticed easily and makes the best impression. Despite this, we ranked it third since not everyone is a quick wit. In light of this, rough humour might trigger a spam report or block. Be careful!
Client’s reference:
i) A guy in his geek glass Avtaar on the Lovebuzz stole my heart with this - “They say a good opening line is vital to initiate a conversation. Despite wanting to speak to you, I don't have the strongest opening line. Here’s my opening line, please consider ____________________. ;) P.S. I will always have something to say when I have nothing to say!”
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4. Dig deeper -
Check out the profile in detail and see if there is anything that interests you or you have in common. A deeper look at your profile will not only help you understand compatibility with the other person but also offer you plenty of conversation starters. A bio limit leads to people adding more information to their profiles, from place check-ins to hobbies and interests.
Thanks to lovebuzz, compatibility isn't a concern. A great feature of the Lovebuzz dating app is the 5-question daily compatibility test that gives you the best matches in advance. Thus, suggest the people on your profile who share your interests. Therefore, many topics are common.
Client’s reference:
1) "I noticed the collection of series you have watched. Wow! Do you have a favourite series?”
ii) “Wow, I’ve never been bungee jumping before, must be a wild experience?”
iii) “Ironman Triathlon! Now that is something I want to do. I am a marathon runner. Would love to hear about your triathlon experience!”
5. Pop a question -
Several Lovebuzz members said they fall for the profile picture but the bio does not have enough information to start a conversation, while the other profile information is hidden. In such cases, this is the best response to give, received by some of our Lovebuzz App users that quickly got them a response.
Client’s reference:
i) “I love watching. What does your ideal movie night look like? Chick Flick vs. Rom-Com; Popcorn vs. Nachos; Theater vs. Couch.”
ii) Foodie friend here! If you could eat only one meal again for the rest of your life, what would it be?"
Since we have spoken about the top 5 conversation starter that does the trick, we would also like to share some outdated messages that are serious turn-offs, as per various Lovebuzz users!
1. As much as we all love a compliment on our looks or profile picture, starting a conversation with a compliment on a profile picture feels too outdated and lazy to some. While there are a few who also appreciate it. Yet try to avoid these cheesy lines that make you look, wannabe.
“Hey you, pretty eyes.”
“Hi, You have the best smile in the world. Want to connect?”
“Hey! You look like someone I know. Let’s chat?”
2. Too simple messages that look effortless are total turn-oof and gets zero response whatsoever.
“Hey there!”
“Hey, wazzup?”
“Hi, Let’s talk!”
To know more of these conversation phase turn-offs, visit the lovebuzz blog and read —
9 Worst Conversation Phase Turn Offs During Online Dating
Still not sure about joining a dating app due to privacy concerns? Well! We have that sorted for you too. Lovebuzz takes an oath that your conversation is yours and we will not leak your identity or chats for even a zillion million dollars. To top it, Lovebuzz also offers the Avtaar option as a profile picture, so that you do not need to worry about being awkward bumps with your cousins or relatives.
So, HAPPY DATING with Lovebuzz!