it’s all “accidental hand touch” this and “brief longing gaze” that, where’s my support at for “reaching up and fixing someone’s collar for them” crew??
the intimacy disguised as helpfulness! the lingering contact! the optional subdued “you look nice” as they stand too close!!
expand your pining vocabulary people
Some of my favorite pining/love languages I wish people would use instead of “longing gazes” and “brief touches that make his heart race”:
• bringing food / coffee, unprompted (bonus: remembering how the other prefers their order be made despite never being directly told, they just remember)
• pep talks. “Hey, you’ve got this.” “You’re gonna knock it out of the park.” “Come on, you’re the best person for this job, are you kidding?” “I’m rooting for you.” “Don’t sell yourself short, you’re incredible.”
• making each other laugh, especially in times where one might need it most; not all pining needs to be serious all the time. smiling and laughter is so sexy, and so intimate. joke around, goof off, have them do the stupidest thing in the world just for shits and giggles, just because they can
• car rides. “do you need a ride?” “You can come, if you’d like.” “I’m heading that way anyway.” “I can show you around town.” I mean, come on, do I even need to explain why this one is good?
• gonna 100% double down on clothing. fixing collars, ties, sleeve cuffs. straightening wrinkles. dusting them off. helping them wipe/clean a stain. handing them their hat/coat. leveling a name tag. offering a napkin so they can clean their glasses.
• teaching them something / learning together. a fact about space. a fact about themselves. a place they’ve never seen. a skill like cooking, driving stick shift, playing an instrument. a book they’ve never read. watching a movie they didn’t know existed.
