I’ve made posts like this half a dozen times by now I think, but it bears repeating:
If a cast member, a character, an anything, about a show makes you viscerally angry, you need to take a step back and reconsider if you should continue watching the show. If you’re seeking out posts about a cast member, a character, a ship, or anything else to rile yourself up while you send hate to the people who posted it, you need to consider if you’re doing this as a form of self-harm. Because that’s one type of it. And next, you need to consider why you’re wasting energy on strangers when you could instead seek help for your anger issues.
No member of the cast needs “defending” from their best friends. If they ever had an issue between them, they would deal with it quietly and off camera. They are adults and you don’t know them. Parasocial relationships do not mean you can tell their off-screen relationships that you never see. No one is sending you coded hints about their discomfort. You don’t know them and they’re not your friends.
Take time away from engaging with a show, a fandom, media in general if you’re taking it this far. Don’t harass people online or in real life. Spending your free time dedicated to posting anger and hate will only hurt you most in the long run. Take a breath. Move on.
