Kids & adults - no one is safe from social media conflict
While bullying was once reserved to the playground, it is now an issue that comes home in the school backpack. Mean, vengeful, cruel acts â whether emotional, or physical, can be considered bullying if they are aggressive, repetitive and highlight imbalance of power (Boyd 2014).
With access to networked devices, cyberbullying becomes a major concern for children and the effects can be devastating, resulting in mental health issues e.g. anxiety and depression, and in severe cases, suicide. Youth suicide rates have doubled over the past ten years, with statistics showing that students who are bullied are nine times more likely to attempt or contemplate suicide (No Bullying 2017).
Teenagers dub it âdramaâ which Boyd and colleagues describe as âperformative, interpersonal conflict that takes place in front of an active engaged audience, often on social mediaâ (Boyd 2014, pp. 138). As identity and social circles are forming, status and popularity become key elements to the social self in the school environment, and it is not surprising that nastiness and bullying arise to upset power balance (Boyd 2014).
Unfortunately, it seems it takes another tragedy before cyberbullying comes to the fore again and campaigns are activated. #DoItForDolly, a campaign encouraging people to âspeak out, even if your voice shakesâ and seek help to stop cyberbullying, was created after the terribly sad passing of 14 year-old Amy Everett who took her own life after months of cyberbullying (OâBrien 2018). Social media devices accentuate the reach and also immortalise the harmful content, yet because the wounds arenât physical, silent suffering can be more dangerous. Raising awareness is important, but understanding motives and behaviours behind it more so.
Public Shaming â âthink before you tweetâ
Children are not the only ones affected by social media conflict. Public shaming is one such example that can parallel the âdramaâ behaviours of teens.
As a millennial growing up in a digital world, âThink before you tweetâ, & âdonât post something you wouldnât want your grandma to seeâ became engrained in my internet habits, as a reminder to be cautious when posting online. There are countless stories of quick fingers posting too quickly and the repercussions, although partly brought on by themselves, can be excessive and harmful. Famous Australian swimmer, Stephanie Rice, lost many sponsors and credibility over a homophobic Rugby tweet to her thousands of followers, damaging her reputation, tarnishing her image, not to mention earning her haters and trolls (AAP 2010). On a much wider scale and for a lesser-known person, the case of Lindsey Stone, exemplifies the harm and uncontrollable spread that one âstupid photoâ of her joking around in front of a war memorial can do. Lindseyâs friend posted a photo on Facebook and tagged her. Within hours it had been commented on, shared and gone viral in a series of angry posts that even lead to a Facebook page being created to get her fired from her job. Within a day, Lindsey had lost the respect of her family, friends, colleagues and lost her job, which resulted in a year-long bout of depression she is still recovering from (Ronson 2015).
It was disrespectful and silly to post it online, but should she have received this treatment that lead to her depression? Public shaming in this context is anger-driven, but there are many instances where it is much more light-hearted and people are turned into laughing stock and memes without us realising the harm it may causing them. Think before your tweet, but maybe think before you share tooâŠ
AAP 2010, âStephanie Rice in trouble over homophobic tweetâ, Sydney Morning Herald, viewed 19 January <http://www.smh.com.au/sport/swimming/stephanie-rice-in-trouble-over-homophobic-tweet-20100905-14wb9.html>
Boyd, D, 2014, âBullying: Is social media amplifying meanness and crueltyâ in Itâs Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, Yale University Press pp. 130-152
No Bullying 2017, âBullying and Suicide statistics US, Australia and New Zealandâ, No Bullying, viewed 12 January 2018 <Â https://nobullying.com/suicide-statistics/>
OâBrien, K, 2018, âDolly Everett: Mourners gather to remember girl following suiced over alleged bullyingâ, ABC, viewed 18 January <http://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-01-12/dolly-everett-memorial-in-katherine/9323118>
Ronson, J, 2015, âOvernight, everything I loved was goneâ: the internet shaming of Lindsey Stoneâ, The Guardian, viewed January 12 <https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/feb/21/internet-shaming-lindsey-stone-jon-ronson>